Do people with asperger's get married?
I think I need to clarify some things: -First, I shouldn't be asking if someone with Asbergers can get married, Obviously they can. My concern is he is asking if we have any singles groups. We do have what we call Singles Wards but most of these women would have no idea what aspergers syndrome is so he may have difficulties meeting someone from a singles ward unless they also have Aspergers and had an understanding of his social difficulties. -I am not a counselor for our church. Me and another member came to this guys house to tell him about our religion and have been talking to him about our teachings. He brought up his religious views and that he had aspergers which we didn't what it was. Now more members of our church are helping him including someone who is trained in psychology and knows what asbergers is. My concern is, we don't have many members with asbergers and he would probably have to meet a woman who actually has asbergers for them to understand him.
Would any woman really want to be with an adult man with autism?
Yes. I've been with several women (and some men) since I was considered "adult" (though that's a quite vague line) and I'm autistic. I've had a few romantic relationships, several close friends, and many "acquaintances" and some casual sex experiences.To have any close relationships requires a lot of understanding, but yes, even more when you're autistic. While my co-habiting partner isn't a woman, there's nothing unique with being a woman that makes it harder to understand these things, and we've had a close, understanding relationship for four years now (though it helps that they're also autistic).If you're gonna have a long-term relationship, it should be with someone willing to put in the time needed to understand you. This is the same whether you're autistic, or suffer depressions, or have a physical disability, or is just normally disordered (as my old psychiatrist loved to call neurotypical people).Building a close and healthy relationship takes time, regardless of who you are, and someone who's not willing to put in that time probably isn't a person who you'd have a healthy relationship with either.Lastly, don't focus to much on finding a romantic relationship. Build close relationships with people, regardless of gender, and you might find someone who you feel a special kind of love for. Zooming in or focusing too much on finding specifically a romantic partner can cause people to become obsessed with the topic (I knew I was in my youth) to the detriment of both their own health and potential close non-romantic relationships that go sour because one pushes for the romantic angle.(P.S., I know many women don't like being referred to with "female" as a noun and that it feels degrading; using it as an adjective is fine, ie a female person is a woman, not a female. Just a suggestion to make social interactions smoother.)Good luck in your social life!
Can people with High Functioning Autism can do what normal people could do?
Well first of all, high functioning autism can be quite disabling (remembering that high functioning is different to mild). Even that description encompasses a massive range of ability and disability. People don't like me quoting this (I don't know why but I get a lot of thumbs down whenever I put it in my answer) but it is necessary for a diagnosis that your symptoms "limit and impair everyday functioning" (well it will be in the DSM V, it is worded differently, and much more obscurely, in the DSM IV). Some people can get a high paying career if their specific interest happens to give them work opportunities, but all too often there are no jobs that relate to many's interests. I find it very difficult to do an activity I am uninterested in to the quality I would like, some people, however, can work around this. Unfortunately for us, social skills is a better indicator of success than IQ (or so studies show), but if you have a gift and patience then you are bound to succeed. Many with HFA/AS can drive, whilst many can't. I am in the can't group, although I am too young to take the test, I have tried driving (on private property, of course) and found it extremely difficult, without even moving up to 2nd gear. I am one of the 75% on the autism spectrum that has ADHD like behaviors, having these problems also combines to one's inability to drive (being very easily distracted obviously isn't safe). However many, especially those with milder symptoms, can drive well. This really depends on the individual. Relationships are more tricky. In some ways, I have always thought it helps to have ASD. You know the person is going out with you because they really like you (excluding those that take advantage of you), they are willing to go out with one of the uncoolest people they know, this surely indicates they are nice. Unfortunately that is where the advantages stop. It is very difficult to start a relationship with ASD, but social skills classes do help. This one is very much dependent on luck and the person involved. I agree with the answer above, you are deluding yourself if you think these things will be as easy as they are for an NT, but difficult is not impossible, and things like social skills training do help. Good luck.
Would you stay married to a man who avoids you, doesn't like talking to you, doesn't enjoy your company, and says you annoy him everyday? He is also slightly autistic, has no friends, and is financially dependent on me. We have 2 young daughters.
Wow. This is a really difficult one to answer.I'm also on the autism spectrum and can understand to an extent what he means. It's as if he has forgotten what you and his daughters actually mean to him.It can maybe relate to a feeling of not having enough time to himself, this is something he will need to accept though. He did start a family.It may help to seek therapy of some sort. I would probably have said the same thing if your husband wasn't on the spectrum because either way, I would hate for a family to break up like that. But sometimes the guy just loses all respect for his family, if that was the case, he wouldn't deserve you, but with the autism in place, I think I have an idea of what might be bothering him.If I lived alone, but spent a few days at a family member’s home each week, I would enjoy being there. But I would also want to stick to schedule and leave on the day I would usually leave. It's not just a schedule thing, I do feel like I have a requirement for my own space so I can just “release”. It's a time where I feel like I can actually be myself. The reason for this is that I need to put extra effort into showing my emotion around other people so they know I'm not just bored or in a bad mood.This is just an example of what I think may be going on in your husbands mind.I recommend trying to seek some sort of therapy, just to avoid having to break up. It's common for people on the spectrum to forget what others do for them and stop showing appreciation. This is something I hate though, I always try to show appreciation because of something that happened to me before which I won't get into here.If your husband really doesn't or can't change his attitude on how he treats you and start to at least help in some way then there is no point in sticking together.You need to think of your own wellbeing too and he should realise that if he is not earning a living, he should appreciate what he does get. I don't find it acceptable to keep supplying him if he hesitates to at least appreciate and respect you, whether he is autistic or not. There are some things which are more difficult for people with autism, but sometimes they need to put in the effort and overcome it in order to help themselves. I've had to do this with many things.I hope this helps and that it all works out for you, I would hate for things to go south.