I'm really scared to live in a college dorm...I'm scared I won't be able to adjust to dorm life?
I'm very close to my family, and I'm also a little shy and timid, and I don't make friends easily. My second-choice university (UPenn) is an hour and half from my house and I really want to go there, but I'm scared to dorm (dorming is required first-year). Every time I think about going to UPenn, I get really excited. Then I remember that I have to be away from my family and home and I start thinking about just going to my state university.
I'm scared about living on my own after college. How can I overcome this?
It is a process.When I moved out the summer after I graduated college, I was nervous. I felt alone and abandoned. Weird right? I chose to move out.Financially - Be equipped and ready. This should be the first thing you make sure you have under control before the big move.Emotionally - It is possible you will be scared even after you move out. I hated the feeling of turning the lights off at night and knowing there was nobody there with me. I was also not a fan of coming home after dark, I always made sure to make it home before the sun went down. I guess I had a thing with darkness.Something else may bother you, not necessarily what threw me off guard.With time and experience this will fade. You will come to love your new independence and freedom. There are lessons you can never learn until you are truly out there alone.Embrace it, be brave and take the next step of your life with confidence.PS - never forget to be patient with yourself.
Im commuting to college and im scared..?
im commuting to college and im scared about what to do between classes, and for lunch. its going to be much harder for me to meet people (and im seriously shy. i cant help it. and ill be too scared in my classes to meet people..) what do i do? i have a 4 hour gap between two classes and idk what to do (im not going to drive home then come back, waste of gas.) any ideas? did you go through the same thing? thanks
I'm really scared to live in a college dorm. What should I do?
Many people hit it off with their assigned roommate and become lifelong friends. I hope that is how it goes for you.But sometimes, as happened to my, you get the roommate who plays music you don't care for, sprays horrible air freshener in the room, and spends most evenings drinking or smoking pot (thankfully not in the room.) That was my first college roommate. (We haven't spoken since some time well before graduation.) But, though we never developed any kind of a friendship, we learned to tolerate each other and keep to our own space.(I was the weirdo who illegally cooked in the room (I was poor, and it was a lot cheaper) and was always studying — I'm sure that required some tolerance from my roommate as well.)Go into this and don't let failure be an option. , Work hard to respect each other's space and try to get along. You can stick out 8 months with just about anybody.College is a time to grow and mature, and part of that is learning to get along with people who are different from you, and finding your own way without a lot of parental support. It's not always easy, but it is worthwhile, and is a time you should cherish. Don't let fear mess up your chance.
Moving into college alone?
I'm moving into college on August 21 and my parents can't be there. I don't know anybody at the college. I'm scared of going alone and I'm sure everyone else will be with their families. I'm just worried and anxious. I heard move in day is hectic in college. I'm gonna look like a loner. Please help...
I'm afraid of moving out to go to college?
Everything will be ok. Trust me. I'm a senior this year, and I'm completely scared. But look at it this way, if you go to school close enough to home you can come home on the weekends and you can spend holidays and breaks at home as well. I chose a school that is an hour and a half from home and I'm going to be starting fresh in a big city. I'm a small town girl. I come from a town of 3,000 people in southern Minnesota, and I'm moving to Minneapolis in September. You just have to believe in yourself and tell yourself you can do it. And when need be talk to friends. Make a ton of friends at college because everyone there is going through the same thing that you're going through. Trust me. You'll do fine at college. It's normal to be nervous. Good Luck :)
Moving away? I'm scared?
I'm 17 and I've been living in my city for a few years, my friends are here, my boyfriend is here and so is my family. In order for me to graduate on time, my parents have decided to move me (just me) to another city to study there. If they're decision is certain, then I'll be going in 3 months or so. I've been home-schooled for many years and going to college is a bit scary since I can't socialize well with strangers. I know school is important and that this happens to everyone, but I'm scared to be alone and away from the people I love(my boyfriend specially). They talk about it a lot these days and It saddens me that it might come true. Any advice?
I just moved into college and I feel the most depressed I've ever been. What can I do?
In 2013 I moved into my brother’s apartment where I was given a tiny living space and an inflatable mattress to sleep on. For the next 2 years, I would be going to college.I was going into pre-med, so I had classes like molecular biology and chemistry. I dopped those before they even started. And then I decided I didn’t know what I was going to do.Fast forward a year and I was living with my other brother. He had a bigger apartment, but it was a 1 bedroom, so I slept on the couch. The couch turned into a bed, so it wasn’t too bad.At the same time I was working two jobs, which began before the buses—my only means to get around town—started running, so I had to wake up at 4:00 AM and walk to work in my uniform.I remember walking to Starbucks and seeing a beer bottle get thrown into the street. The kid saw me and thought I was a cop and ran inside. I minus well had been a cop, I felt hardened inside like I wasn’t one of them. I felt like my college experience was work, not play.After getting kicked out of my brother’s apartment I had to find a new place to live. So I went on Craigslist and found a tiny closet to live in.This closet was inside a fraternity, so as long as I didn’t go into my room, I had a decent place to live.I continued to work two jobs, take overload hours, and live in a closet while walking several miles to get groceries, both ways.To be honest with you, I think many students are depressed in college. I think it’s easy to think everyone is having fun but you’re not. I think we all lie to ourselves that college was worth it, because how else can we rationalize how much we spent?If I were you, which I’m not, I would probably do the same thing I did when I was in college. Work hard, don’t give in to the judgment of other people, and pursue what interests you. I didn’t want to party, I didn’t want to make friends, and I didn’t want debt. So I studied hard, sat in my room alone, and stayed out of debt by working two jobs and living frugally.It definitely hurt to see students with cars—sports cars, new models, or even scooters. They were ripped—totally in shape. I felt like they must be living the life. Maybe they were.What can you do when you feel the most depressed you’ve ever been? I think this is a question we all face at one point or another, and for each of us, there is a different solution.Think back to when you were a kid and remember what makes you happy, and do that—do that as much as you can.
HELP! I'm nervous about college, and having doubts?!?
I'm going to a college 4 hours away. I REALLY want to go, because I went to orientation last week, and it was amazing. But I'm scared of moving away from home and parents, my comfort zone. At times I think the best decision is to stay home under the roof of my parents, and just minutes away from the friends who know me best. Can anyone make me feel better? I have a week and a half, how should I be bracing this? I read a status on a girl I graduated with's Facebook, and she says she's hating college and wants to go back home. I'm nervous I'll feel the same!
I'm shy and nervous about moving away to college?
No worries at all. There is nothing wrong with being content without the company of others. I am sure that you enjoy spending time with people every once in a while; but a little company goes a long way. So be it. Rest assured that there are people just like you at college, and they are doing just fine. Forget being known by everyone, and liked by everyone. Get the degree and get out, if that is what you want. You will go to college and roll with the punches, just like everyone else. Living in one room with another person is interesting to say the least. The best advice I can give you is to give and take. You aren't nerdy, and your shyness is a part of you. It makes you a humble person and that is just fine. Be proud of who you are. It has taken you 20 years to become the person that you are today. Use all that you have learned in those years to get you through the short time you'll spend in college. You are going to be just fine. Stop saying that you are nervous. The physical sensation of nervousness (butterflies in the stomach, nerves tingling, breathlessness, face flushed, pulse pounding) is the same as the sensation of excitement. The physical effects are identical. The only thing that makes them different, is that your mind tells you that one is good and one is bad. So from here on out, you are excited. Forget that nervousness. Lastly, find the good in every situation. Best of luck as you go to college. Stay true to yourself. Like yourself. Think for yourself. God Bless.