After losing a parent, why can’t I feel anything at all, when I know I should be in pain? My dad died almost two years ago from cancer. Whenever I remember him/his death, I draw a blank emotionally. I know I’m devastated, but I don’t “feel” anything.
I lost my dad in late 2013, the day after Thanksgiving, unexpected when he passed in his sleep while napping in the afternoon after he had eaten lunch. Congestive heart failure, apparently.My father and I were always very close. I'm an only child and my biological mother split when I was less than a year old, leaving my then 24 year old struggling dad to care for me while trying to build (and abruptly rebuild) his life. That was in the early 1970’s, so specific events mostly escape me now concerning fine details, but my most prevalent memories that resonate inside me even now are those of how loving and protective he always was of me. I was the only thing in the world that mattered to that man.After his passing, I was in immediate shock and literally speechless and emotionless. I was sitting in a movie theater with my three young sons watching Frozen when I received the phone call. I got up and left the theater and told my now ex-wife to stay and let the kids finish the movie. To this day, I cannot watch that Disney film or listen to any of its popular soundtrack.At his burial, I never opened his casket. I never saw my father deceased and I have no regrets about that at all. I stood at his grave after they lowered his casket into the ground with my oldest son (then only 7) at my side with my arm around his shoulder and we both could only stare down into the ground. I could not shed a tear or say a word. Again, I felt emotionless, probably an internal defensive survival instinct had taken over everything within me to save me from the devastation I otherwise could not have endured mentally. Many people commended me for showing my son the meaning of strength and what becoming a Man meant. I didn't see it that way. I saw myself as that little kid from the 70’s watching his invincible lifelong superhero being laid to rest, forever.I put the first shovel full of soil on top of his casket and then looked at my son who was still quietly staring into the hole in the ground and asked him if he was ok and if he was ready. He looked back up at me and said, “Yeah Dad, I'm ok. Promise me it will be a very long time before I have to do this for you”.I kissed him on the forehead and said I promise. Then we left after I said out loud “I love you, Dad. Thank you”.
Is it normal to bleed only two days after surgical abortion with minimal pain?
Shany, My heart goes out to you for the terrible choice you had to make. DON'T let anyone judge you. It was your choice and you had the right to make it. I have never been in the same position but I believe that surgical abortion is always successful.As you are going to see your doctor tomorrow ask them for more information. You should, I believe,also have been offered counselling. You will be emotional as it is an emotional thing that has happened to you - no worse than a miscarriage. ( I have had 2 of them, both around 6 weeks). If you have a garden you can always plant something as a memorial to your baby. (You could ask you local council to plant a tree) in its memory. They don't need to know that the pregnancy ended for any other reason than natural causes (which could have happened anyway). If you are never going to have children then it may be worth asking your doctor about sterilisation or even a hysterectomy so that you need never find yourself in the same terrible place again. Forgive your self, Shany. You did what was right for you. And good fortune follow you for the rest of your life.
My dog just died, having physical heart pain..is this normal?
Jen...I've said this before...and I will now say it to you... You lost a very special part of your family -- one who you grew up with. I hate to tell you this, but everyone who has truly loved a dog feels exactly the kind of physical pain you are describing. You are longing for that little sweetheart to still be right there by your side instead of running around in your heart and playing and frolicking through your memories. That's the way it's supposed to be. That is how they leave their mark, how they fill your heart and how they change your life for the better! That's also why your heart is feeling tight and crushed right now. Life has changed... I will tell you that the pain you are suffering is going to soften with the passing of time. It won't stop hurting when you think about her...but it becomes tempered by all the wonderful days and nights, joys and laughter you shared with her -- the wonderful life -- almost 13 years -- you gave her and she gave to you, which is a much bigger part of her story than the last few months of pain she was enduring. Believe it or not, your mind will help you to put that in a proper perspective as days and weeks and months begin to go by...you remember more happy than sad. Please know that she is at peace in a far better place than this one, where she can be a puppy again, running and playing without pain or illness. And Somebody far greater is taking good care of her until the time comes...a long time from now...for you to fill that role again! My prayers are with you...and know that although it is breaking now, your heart has an unlimited capacity for love and sharing, and for giving a wonderful home and a blessed life to another dog -- one who will need you and who you will love for his or her own unique and special nature when you are ready to accept the gift of an open heart that your best friend gave to you!
Sharp STABBING chest/breast pain and twinges while pregnant?
I am 12 weeks pregnant. The last two days I have noticed random sharp twinges that last only seconds in different areas around my breast and chest. They seem like they are happening from behind the breast and of course make me worried about heart problems. Right now they are happening on the left side. They feel like someone stabbed me with a knife, but only last a second and then gone. I dont believe it is heartburn because I hear heartburn mainly happens in the middle and goes up the throat and I am not experiencing anything like this at all. Last night I was so freaked out by it that my husband brought me to the ER where they did an EKG and bloodwork and everything showed up normal. They didnt really have an answer for why I felt this but I kind of shrugged it off as maybe hormones or growing breasts? But would I feel this so deep to my chest if it were my breasts growing? It feels like it is my heart/chest more so then breasts. I dont have any shortness of breath, it does catch me by surprise when it happens but I have no problem breathing. Could I have pulled a muscle in my sleep and not realized it?
What does a heart attack feel like?
