I'm starting to hate my best friend?
When I first met my best friend, we fell in love. She was like the sister I never had. Now, there are so many times I'm frustrated with her, and sometimes I feel like she's using me. For example.... She frustrates me because she says things like, "You're such a baby". She complains all the time to everyone how she thinks she's soo ugly. I have said about a million times to her, "You are not ugly. You are beautiful in many ways." I hate how she's so gullible, like when she was explaining to me how the president is against smoking marijuana, when he himself used to smoke it all the time. Now really, the president used to smoke marijuana all the time? I don't think so. Also, she always brags to me about her big boobs. Whenever we're hanging out, she'll just randomly flash me. I feel like she's using me because she's constantly begging, and then dragging me over to her boyfriend's house while they have sex for hours, to make sure she doesn't do anything she doesn't want to. I always end up in the same room, feeling bored and awkward. She's always using my phone to talk long distance to her boyfriend for hours, using up my minutes and money. I'm afraid to ask her to put the phone down, because she would probably punch or bite me. I don't trust her much anymore because she steals my stuff. She's admitted to me that, and I've been finding a lot of my items popping up around her house. I love to share with people, but it bugs me that she steals things that I've payed a lot of money for. She's my only friend I really hang out with a lot, and I just want our friendship to go back to how it was, but I don't know how to do that. I've thought of confronting her or breaking off our friendship, but I'm afraid she'll reveal things that are personal, just between herself and I. Or, on the other hand, I wonder if she would try to beat me, like she's done to so many of our other friends. What should I do?
My bestfriend starts hating me what should I do to get her back in my life?
Without knowing the details I can only offer this advice. When someone is angry enough to stop talking to you and refuses to explain the reasons, this is a sign of immaturity.In these situations I find it is best to let the person know how much you value her friendship, and let her know that whenever she is ready to talk you will be ready to listen because if you did something to upset her then that is something you want to know so you can take steps to repair whatever perceived damage you caused. Then just give it time.The more you pressure anyone to see things your way, the further you push them away. Think of the last time a salesman was desperate for a sale and tried to push you into buying something. It felt icky right? And made you want to run away and get out of the store. Same goes for relationships. The more you push for resolution, the further they want to run. But if you simply let her know her value in your life and that you don't want to lose the relationship then sit back and give her time to just think, most likely she will come back around and give you a chance to really talk to her.Interestingly I had the same question from a friend of mine recently. He was doing the same thing you described - continually pressuring his friend to talk to him about what's going on. After taking this advice and giving his friend time to think, after a few weeks his friend started coming back around and they are now back on a path to reconciliation. The best thing you can do is give her time to process.
Starting to hate my best friend for no reason?
So im gunna sound really mean in this but im really stressed over this so please help! Over the past mont or so, everything my friend does aggravates me. I have no idea why, but i find it extremely disturbing. Like, she came out to me as a lesbian like two months ago or something and i have absolutely no problem with the lgbt community, trust me. But lately the fact has just been really bothering me when she makes perverted comments or something and it freaks me out. She swears a lot too. I personally hate when people swear. But just talking to her is so awkward. Like i wanna be loud and obnoxious but in public shes really quiet and doesnt talk and just nods her head to alnost anything i say. I just dont wanna talk to her anymore really. Shes pretty much told me everything there is to know about her and she was texting me the other day and said "idk what i would do without you honestly... I would prolly die" and i felt so horrible reading that. the problem is i sit with her in three of my hours and idk how to cope with it anymore. When ever i look at her i feel very uncomfortable and have to look away. She didnt do anything wrong, shes just being herself but even that bothers me. Like even her apppearence bothers me. I feel horrible about it but i can't stand her anymore. Its just too uncomfortable. Plz help! Whats wrong with me??
I Think I Hate My Best Friend.?
ive known this girl since 7th grade, she is my best friend, we go everywhere together, in fact it would be easier if we were attached at the hip. recently things between us havent been so good. she always has to have some way to put me down. she uses many things. looks,intellegience, and boys. this year a total of about 5 guys have liked her, and she wont shut up about it. every guy that she has ever been with or has liked her, she has hurt, in fact the guy she is with now, she cheated with on her second boyfriend of the year. i enjoy watching how the guys that like her drool, knowing that they are lucky that she isnt getting involved with them. if she is not bragging about this to me, she uses looks. she has played two sports her entire life, and pretty much has no body, but she has long legs, now dont get me wrong, im not asking this question because im jelouse of her, i have an amazing boyfriend, and i am pretty skinny, not like two sports my entire life skinny, im the kind of skinny that doesnt make a big deal of itself. any way back on topic. she will throw her legs in my face, talking about how perfectly skinny they are, and pointing out my size 3 jeans compared to her 0 . i am happy with my body, i just dont like the fact that she feels she has the right to make fun of me like that. and if she isnt doing either of those two things, she treats me like a complete idiot. whenever i say somthing to her or piont some thing out i get one of these in a bitchy smug voice. - yes jessica - yeah - yeah jessica - yes, and then she has to say somthing about it. - duh - duh jessica - i know - yeah i know - i KNOW jessica - or she just rolls her eyes at me - and whenever i want to talk about somthing seriouse, whenever i dont have the exact same opinion as her, or appluad her genius it seems, she just says whatever and blows me off. what hurts me more than feeling like an idiot when she treats me like this, is that she is my best friend, and i just dont know why she treats me like this, and i dont want to lose her as a friend, this isnt how it used to be, and i dont know what i did to deserve this, and if i did know i would do everything i could to fix it. please do you know what i can do to fix this? or why she is treating me like this? or even if you think its just me, anything please. i just want my best friend back.
