How do you cope with being weird and not normal like everyone else?
Most answer’s here say there is no normal, and one should accept their weirdness. However, the world says I’m not normal, and ensures I can’t accept myself. I have Asperger's. I alternate between feeling like the worst human being ever, or wondering why I have to be the one to change. It takes years for people to ‘get me,’ and only after they are told I’m on the spectrum. My best friend doesn’t believe Autism exists and thinks I’m using my Asperger’s as an excuse.Most of my life is a series of misunderstandings, which is frustrating because of how straightforward I am. I very rarely mean to be cruel, and it’s horrible to be called a bitch when I had no intention of being hurtful.I cope by keeping silent. I rarely share my opinions, even on ‘safe places’ such as Quora. It can be very lonely. It’s impossible to please oneself and others all the time. I’m told I must please everyone else before myself. It sucks. So I also focus on whats good about me. I’m trustworthy. To those who know me well, I’m never boring, and I’m a great listener. No really, I’m a writer so I love stories.I know this post sounds so depressing, but I wanted to write a counterpoint to all those who think it’s the world’s problem if you aren’t liked. I like the way I see the world. I just wish everyone else did as well.
Is it wrong to want to be someone else?
Not at all.There is nothing wrong with what you feel inside of you. Nothing at all.The fact that you are feeling this envy, this jealousy inside yourself cannot be changed. You’re going to feel this way one way or another, so what’s the point in denying that it’s there?So… Why do you want to be someone else? What do you hate so much about yourself?The truth is, we all change all the time. Even biologically speaking not a single cell in your entire body is the same as it was 7 years ago. From a molecular standpoint, you are a completely new person that has never been on this planet… and that about every 7 years.But with that come a lot of mental shifts as well. Our personality changes with the experiences we make.That all being said, you are going to become someone else regardless of what you do!You are going to change one way or another. So why is there anything wrong with wanting to be someone else now?In the end, you are going to have to decide how you want to change. Who you become is up to you.You can complain all you want, be envious and jealous and always hope and dream that you will just magically turn into the person of your dreams but that won’t happen.If you dislike something about yourself accept it. Accept it and then find a way to change it!It is completely okay to dislike who you are, as long as you do something about it in the end. But it is not okay to hate yourself and then never lift a finger to change it.
Do weird people realize they are weird?
Do you mean do we all know we don't conform to the Hollywood Brad Pit and Angeline model of normal? Yes we all know that. And those who think they do conform or want to or try to conform judge everyone else as weird.I know a weird person and she thinks she is the coolest person on the block. She is not weird to herself just to others who have different values than she does. She thinks THEY are weird.I’m weird in that I have had completely different experiences than most and often have a different outlook. I know that. But again I too think I'm not the weird one.Technically no one is weird. If you walk in their shoes you will see they like anyone else logically become what they are using the same laws of logic you became what you are.And technically everyone is weird. It is just that you probably have a picture in your head of what normal is and judge everyone by that standard. In that case, I bet even you don't live up to it. Deep down you probably have an insecurity and think you don't measure up to the cool guy you interacted with that you just felt awkward around because you weren't as articulate or as relaxed or as flexible as. Yet he had completely different life experiences than you and made different choices than you.So we are all weird and all not weird and we all know it and don't know it. And some of us really don't care one way or the other.So, I'd say just don't judge.
Why do I always try to be someone else?
Although it seems you are trying to be somebody else, you cannot be anyone but yourself. At the same time, almost everyone is not being their true self. Instead, they project a social self that conforms with social norms and seeks to fit in with their social groups.Sometimes we notice ourselves trying to be something else, but often we do not. If you can see what is going on, then you have the ability to change it.Try asking these questions of yourself:What, specifically, do you not like about trying to imitate others?Why? How would you like to act?What is stopping you from acting as you would like to act?How can you stop stopping yourself from acting as you would like to act (clearly, you have skills in stopping yourself)?A reason we try to be who we feel we are not is because we fear others will not like our underlying self, or that they will harm our inner fragility. Underlying this is a fear or dislike of ourselves. Change the way you think about yourself and you will change how you think others think about you.
Why do people pretend to be someone they're not?
We are born into a world of comparisons, conformists and trends and "rebellious", "unique", "special" people; the first 3 points being more accepted and easily referenced as compared to the last 3 points."People always tend to be someone else" because we seek acknowledgement, acceptance and understanding. To get these, we learn/ copy from others and present ourselves to be seen as part of the accepted society.We "imitate someone's style, accent, postures, habits, profession" because of many reasons. 1)We find ourselves intrigued by them. We do not understand the way they behave, therefore we imitate to learn for ourselves the appeal of such behaviour, by presenting ourselves with said imitated behaviour to a/the crowd of people with which we comfortable with, then observing their reaction to said behaviour.2)Psychologically, we do this to become closer to said stranger, to appeal to the other person psychologically, to show that we are friendly and that we would like to be friends.(don't quote me here, the idea is there but my phrasing could be wrong)3)We feel that the fastest way to be like someone is to simply Be That Someone. For example, if you would like to be an athlete, through this method, you would observe the way several athlete's behave, and thus copy the way they think, feel, speak, live, in an effort to forcefully "inject" the qualities that makes a person an athlete INTO themselves, thus becoming an athlete themselves.Yes, it is "possible to be ourselves". This is not a general answer, seeing as that would defeat the purpose of individuality, but rather a personal answer. I become myself through intense self-reflection. I observe and test myself and the surrounding elements to see for myself my true strengths and weaknesses. At the same time, I consistently ask/survey myself on how i feel about what I am about to do, what I just did and what I am doing. Through a separate perspective, I collect my "personal survey data" and go through for any consistencies and any abnormalities, then I apply changes to my personality and character before repeating the process to observe my "updated" performance.(sounds very computer-y, I know, but I'm comfortable with the pace and the way I'm learning so I'm gonna just keep going until I Have to change)
Could i sell pencil drawings?
Im a teenager and i really need some money for a trip... i was wondering if there was a good place online or something where i could sell drawings without much hastle.... any details would help! also i need to know if they are even good enough to be sold :/ so heres some ive done pretty recently for school and as gifts: THERES MORE IF YOU CHECK OUT THE REST OF MY FLICKR PHOTOSTREAM :D http://www.flickr.com/photos/73298135@N02/6615392899/