What does it mean when you like intellectual conversations?
An intellectual conversation is usually about "intelligent" topics like art, literature, philosophy and such, but it's true that that's not all there is to it. When you like intellectual conversations it can also mean you like to talk about ANY subject, even perhaps things you know nothing about and can voice an intelligent opinion, your own opinion, not something you've read or heard, just by reflecting on the subject and drawing your own conclusions, then discuss them with whomever you're conversing with and have an open dialogue. At least, that's how I see it!
I can't have intellectual conversations with my wife. What should I do?
There are numerous things which can cause this dissonance, and there are numerous questions to you, however since your details (the sentence itself) make no sense, I wonder if you are an intellectual or if you are claiming to be one without any real reason for it. The bad news first.Your wife - your marriage and your choice of a spouse - is your choice. If you believe you had made a mistake, you better explore your own feelings first. No one else can do it for you. The good news - in case you are sure about your choice of a spouse - is that the situation is not life-threatening.The solutions are very easy and are numerous: from you getting friends and talking to them about the topics which a regular human can't care about, to spending more time on Quora and following people who are as excited about topics that thrill you, to starting a local club based on your interests (unless you believe that out of 7 billion people, you are the only person who's struggling with lack of intellectual stimulae). More good news is that you value some conversations, while your wife is valuing a regular life - and you can't be fed/clothed in intellectual conversations alone. So, in totality, you are a nice couple - you complete each other in many respects. Still, there is a lingering concern: if each time you speak to your wife you roll your eyes and tune out, it is a sign of contempt. It is also one of the few things which can ruin a relationship.This is why you need to be sure that you are with this person for the right reasons - if you believe you are a mismatch and your question is just a cry for help, you need to act now: if you believe that your wife is a good-for-nothing person, you need to live up to the title of an intellectual which you claim and give her a chance to find someone who will appreciate her for those mundane talks and companionship, while you can be on your pursuit for someone more intellectually stimulating.
What are some ways to have more intellectual conversations?
This is a really cool question! Thanks so much for speaking your mind.I've never thought of it like this; I've always had a knack for this kind of thing but haven't thought before of why... So here's my result, after a little thought.There are two very important things to consider when in conversation with another "intellectually capable" individual:First off, let them instigate the discussion. Of course, if you need a starting point, go for it, but always lead up to it and let them make the first move in the direction of a long-winded and in-depth discussion. Start off with the routine small talk, and then ask them a question about something, preferably something they mentioned when you asked them what they'd been up to. For example: "Commuting to London everyday must be quite hard work; how do you normally get there? What do you think of the train lines to London? I often find they can be a little congested." Small beginnings, I know, but it's guaranteed to lead somewhere much deeper if you keep at it. This topic could go trains to London>Transport in London>London's culture>Development of society, with reference to London>How the culture of certain places, namely London, affect societal norms etc. That's the idea of conversation; it develops, and so long as you keep the right tone, you can make it all interesting regardless of your usual preference. Remember, keep it light-hearted and, at the start, simple. That way, it'll encourage the other person to elaborate and take more of a position in the conversation, meaning that both of you will be covering new ground, making it interesting for both of you. Secondly, always be enthusiastic about what the other is saying. Show a real interest in what they are saying, and don't be accusing or negative. Always take a light-hearted tone on discussion, or else it'll end up descending into dullness.I hope this response helped; if anything needs expanding upon, please just respond. Happy to help!
What exactly is an intellectual conversation?
an when i say this guy is psycho, i mean literally. he literaly thinks he is the anti christ, he thinks hes better then anybody else, talks about killing people. puts himself in solitude. says he hears voices (i dont believe it.) ..my list could go on. i wasnt really sayin the fact that he was psycho had anything to do with anything.. but psycho ppl seem to be intellectual. ironic. an by the way.. i can talk deep.. yet my friend thinks i dont really hav intellectual conversations with her.. shes not that into politics.. but what would i talk about really ..... she likes those deep wise things. yet when i bring them up she doesnt want to talk about them. is it just me do you recon?.. i kno every one thinks im stupid. maybe thats why..
What exactly is an Intellectual Conversation?
Drop in a reference to postmodernism ... hey presto! Instant intellectual conversation!! This site will assist in any such endeavours: http://www.elsewhere.org/pomo/ ––––––––––––––––––––––––––––
Do you enjoy intense intellectual conversations?
usually yes but depends on content too. it's hard to talk about something with extreme controversy - generally religion and politics. if the conversation is between or among people who are mature enough to accept outcomes with open mind, then the conversation can be meaningful and constructive - that doesn't mean to accept or change one's belief, only to accept the outcome. however, if only to accept the outcome, not changing opinion, it can hardly become a good debate because the participants won't make much about their points. if they are in the wider audience who come and listen or will read or watch in TV or whatever, then even if nobody will accept to change opinion, it's worth debating. intense philosophical conversation is only for those who are knowledgeable and open minded. in a family of intelligent people, such conversation should take place often because that can make enjoyable/valuable time as will be useful for everyone. but nobody, especially the bread winner, must not take unfair advantage or conversation can only produce grievance.
How often do you engage in intellectual conversation with your spouse? Do you ever include your children?
I love discussing intellectual thoughts and ideas with my husband - we tend towards political and spiritual topics. Although we hold fairly similar (not identical!) beliefs, we're both extremely competitive and passionate souls and can get into some pretty heated back-and-forth. It's always just been part of our relationship... one of my favorite parts, I must add. Recently, we've begun engaging our kids in discussions like these. They don't have particularly strong political or religious identifications at the delicate ages of 7 and 5, but it's fun to pose open-ended questions to them and hear their responses. Things like, "What do you think happens after we die?" and, "How important is it to be rich?" really make them think... and they're forever surprising me with their insights! I know as a teen, I discussed religion, politics, and social issues regularly with my parents. I learned from them, but I also disagreed with them. All in all, it was a valuable aspect of my adolescence because it cultivated critical thinking skills and taught me how to develop and defend an opinion in a safe learning environment. I want to try and create the same environment for my kids.
Why do people hate intellectual conversations?
Oh id rather be talking about philosophy or art than jersey shore, ewwww. Yea i hate small talk, its boring, pointless, and unproductive. I wanna talk to someone and feel like i learned something worthwhile.