I am sometimes overcome with sudden anger...why?
sometimes i can just suddenly be overwhelmed with anger, i just want to destroy everything (i do resist) but at times its gotten so bad i have started to get scared that i might do something out of rage and regret it later, i have one possible reason for sudden anger but i'm not sure i tend to bottle up emotions it comes out as anger but when i say it out loud it sounds like a bunch of bull sh**
I have anger issues. I am full of rage all the time. Whenever someone provoke me, deep down, I already think of various ways to beat them to death, or kill them. How can I get over this?
In terms of practical things you can do:- Stop drinking caffeine and stop smoking. Both of those will exacerbate your anger.- If alcohol makes things worse, stop drinking it. If it mellows you out, then have at it.- Exercise, a LOT. It will channel your energy in a positive direction, tire you out so you're less able to express your anger, and release endorphins, which will make you feel good.- Eat better foods. Many packaged/processed foods contain chemicals which are known to screw with the chemical balance in your head. Cut out the simple sugars.- Identify activities which calm you. Try lots of new things: Yoga, meditation, music, drawing, anything you can think of. Pick your favorite as a hobby and stick with it!- Martial arts. Gives you an outlet, and teaches you to focus your mind.- Seriously dig deep into your own psyche and think about what causes these feelings. It's hard and painful, but you have to face your demons full on. Learn to let go of the guilt, rage, and frustration over past and present failings. Be introspective. Don't hide from your feelings. Process them thoroughly. Perhaps do this in combination with meditation.- The thoughts that pop into your head aren't intrinsically bad. Allow them to happen and then let them move on. Don't focus on them, don't feel guilty about them, don't beat yourself up for having them. Just allow them to pass through your head.- Eliminate activities that anger you. For example, if you play videogames and they often piss you off, then pick different games. Similar with movies or anything else that seem to increase your anger. If the news makes you angry, stop reading it. And so on.- Your feelings don't make you a bad person or a weak one. They just happen. You're human. Accept that and accept yourself. Learn to appreciate yourself for who you are, anger issues and all.- Find friends who can relate to your feelings. Vent to each other. Be honest and expressive.There's a lot you can do. Dedicate yourself to improving and you will make progress.
Please help, I get angry very easily.?
I don't know what's going on with me, I'm a 13 year old female and it seems like I lose my temper at everything. I always find myself shouting at my little sister for talking even though she doesn't say anything. I get angry when she says 'okay', is this normal? I just don't know why I'm like this, I can't seem to control it. Also, my parents know how angry I get and yet they still get me annoyed whether it's waking me up, to making 'jokes' which I hate, and always getting me into trouble because my little sister is always telling me off and acting like an 'angel' in front of my parents which really gets me annoyed. (she's 8 by the way) My parents are the worst. When they do something which gets me annoyed, I can't shout or rage, I'm too scared to let my emotions out in front of them because I know I'll get beaten up for it. This is why it's horrible, don't you just hate it when you feel as if there is a bottle inside of you filled with all your emotions and anger but you just can't seem to let it all out? Yeah that's how I feel when I'm with my parents, my dad especially, he's very scary when he gets angry. He basically gets angry at me when I get angry, it's like there's a law in my family about "not being angry". It's not fair. I just want to go into a room where no one can see me and i could just shout and scream and let all my feelings out. I am always feeling like this and since it's the holidays, me and my family haven't even gone anywhere which gets me angry because all my friends are in different places and I'm stuck here at home. Please help me, how can I stop being angry all the time, I hate my life so much and I'm also getting suicidal thoughts, don't worry though, I'll never attempt it. But I really need your help. Do I need to go to anger management or something? Are all 13 year olds like this? What should I do? Thank you so much.
How can I control my anger?
There once lived a boy who had a bad temper. He would get angry at every little thing. One day, his father gave him a bag of nails and told him, "Every time you get angry, hammer a nail into that front wall."And so the activity started. On the first day, the boy hammered 50 nails. The next day, he hammered 40. Each time he used to go there, he repented being angry - it was quite a challenge to hammer a nail into that damn brick wall! Slowly, he discovered that controlling anger was easier than hammering, and the number of nails hammered started going down.Eventually, a day came when he didn't get angry, and he felt the joy of it. Now his father gave him another task, "If you do not get angry the entire day, remove one nail from the wall." After several days, all the nails were removed.Now his father took him near the wall and asked him what did he see. The boy replied that he can see holes in the wall. The father then explained to his son: "These holes are like the scars that you leave on people when you get angry. No matter how many times you say sorry, the scar does not go."So I suggest you two things:Realize that words once spoken cannot come back. Your anger hurts others and leaves a sour impression that lasts forever.Each time you get angry, "hammer a nail". Simplest thing you can do is to carry a pocket diary and put a line each time you get angry. Then at night, count the number of lines for that day. If you make this a habit, each time you would get angry, you would be reminded to note it down. Indirectly, you would also realize that you getting angry. And because you are conscious and aware at that time, you would find it easier to control your actions and subdue anger.I hope the day comes soon when you don't have any line in your diary.