Married men: Is he friendly or flirting?
I'm 30 and have been married for a few months. I work closely with a married man who is 50. He's been married for close to 30 years and has grown sons. I can't tell if he's friendly with me or flirting a bit at work. He talks to me a lot more than he talks to other employees. He smiles and jokes around with me, sometimes playfully hitting me. He'll seek me out to talk or ask me questions either about work or about my life. And when he does, he'll stand close to me. For awhile there was some coincidental touching where our fingers or hands would brush when he handed me something. And also he sometimes seems to look deep into my eyes. However, he does always seem to mention something about his wife when we talk, but nothing major. For instance, we were talking about a book that he read and he said that his wife didn't like it. He seems to be in love with her still. He mentioned that they are spending more time together since his boys are in college now. So am I reading too much into it? How am I supposed to interpret these things? He is one of those super friendly guys? Not looking for an affair, just wondering if I am misreading some signals.
This guy is flirting with me and he knows I'm married!!?
So I recently started a new job, about a week ago, this guy from a different department comes to my desk and asks me if I'm new and just briefly introduces himself and tells me to ask him if I need anything! A few days later I was staying late at work and almost everyone was gone! He comes to my desk and goes like "I heard you're married!" and I smile and say "yes I am". Then he goes like, "Honestly, I wanted to ask you out before I knew you were married" So I just smile again! And then he tells me about his bad luck with girls and that he was engaged twice, but things didn't work out! The following day he passes by and smiles to me and winks at me! I just smiled back! What did he mean by this wink!! Is he really flirting with me? He is a really nice guy but I don't want him to think that I will ever give up my marriage for him!! What should I do?
What should I do about a married man flirting with me? He always gets real close to me and touches me and at first I didn't think anything about it. But today I made a joke and then he said he was fond of me and called me beautiful.
No, you are not being self-centered, you are in a shock. I had a similar experience too before while working as a trainee with a supervisor. He used to come inside my room in a way as if to check reports and then touch me on the back of my shoulder, hug me and then squeeze me really hard. I used to think him like my uncle since his looks was really decent (note that looks can be deceiving) until when he kissed me on the forehead one day. It was intolerable. I couldn't utter a voice but I felt so bad for myself. I really wanted to slap myself for not taking a stand for myself. But, my head was boiling up and so took a courage and told everything to my senior officer who was luckily a female. She understood this and immediately asked me to shift into her room the very next day. Then, I started working from her room. He couldn't say anything since I was safe now from his dirty looks. He couldn't even make an eye contact with me after that incident. I didn't want to create a scene in the office so I settled my matter silently. Also, he has a son and of course, his wife too (who would be embarrassed finding his husband's behavior). Thankfully, it was a three months period and it came to an end and I took a deep breathe after being suffocated in that office with his presence. However, I regret not raising my voice against such an inhumane act which could prevent him from making other girls like me to be his prey. I should have slapped him hard on his face. But, I kept silent just because he was my supervisor and I wanted his references next time. See, things like these come into play in real life. We have really no choice left, when we expect one thing from a person and then get shit on the other hand. Lesson learnt: You have to take a firm stand no matter who he is.
Is my teacher flirting with me? hes married...?
Firstly, I really like the way you right ... Haha it's fun to read. Anyhoo, since you mentioned you are 'shy', he may just be talking like that to relax you down and open you up so you become more talkative, as some teachers tend to do that. Although, it kind of seems that he is going a bit overboard, leading to a bit of flirting. It may be intentional or unintentional if his nature is like that. I can't be sure, you should know if he's just simply nice, talking to you as a friend rather then a teacher. It also depends on his age. If he's way too old for you, it may be kind of creepy since he is married, and if he surely is, and you feel he is flirting, he may be some kind of creep. By what you tell me, he seems like a nice natured friendly chap, maybe to you to make you feel comfortable in his class, but if you feel that it's a bit too much, it may be flirting. I recommend you don't do anything right now, but wait a few days to see what happens. A teacher having an affair with a student doesn't quite sound right. But it's entirely upto you, just giving my opinion! Hope it helps :) good luck!
Why would a flirting married man wear his ring?
