I feel that my dad is always angry at me and it causes me to focus on the bad in life. What should I do?
I am a dad.I have a 17 year old son.I love him dearly and will do anything in my power to keep him happy protected and on the safest, most successful path in the world.He thinks I am always angry at him. I am not.He has crap timing, he chooses to challenge me on random topics when I am tired or distracted doing other things, he interprets what to another adult is understandable irritability as ‘being angry at him’.He asks my opinion or advice on subjects then tells me my answers are all wrong, and interprets that as ‘being angry at him’.He has dark moods associated with being a teenager, I try to cheer him up with some good ol’ dad jokes, he calls me a dick and decides I am ‘being angry at him’.He spends hours telling me all about the jobs he is going to do now that he has withdrawn from college, when my frustration forces me to point out that he hasn't actually applied for any job in two weeks he interprets this as me ‘being angry at him’.When I suggest that he follow up on some of the job options he flagged several weeks ago he complains that I am ‘being angry at him’.I really am not angry at or with him. I am frustrated, disappointed, sad, dejected, I feel I am failing as a father.He is displaying none of the natural drive I thought he had only a year or two ago and I really don’t know how to help him any more than I have or do. I do understand that this is mostly due to the stage of life he is in and that we will get through it eventually but it is bloody hard just now.The very worst of it is that he thinks I am angry with him all the time, when I’m not.I cant do much more about our relationship than I already have but maybe you can take some of this on board and change the way you look at your fathers ‘always angry with me’.I hope it helps in some small way.
Why are the bio moms always jealous of the stepmom?
I'm 14, a girl and my bio mom is very jealous of my relationship with my stepmom. She always says bad things about my stepmom and dad infront of me. My stepmom and me get along very well. My dad and stepmom have been married for about a year. I'm closer to my stepmom then my real mom. She's so much nicer and actually cares about me.Why is my mom jealous of her so much?
Why does my mom always freak out over nothing?
I think with your dad being away, your mom feels lonely and misses him. She's unhappy about it, and I feel like she's using you as an outlet of her anger. I know your bitter and don't feel like doing anything for her, but maybe do something really nice to make her feel appreciated and loved. Make a nice dinner or buy her flowers. Ask her if shed like to get out and do something and spend some mother/son time together. I don't think she's crying because of you. I think she's just sad. Maybe even depressed. Maybe there's a lot more going on in her life than you know. She could be stressed. Again, your her outlet. And I think she realizes that and feels bad, causing her to be more upset. Just be there for her and try to do something nice. Good luck!
Can anyone help me to forget my step sister!?
I'm Sorry. Give her space, let her know that what she is doing hurts you, and then try to talk to your mother, your teacher, or a friend, and ask them for help because you feel sad all the time. Tell them why. If you are still upset, you can call 911, and talk to the police, they are helpful and care about you. Life isn't fair sometimes, it's not your fault that your father died and it's not your sister's fault either, part of growing up is that we get hard things thrown at us and we have to find a way to deal with them. The problem is sometimes when we don't know what to do we can hurt ourselves by making bad choices, or blaming our problems on other people or even ourselves when it's not even our fault. Don't hate your sister, try to talk to her, and hope that she will come around but remember that you can't change people, only they can change themselves. Good luck, you are a strong girl.
I grew up without a father in my life, just my mother and me, this has made me feel worthless and angry, how will I ever be happy?
How can growing up with your mother make you worthless? You are priceless to your mother. You are worthy of all the blessings that God has given you. By using quora, I am assuming that you have a good internet connectivity and good education. Does that not make you worthy to apply for a good job?Think about children who do not have a mother or father. Think about those kids who have both and get abused. Think about children who has to stay away from parents due to work or any other reasons. You are blessed to have atleast a mother near you.Now, not having a father is not your fault neither your parents fault. Consider that living together with parents who do not love each other is better than living with a single parent. In the first case all three would be sad and irritated at life. In your case only you are irritated :)Now coming to the anger part. You are angry because you never could understand what it means to have a father. You are angry because you cannot enjoy the protection of a father. You are angry because you feel something missing which your friends have. You are right. You have every reason to be angry.But, will anger solve the problem? Your problem is not being happy. Will anger make you happy? So, what could make you happy? Just accepting the fact that this how you were born might make you happy. Accepting the fact that you could be the hope for your mother might make you happy. If you does not know who your father is, then forgiving him for not being there for you makes you happy. Understand the fact that some things are not in your control and it is these things that define the kind of human you are. If you are a good human, that would make you happy. If you could make any of your friends smile, you can be happy. If you could make your mother happy, you can be happy. Do one good deed daily, you can be happy.Stop complaining about your circumstances which are not in your control. Think how you can turn these circumstances into a blessing. Lead a worthy life and be respected by everyone instead of staying angry and getting ignored by everyone.You will be happy when you realize the love around you - those that you have spread and those that are coming back to you.
My step daughter assaulted me?
My step daughter, who is 13 yrs old is a disuptive and generally, unsatisfied child. My partner has 4 children and she is the eldest. She constantly disrupts the family weekend, and spoils it for the other 3. It got that bad last november that, she and i had an arguement, and i told her that she was spoilt and very selfish child. She responded by hitting me and i automatically hit her back. I regreted it straight away, and as soon as her dad had taken her home, i contacted the police to confirm the situation and what had happened. Then hedr and her mum had me arrested for assault, even though, she had admitted hitting me first. I went into shock, and this has left me very ill. After being taken to the cells,formally arrested and kept there for 4 hours, i was told all charges had been dropped. I fainted. The chidrens mum, now refuses to let the children near me, saying is not safe for them, and my partner now has to see them on his own. i'm have nightmares over this and cant go on.
Why does my stepson get mad at me for having sex with his mom, my wife?
I am 40 years old and newly married, my stepson is 17 and he really hates me. When I am having sex with his mother he gets angry. He walks around slamming doors in my house. I tell her to keep it down but what can I do she is a screamer and have to have sex. After I had sex with her one night I put on my robe to grab a drink. He was standing in the kitchen huffing and puffing. He was posturing like he was going to fight me. He walked into our room without knocking once and seen his mother on her knees going at it. He slammed my bedroom door and blasted his music. This little f uck is about to find himself homeless.