Was your mother a stay at home mom? Did it make any difference to how you were raised?
My mom was a stay at home mom for part of my childhood, not all of it, and it affected me. I am the oldest of 3 kids my parents had. My mom had a job from when I was born to when I was about 6. From age 0 to age 4 I went to my grandparents house Monday through Friday while my mom was at work, but thats okay because I loved my grandparents. When I started elementary school, my baby brother was born. He is the youngest, and a couple of months later she decided to become a stay at home mom. I was a little bit hurt by that because it only benefited or even really affected my two younger siblings as I was at school during the day, plus it felt like she was just doing it for my siblings and not me. Looking back, I shouldn’t have been as hurt by the timing of it but some of it was true as she did become a stay at home mom mostly for their sakes, especially for my brother. But she also did it because now she had three young kids who needed attention. But it helped our family for the next 4 years, as after school she would always be home to get me a snack or help me with my homework, and I didn’t have to go to an afterschool program or anything. It helped me connect a lot more with my parents since neither of them were as stressed since my mom didn’t work. But that also meant no one got a break from eachother and eventually my mom had to go back to work when I was 10. So yes, being a stay at home mom does affect how a child is raised but not in a major way, it depends on each kid, family and situation.
What are the last things I should do with my dying mother?
Alright! I'm writing this as a guy who has been there and done that. I lost my Mother three years back. Mom was suffering from Thyroid cancer since many years. When she had an operation in 1997, doctors said that She could live hardly for 6 years, but my Mom survived for more than their estimation. To be honest, I didn't know that my Mother was suffering from such a deadly disease. My Dad never let us (me and my brother) know about it. He kept on giving treatments to her without any hesitation. And finally one day (that was the last day of my graduation) I lost my Mom. The pain was horrible. Irreplaceable, dude. People say moving on with life is easy, but no. It's very, very tough. Anyways, with these experiences, I'm going to write what could be done to make your Mother happy at her end days.Death is inevitable. Try to make the last days as memorable as you can. Spend more time with her. Tell her how important She is to you. Grant all the wishes she want to.Try to stay away from the things/incidents that make you guys sad and depressed.Make a reunion of family and the one who missed out all these days.Try to make her meet with whomever she want. Her childhood friends, long distance relatives.Avoid talking to death. If she want to talk about it, then it's okay.Take her to new places. Introduce her to new people, new cultures, new languages. These things make her excited. Atlast, keep Her happy all the time. The best treatment that a person deserves is to be happy as much as he can.God Bless.
Would you let your daughter go on a road trip with her boyfriend?
My boyfriend wants to go on a roadtrip to NYC right around Christmas time - it's so pretty and there's so much to do. He's been driving for 6 years now (he's 22) and I'm getting my license next week, I'll be 18 in March. I graduated as a junior and am starting college in the fall. I've brought it up vaguely with my mom who had the mindset of "well, why don't we make it a family trip.." and that isn't something I'd wanna do. My mom's a "let's take three hours everywhere we shop etc" kind of person and neither my boyfriend nor myself are like that. My little brother wouldn't make anything easier either. We've basically been dating for a year, and she has no problems when we go out, or him driving anywhere but how can I explain to her that I'd like to spend the weekend in NYC with him? We're not sexually active, (although I am on the pill for medical reasons,) we have the financial means to shop, feed ourselves, house ourselves, get us out of car troubles, etc but I have a feeling I'll have trouble talking her into it. We would probably leave late friday, spend the day there, spend saturday night there, do more stuff sunday leave then in the after noon. (I live near Buffalo, btw) Would you let your 17 year old daughter take this road trip?
I Feel like Cinderella because of my evil stepmom...where is my prince!?!?!?!?
My stepmom hates me for no reason! when I was young (around 6-7) we got along great...I lived with my dad and brother, back when she was just dating my dad. She already had a son, the same age as my brother. My step mom and I always played together and she would take me to movies and we would have our “girls night out”...Only her and I would go out and do things...my dad married her when I was 10...I moved to my moms house when I was 11 and came back for my freshman year in HS and now she hates me. She tries to act nice in front of other people but she's a bit*ch when it's just us. For example: on halloween she told me that I couldn't be a witch because that's what I am 364 days out of year and I have to be something different. One night I got really sick and threw up everywhere and she told me to stay home from school tomorrow so the next day my dad walked into my room and asked why I'm not ready...she never told him I was sick…she let him think I was trying to skip school. Also, for christmas my dad bought me a really nice and expensive necklace and my step mom told him that he had to buy her son something that costs just as much because it wasn't fair. When we go out, she addresses me as her “Step-daughter” but my dad calls my step-brother is son, even though he’s not. My step brother even asked his mom why she does that. She acts like an angel to her son (my stepbrother) and the 3 boys my dad and her had together. She’s mean to my biological brother sometimes but not as much as me. I'm the only other girl in my dads life and she gets pissed when my dad pays attention to me...like, he calls me beautiful all the time and she gets this evil, mean look in her eyes. Or if my dad sits next to me at the dinning table she asks him to move and sit next to her because she “feels lonely” without him by her.