I’m 20 years old and I’ve never dated. No one has asked me out before. Is that normal?
As a guy on his mid 20s, I can tell you that it’s not as strange as you would think it is. My girlfriend is 24 years old but I met her when she was 23. Her first kiss was at age 19 and she really didn’t have any relationship before. Needless to say, she was virgin as well. She’s lovely and beautiful, everyone says I’m such a lucky guy. I had no idea how dating could be hard for such a girl.The main reason was insecurity. Feel and act secure, whether you feel it or not. There are many ways to increase your security but a great part of it comes from accepting who you are, with your virtues and flaws. Feel confident with who you are and you will see the results (not only in dating).Here’s some dating advice from a former shy guy:If you think that “if a guy doesn’t have the nerve to approach you then he doesn’t deserve you”, change that mindset. Truth is, very few guys approach the girls that they like. We mostly wait for the opportune moment in order to avoid looking creepy or desperate. That “perfect moment” often never comes. So, if you’re approached by a very confident guy, there’s a higher probability that his guy can be a Don Juan (not 100% of the time though).So, consider giving the chance to the guy that clearly likes you and smiles at you but doesn’t seem to be brave enough to go and talk to you. Break the god damn stigma and talk to him. That doesn’t mean that you will sleep with him. That doesn’t mean that you’re easy. You’re just striking up a conversation. Whether that leads to something else is completely up to you.Also, if you want to meet someone, don’t stay all the time with your 4–5 girl friends. Approaching a single girl can be intimidating. Now imagine the prospect of approaching a girl surrounded by girls and receiving a nice dose of rejection in front of everyone. Try hanging out with a single friend from time to time to avoid scaring away dudes.As some people have mentioned, you need to be socially active and go out. Meet new people. Show confidence but also show that you’re approachable and willing to meet someone.Once you start it becomes easy. Just as Napoleon Hill said: success breeds success. Cheers!
I'm 21 years old and a virgin, am I a loser?
I really honestly just think I'm such a loser compared to others. Like on Facebook I see people I know who seem to be doing so well in their lives. Like moving out and getting their own places, getting married, getting nice full time jobs and becoming ADULTS. Meanwhile, I'm still living at home, go to community college and have no girlfriend, heck, I've never had a girlfriend. I feel like such a useless loser. The only money I get is from doing some chores around the house, and that's really it. I'm currently going to community college and I'm transferring to a University this fall, and I will finally be out of the house. But I'm also a 21 year old guy. I'm not looking for a pity party, I just feel like crap. I'm also sad because someone told me that I'm an ugly pathetic Virgin