My family likes my sisters baby more than mine?
i know this might seem silly to some of you, but i'm a middle child, and i've always felt like my family (mainly my dad, my grandma and my aunt, (all on my dads side of the family) have always liked my older sister more than me. its bothered me a little my whole life, but now that i am pregnant with a little girl, i just KNOW that my baby is gonna be treated different than my sisters daughter (my 3 year old niece) i just dont ever want my daughter to feel like everyone likes her cousin more than her... some examples of what i am talking about are: - when my sister announced that she was pregnant, every one was so excited for her.. but when i told everyone i was pregnant, no one told me "congratulations" or anything. -when my sister was pregnant, they threw a suprise party for her and invited everyone over for dinner and my aunt took her to get a pedicure and nails done. no one ever did any of that for me.. - she also got 2 suprise baby showers and TONS of baby gifts. i am due in 3 weeks and no one ever threw a baby shower for me. does any one else have this problem? how do you deal with it? \ its not like my family is rude to me at family gatherings, and nothing has ever happened in the past for them to be mad at me, they just like my sister more and im sure they aren't going to treat my baby as good as they treat my niece
My sister is prettier than me and it's killing my self-esteem. What should I do?
I should go ahead and say my sister is also prettier than me. And it used to give me a bitter taste in my mouth.I am the youngest one in my family, and as siblings, we look after each other. Well, normally the elder ones were in charge and had the responsibility to protect and provide the younger.So since I was a child, I was bitchy and demanding and I wanted things to go my way, including people’s affection.Everything went well my way for first couple years of my life, until I came to an age to realize who is the prettiest of all. I still tried to fool myself that I was still the best, and the most beautiful, and that’s why I am my mom’s favorite child. But that trick did not work so well with outsiders.My sister is astonishingly beautiful and everyone liked her. All the boys in schools and college. She had many male friends came to the house and hung out. Some of them were handsome too. And all of their attention went to my sister.I didn’t take that so well.I was jealous with her look. I tried to get people’s attention. I hoped my sister’s male friends liked me more than her. When they were trying to talk to my sister, I jumped into the conversation and started talking, trying to make them like me.I pretended that I didn’t care about her followers. I also acted mean to my sister. I hated the fact that I had no follower while she had a bunch of them. I hated the fact that she didn’t need to try so hard but people still liked her. I hated that she was a ball of joy, while I was grumpy the whole time.I wish I could tell you somehow I figured it out and I started to treat her well, but in fact I didn’t. Not until I grew up and I managed to nurture myself and my self-esteem.My sister is still breathtakingly beautiful, but she didn’t have a good marriage. She divorced and is a single mom while I am living happily with my husband. I feel sad for her.You see, if you love yourself enough, you will not need to worry about people’s affection. And you will not even care about the look. It is not about how pretty you are, but it is about how happy you are.Enjoy your time with your sister, feel happy for her pretty look while you still can. And DO NOT think about yourself as the uglier, which reduces your self-esteem as you are doing right now. Focus on what you have, build your confidence and knowledge.You are loved. You are pretty. And you know it.It starts with you.
Help!I hate my sister!!?
Holy cow! Be happy your not an orphan. All little sisters will have their ups and downs, trust me, I have the most bratty ones (not one! Oness) ever conceived. Ps I stopped reading that after 1/4 of it. It's just a rant.
My husbands brothers wife hates me?
My good god I feel your frustration! This is a very very difficult situation that needs to be dealt with carefully or else things could be said that make things even worse (if this is even possible). I think it's very obvious here that your sister in law is extremely jealous of you and so much so that she can't even stand to know you because it pains her inside which is the sign of a very unhappy person so you must pity her as hard as that may be. My mum has had a difficult time with her sister in law in the past. We hardly ever see them now it was that bad. Basically she put on this sweet girl act before marrying my uncle then BAM as soon as they were married and had a baby she was a selfish rude b*tch to my mum yet she manages to still put on a show in front of my grandparents and all the other family at family gatherings etc even though she b*itches about them all behind their backs constantly. My mum has given up and doesn't give her the time of day any more. Just sad because everything's so fake now and things shouldn't be like that. I think if you feel you know your mother in law wouldn't turn against you for telling her this, go right ahead as it would make you feel that bit better knowing someone else is on your side and knows what she has done to you. No one should have to put up with this but woman can be cruel. I hope you are able to talk to your husband about this. If so is he close enough to his brother to maybe bring it up with him? Only you know the people in your family well enough to know who can take things ok. Just remember that she is a miserable person who isn't happy and you are a much better person than her. Rise above and try not to worry too much because it's never good to waste your energy or people who don't deserve it! Good luck, hope things look up in the future.
My sister treats me like her slave?
I'm 15, and my sister is 23, and she's constantly treating me like her slave. Almost daily, she's too lazy to do most things she can clearly do herself. She'll call me into her room and ask me to do something for her. This has been going on almost my entire life. And I realized the more I refuse, the more "asking" turns into "demanding" and if I refuse enough, she'll turn into a crybaby and say, "Okay, fine. See what happens next time you ask me for something." Or she'll ground me. And my Mom (the head honcho in my household) is okay with it. The funny thing is,I never ask her to do anything for me. And on the rare occasions that I do, she always, always says no. I always talk to my dad about it and I vent to him but I usually get things like, "Well then tell her off." But what I want him to do is to tell her that what she's doing isn't right. Also... she tends to ignore some of the things that my parents say. Like one day, I was grounded from using the hair straightener. (Cause my grades were bad.) And my Dad AND my Mom said, "Hey. We talked it over, and said it's okay for you to use the hair straightener." (she also took away my computer, my iPod and my phone besides the hair straightener.) I was doing my hair for school and I explained our parents were okay with it. She didn't care what they said and still cut me off from using her hair straightener, mine, and my Mom's. And lately, she's started hitting me again when I do something wrong. Both my parents won't talk to her no matter what I say, and I feel like I'm in a rut of depression from her treating me this way. It's insanely irritating what she does to me and I don't know where else to turn. Please help.