I had a major heart attack in 2014, and here is my story:I woke up not feeling well - I couldn’t explain it… I just didn’t feel well.Around 9am, my mother and father stopped by; they had gone to the stations of the cross at the church right down the road. I began feeling a pain in my right arm, but I tried to ignore it. My mother looked at me and said that I didn’t look well, but I told her I was fine, so her and my father left.So, it was just me and my 23 year old son. He saw me rubbing my arm and asked me what was wrong. I told him I wasn’t sure - that it was like a pressure pain that was moving up my arm. He said it sounded like a heart attack, and I laughed because I thought that I was too young for a heart attack. In 2014 I was going to be 43, I believe.Anyhow, I told him that I was going to take a hot shower and put the water on my arm but that I was going to leave the door open in case I needed him to call someone. I got in the shower. At that point, the pain was in my upper arm and neck. I stood under the hot water and aimed on my neck, but it did not help. I was uncomfortable, but I managed to get out and get dressed.I then told my son that maybe a nap would make me feel better, but after just two minutes of lying down, I was too uncomfortable to bear it. I thought that I would do a breathing treatment to make myself feel better. To this day, I still wonder why in the world I thought that a breathing treatment would be effective even though I was breathing just fine and the pain was in my arm and neck.Anyway, I took out my nebulizer and albuterol and started the machine. I took one deep breath and the pain shot up from about a 5 to past a 10. I cried for my son to call 911.I made it to the local hospital, and they performed many tests and gave by nitro glycerin four times. They then stabilized me so that I could fly in the Flight for Life helicopter into the city for emergency surgery. In the city, I had a stent put in. That night, the nurse accidentally opened up my surgical site and blood splattered everywhere, making me lose so much blood that I needed two transfusions.I was told that I was lucky to be alive, and that I should have come in to the hospital when I first felt the pain in my arm and neck, and that that would have saved me a lot of trouble. I also suffered a mild brain injury because I didn’t have enough oxygen going to my head.
Chest pain when i bend over?
Your chest pain is caused by tight muscles in your back that are pressing onto nerves leaving the spine and going around the body to become pains in the rib, chest or heart areas. When you bend over there is more pressure on the nerve to send more pain to the area. Tight muscles in your mid back are pressing onto nerves going to the organs. Pressure on the nerves to your stomach is causing it to release more gastric acid which is the start of your acid reflux. To get rid of the pains you have to free up your back muscles to release the tight ones pressing into the nerves and here's how to free them up: Back: (do while sitting) Place your left hand on your left leg next to your body. Place your right hand over your left shoulder, fingers over the back and the palm in the front and firmly pull down on them and hold. After 30 seconds slowly lower your body forward and to the outside of your left leg, keeping your left arm fairly straight as you do. When you reach your lap remain there for another 10 seconds, release the pressure but rest there for another 30 seconds. Then reverse your hand positions and do your right side. For best results relax your body first by taking a deep breath and exhaling then remain this relaxed.
I wanted to know if anyone can help, I have just adopted a german shephard that was going to be put down?
Hang on group! I don't think we are dealing with hip dysplasia but with "DEGENERATIVE MYELOPATHY". This can be mistaken for HD or arthritis. The clue here is the knuckling over on one of the hind legs. That is not HD! Now what is Degenerative Myelopathy. DM is a progressive disease involving the spinal cord. It is thought to be an autoimmune disease. Some of the symptoms : hindquarter weakness, rear limb ataxia, loss of balance, difficulty rising or laying down, knuckling under while walking, limp tail, rear legs crossing under body, rear leg drag etc There is no cure and onset is between 5 and 14 years of age. DM can attack one or both sides of the body. Treatment which may slow the progression is: There are 2 medications which, when used together, can prevent progression or result in clinical remission of DM in up to 80% of affected dogs. These medications are aminocaproic acid (EACA) and n-acetylcysteine (NAC). EACA is usually best given as the solution, using the generic product. This product, while designed for injection, can be mixed with chicken broth to make it palatable and easy to give by mouth. B-Complex Dogs with DM don't absorb B vitamins as well Vitamin C 500 mg Selenium A maximum of 200 micrograms per day is safe for large dogs Vitamin E 2000 IU per day Omega-3 fatty acids 1000 mg of fish oil capsule per day Soybean Lecithin Add 1-2 tsp of soybean lecithin granules to the food twice a day Gammalinolenic acid Borage oil, evening primrose oil or black currant oil, are natural sources of gammalinolenic acid, a fatty acid which is hard to get in the diet. Large dogs should receive 500 mg of GLA twice a day, either as borage oil, evening primrose oil or as black currant oil. Coenzyme Q-10 60 to 100 mg per day The above treatment is from R.M. Clemmons, DVM, PhD Associate Professor of Neurology & Neurosurgery
Heart attack or just being paranoid ?
Okay so im 16 years old, which i know is very young to have a heart attack , also why i dont know if im just being paranoid or actually might have a heart attack. For the past few days, ive been having really bad heart / chest pains on and off . Ive also been having pain in my neck shoulders and jaw, and giving me (from what i think) really bad migrains from the jaw pain. ive also been very fatigued lately too. & sometimes ill have a shortness of breath. Im not sure if im being paranoid or not because i have really bad anxiety & i often have bad panic attacks. idk if this is partt of my anxiety or something serious. im not sure if im being too paranoid or not. please help !
Left side chest pains in 22 year old female?
I have been having chest pains every now and then since I was probably sixteen. Lately they seem to be happening much more often (from maybe once a month to once every few days). I casually smoke (one at a party sometimes) and don't regularly exercise. I do have a heart murmur, but I know those are almost never threatening. It is just a sudden sharp strangling feeling that lasts up to 30 seconds where I feel completely immobilized. Whenever it happens, I am always at rest, and not doing anything strenuous. I don't have health insurance right now to see a doctor about it. I am 5'3", 135lbs.