Yes , I have an answer to that question . He is only flirting , not looking for anything and he wears his ring to let girls know that he is taken and so they will know that he is not really interested in an affair/relationship . Flirting is not cheating . It is perfectly ok as long as it is not looking to receive . It's kind of like my wife of 41 years has always told me. She said it this way: Honey I do not care where you get your appetite , as long as you come home for supper . Kind of speaks for itself . When you get married it does not mean that either of you is now blind and can not look or tallk to someone else . I hope this helps , Good luck and God bless
Is flirting while you're married cheating?
Many, many questions on Quora ask “is thus and such an activity cheating?”Cheating is breaking the rules of a relationship. Every single relationship is different; therefore, there is no universal “yes” or “no.” If something breaks the rules of your particular relationship, it is cheating; otherwise, it is not.To use some examples from here on Quora:Is flirting cheating? If it violates the rules of your relationship, yes. If it does not, no.Is sexting cheating? If it violates the rules of your relationship, yes. If it does not, no.Is dating two people casually cheating? If it violates the rules of your relationships, yes. If it does not, no.Is having an online pen pal cheating? If it violates the rules of your relationship, yes. If it does not, no.Is going to a massage parlor cheating? If it violates the rules of your relationship, yes. If it does not, no.Is getting a lap dance cheating? If it violates the rules of your relationship, yes. If it does not, no.Is going to a strip club cheating? If it violates the rules of your relationship, yes. If it does not, no.Is polyamory cheating? If it violates the rules of your relationship, yes. If it does not, no.Is posting sexy pictures on Snapchat cheating? If it violates the rules of your relationship, yes. If it does not, no.If you are unclear about whether or not something is cheating, talk to your partner about it. If you can't talk to your partner about it, I reckon you have your answer.
Do happily married men flirt?
I agree with others that it depends on how you define flirting. I am friendly and playful with new people I meet, both men and women and I’m crazy happily married for over a quarter century.The online dictionary definition of flirt is “behave as though attracted to or trying to attract someone, but for amusement rather than with serious intentions”.Some people would interpret my actions as being flirting, while others would not. But there is a big difference between that and actually trying to attract someone for romantic purposes. As another responder says, it depends upon intent…but the problem is that true intent is only known by the person who is (or is not :-)) flirting.So let me sum it up this way: Many happily married men are friendly, playful, courteous, chivalrous and kind to women who are not their wives…but it’s not with the intent of a romantic encounter, it’s just their fun personality showing through.One last thought, men who are fully confident in the security of their relationship with their wives do this without any real concern...and the wife doesn’t worry either. Both they and their wife know he’s just being fun to make someone smile and encourage their day. Men in an insecure relationship may do the same thing, but they are seeking someone who will appreciate their company…since they don’t feel they are appreciated in their marriage. This is VERY dangerous and needs to be dealt with by working to learn the secrets to restoring joy and love to a marriage in crisis.Hope this helps. We teach marriage classes and have mentored couples so we’ve seen this many times. :-)
Why would a guy that is married flirt with me?
It depends on the type of guy you are interested in:option A: They guy that keeps being passed aroundOption B: The guy who cheatsOption C: The guy who is just kidding aroundOption D: He wants you to do one thingLol. JK. It’s this he wants:
Why would a married man flirt with me? Is it the chase? Is it because he knows it can never lead to anything?
Yes it is the Chase. Just because he’s caught one, doesn't mean his hunting days are over. In his mind it can certainly lead to something. Sex and the thrill of the highly sought after stimulating feelings of infatuation. His marriage is probably very sound in a companionate stage that lacks that passion, if he’s not willing to put any effort into his marital relationship. He wants something new and exciting that flows easier and makes him feel good about himself. It will also likely spice up his married life with his newly found stroked ego.
If he's married now, why does he keep flirting with me?
My ex broke up with me about 9 months ago. He had a fiance in another country the whole 18 months we were dating, He shocked me maybe two weeks before he was going to get married and finally told me the truth. Long story short, when I see him lately he has been staring at me and making sexual comments & jokes. He gets jealous when he over hears a guy give me a compliment. He's a manager in a store close to my house. I guess he over heard me talking to a male friend on my cell phone while I was waiting in line at the check out and he started yelling at his customers as if he was taking out his frustrations on them. I havent been saying anything to him. I dont hate him any more, I'm just letting him live his life. A few people noticed that he has been coming to work overly dressed with nice clothes on. I have a very strong inclination that he is still interested. But I am offended by the thought of it because he totally dissed me for this other woman. So why does he care about what I do?