My friends are starting to hate me...?
Hey. Be my friend. I have slightly the same issue in my group. It all started with a "you can hang out with us" when she broke up with her best friend... and now she clings... and the group likes her but basically she has dated a guy that was about to go out with me, and flirts with one that I really liked. And she knows it. Maybe all of us are "Abbys" but we don't see it... maybe this girl sees you as an Abby too. I think you're jealous. I know I'm jealous in my group. The Abby I hang out with loves to get attention, and so do I. She is very competitive and we both get annoyed by each other often. I also love my group of friends. But I stick with it and put up with her because there are some moments where she is actually likeable, despite the times I am quite angry at her. I don't think talking about her to them is going to make your friends want to listen to you as much, because they will be feeling your bad mood... and they don't like that... they want friend time with you... not "argh she is NOT my friend!" time... I know she took the friends you have. I know it's hard. The same thing has happened to me. You can do a few things. One: you can continue to put up with it. Two: you can break up the friendship... which potentially can drop you out of your group of friends, which is scary. Three: you can ditch your group of friends and hang out with another one. Which might be even scarier. Four: Get more friends to hang out with your group... ones that she might not like, but you do... and sit with them more often so you do not have to endure her. I know that you are sick of it and you feel you can't even tell your friends your pain because they can't take it all the time. And you're being copied. And you look bad. But be thankful for one thing: you are not lying to yourself that you dislike her. You are trying to be as honest as possible. So no matter what, remember that your are true to yourself and even if you were to lose all of these friends, or keep them, you will be yourself. So don't be scared of that. Oh, and btw, it pisses me off when people copy. I love originality. But cool down... even when it's hard. you will become a better person, and she will get her Karma.
Why am I starting to hate my friends?
Wow, when I read this, it actually summed up completely what happened to me with some friends. Our stories are identical, so I can offer some insight from my experience. Friendships always start off goofy and fun, as you stated-- otherwise the friendship would never start. But I have been in your shoes, and that novelty of fun wears off quick. For me it was the immaturity and overall embarassment of being in public with certain people. It looked like an a**hole thing to do, but I made a drastic change in the people I chose to be friends with. The backlash of that was looking egotistical and arrogant, but you have to do what's best for you. If you don't make yourself comftorable with your friends, the friendship won't be worth having. Which brings me to my next point-- don't ever change your ways for anybody. Don't act differently. Trying to act differently will only worsen the situation, make you miserable, and make the inevtible ending of your friendships less tactful (by this I mean, if you stay true to yourself, you might be able to resolve conflicts with these friends of yours without a hassle, or, end the friendship with some integrity. The second you start acting "fake" it's only going to make the end of a friendship difficult and ugly) By all means I'm not suggesting you do what I did, and abandon all your friends immediately. But my advice would be to try finding yourself in other social circles besided the click you've become so comftorable in . Hang out with other groups of people and find where you're most comftorable. Maybe all you need is some balancing between the friends you have now and people with more similar interests to you. Best of luck to you.
Why am I starting to hate my friend?
You approached one girl, you got rejected for reasons unknown. She may already have a boyfriend, or even a fiance, you do not know. The reason why doesn't even matter; she's just not available for you. She doesn't want to tell you why, and is now afraid to talk to you. But you need communications so you can all remain in the same group of friends. I suggest you slip her a note saying that you apologize for embarrassing her, and that you just want to be friends again like before. That's all you need to say. If you cannot slip her the note directly, have a friend deliver it. I can assure you she will be relieved, and you will be relieved, and your group of friends will all be relieved again. That's all you need to do.
I have started hating my best friend, what can I do to unfriend her?
I can understand your emotions that is flowing through.Human life takes turns with twists added by self and others ,and then react to people that are close to us.You might have waited for longer time for that person to change the attitude that hurts you or make you irritated and it didn't happen . With lights of reactions from your friend on various things by showing behavior which you might not like has resulted in piling up of anger and ultimately resulted in hatred.I can understand whatever your friend does your mind is not in position to see it as normal even though it is in one out of 100 times.Trust me your friend doesn't know or understand that she hurt your feelings or irks your mind with her deeds.Please go and talk to her once ,she will not understand ,she will reply to answer rather to understand,tell her one more time ,make her understand that she is doing something wrong.If for everything we start leaving every one then even we will have to end up hating our parents and every other in the world because gods design is different .This is time your friend needs you talk to her .Make her understand with all the patience in the world.Dont loose people which you have until they are harmful to you physically.
I'm starting to hate my girlfriend. What should I do?
“I'm starting to hate my girlfriend. What should I do?”Hate is a strong word. If it really is hate, just get out. I have two things you should ask yourself- 1) are the bad times more frequent than the good? 2) decide what your needs are versus your wants. If you think you have to sacrifice your needs, get out.I dated a guy on and off for 5 years. We weren't living together yet but one afternoon, i was coming home from work and saw his car in my driveway and got a pit in my stomach. THAT was when I finally realized something was not right. There were lots of things I liked about him and loved about him. He was fantastic in bed, for one. But it was not worth the pain I was experiencing.The final nail in the coffin was one day when he and I had planned on going to an amusement park for the day. We hadn’t even gotten out of town yet and he as already picking a fight with me in the car. I turned the car around and told him we weren't going. The next day, I broke up with him.There is someone out there with whom you are more compatible. It’s worth the wait, trust me.