I broke up with my boyfriend, now he's trying to make me feel guilty. Should I talk to him?
Hell no do not talk to him. Never at any one make you feel guilty or obligated to speak to him or her based off the simple fact that they want or appear to NEED Or want you to speak to them. You do what YOU want at all times and do not let others affect the person you really are. Don't let the insecurities of others affect your choices. You make your own choices every second of every single day. No one MAKES you feel any way. YOU make YOURSELF feel the way you do. No one ever MAKES you feel a certain way including the emotion of feeling guilty. You ALLOW someone to make you feel guilty. "They" are not MAKING you feel any type of way, you're choosing to ALLOW "them" to make" you feel that way. So don't call into the trap and continuous cycle of allowing others to affect your mood and way of thinking. From personal experience all it leads to is denial, self destruction, lack of self confidence, and hatred. Hatred referring to the hate you feel towards the world and it's lack of authinicy and unfairness as well as the hatred towards specific people, places, and tangible objects all based and influenced by the inital control you YOURSELF WILLINGLY gave to whoever/whomever you're allowing yourself to feel guilty "because of" in the first place.
I've broke up with my boyfriend. He's trying to make me feel guilty for choosing my parents over him. What should I do to get over it?
Thanks for A2A.I have been through the same situation and I exactly know how it feels.I had been in the same kind of relationship as you, only the difference being it lasted for only 6 months. I couldn’t handle his over-dominance role in my life.My advice- Stay away from this guy as soon as possible. While you have taken a stand to go for your parent’s choice stick to it. Not only this guy is worth your attention but he is not worth thinking over. Don’t even rethink about your choices. I feel deeply sorry for the emotional abuse you went through for almost 4 years. Its high time girl! Get over him. If he tries to tell you how pathetic your decision was (assuming guys like him tend to say that) ignore him. Tell him off that it is your decision and he needs to move on. You need someone better in your life, who respect you and your opinions. It might hurt now, but it will save you from further abuse, so for now your goal should be removing him out of your life. Try pursuing a hobby, go out with your girl friends, change your routine. Meet your relatives, interact with new people. This might help you. Start this for few weeks and you can see the change.
Why is my ex-girlfriend trying to make me feel guilty now, after we were on good terms after she broke up with me?
I could speculate. There’s a good chance I might even be right. But whenever I am asked to do so, particularly regarding a third party about whom I know absolutely nothing, I tend to lean toward saying “asking them” rather than taking an educated guess.In this case I’m going to do both, speculate and recommend that you also ask her. My speculation is that she may feel guilty, perhaps even conflicted about having broken up with you and that her behavior toward you, shaming you, is an unconscious rationalization of what she did.If it were me, I send her a note/letter indicating that I found what she is doing has been hurtful and asking is she even aware of having done it? Additionally I would ask her (if this is something you want) does she want to try to be a couple, or just friends, or what? That you are open to any of the possibilities with the exception of being made to feel shame or guilt.If you do this, try to make it both straight forward and as non accusatory or aggressive as possible. The very reason I suggested a note/letter is that generally speaking, you have a better chance to be thoughtfully heard. Most people in highly emotionally charged situations, have a tendency not to fully listen, if at all, and to lash out defensively. Obviously that would defeat the entire purpose of asking them. Letters can have the same initial effect. They may get balled up and thrown on the floor at the first insinuation of wrong doing.But most of the time they are reread. Often several times. Therefore they can be the most effective way of communicating important and highly emotive ideas and subjects.
Why did my ex continue to try and make me feel guilty about leaving even though she had already moved on to someone else while letting believe that she was still alone?
Because you allow it. She apparently abused you, and now that she has left you, she continues to abuse you.Because you allow it.It seems that you are weak. It is one thing to be caring and feeling, but you must also be strong. You get cheated on because you are weak. You care about the cheating (blank) because you are weak.Every now and then you have to say “girl, go on upstairs and put that black nightie on, no panties! I'll be up in a minute”.Women need to know, and it is essential, that you are a man.
My boyfriend tried to make me feel guilty for something he also did. Should I leave him?
It’s a cop-out really. There could be many reasons why he’s doing this. Only he knows. It could be due to an undeserved sense of betrayal, it could be classic manipulation tactics. he could be projecting his guilt, or he could simply being doing this so you feel guilty which could help detract from what he’s done. In the end it’s not equal.
Ex boyfriend making me feel guilty?
First of all, nobody can make you feel guilty but yourself. Secondly, I question your decision to stay "friends" with him when it is clearly causing both of you more pain than pleasure. He's making a point of hurting you and trying to make you feel badly, and he clearly isn't happy being your friend. That's unhealthy. You can ask him to change his behavior. Say, "I don't like it when you gripe about being lonely, so knock it off." Let him know what the consequences will be if he doesn't listen to you. "If the only reason you want to talk to me is to try and make me feel badly about my decision, then I'd just as soon not talk to you in the first place." Or, you could say, "I thought you wanted to remain friends after we broke up. The fact of the matter is, though, that you aren't acting like a friend. You are acting like someone who is trying to make me feel bad, or someone who only wants to whine all the time. If that's the kind of friendship that you want, I'd just as soon not have you in my life at all." Don't word it as an ultimatum or anything, just tell him what is bothering you and explain that you aren't going to be manipulated. Alternatively, you can skip that part and just cut him off. Unfriend him on Facebook. Block him from chat. If he sends you an email asking why, tell him that you can't be his friend until he moves on. A slightly less drastic measure would be to stop asking him how he is or what he is doing. If he brings it up anyway, say, "There's a reason I stopped asking you what/how you were doing, and this is it. You only ever complain. I don't want to hear it." Then sign off.
Why does he always make me feel so guilty?
its just depend on the situation, if u are a crazy jelouse girl of course he will make u feel guilty for the argu, he won't make u feel guilty untill u take the responsavility. If I was the one that start the argu I take the responsability if it was him then he should take it, and them we apologizing, him or me for start and the other one for continue wih the argu. I argu with my husband sometime but he knows when is he fault and I also know when is my fault i thx god i got married with somebody rational. after all, must of our argu end with the word I love you.
Does my EX-boyfriend feel GUILTY for.....?
OK I'll try to make this short. I dated my ex for a short time then HE ended it. He's 26, I'm 21. He has lots of experience with dating, while he was my first kiss & first bf. Our relationship was so innocent, cuddling in his room, holding hands, kissing. We never had sex cuz he knew I wanna save sex for marriage. He would still say hi to me on msn even though HE ended it. It has been over for more than ONE YEAR. 2 months ago, he called me, after one yr. & wanted to make plans together so we could see a movie sometime. We set a date, he picked me up & after the movie he took me home. On the drive home, when I asked him why he wanted to see me, he said that he wants to "see me every once in awhile". I felt disrespected so when I got home I said "bye forever" to him on msn. Then I felt badso a week later I said sorry to him on msn. Sincethen I have said hi to him 2 on msn.Then a few days ago he said hi to me on msn & he wanted to know what I had been up to Does he feel guilty or miss me?
My girlfriend feels that I'm making her feel guilty about things.?
I have no idea what I'm doing wrong. My girlfriend thinks I'm making her feel guilty about things. I don't know what I am saying wrong and I'm not meaning to come across that way at all. It seems anything I try to explain in a situation for example we were both tired the other night so she was going to go to bed and I was going to go back home I kissed her goodnight and said I love you and walked out and she walked upstairs. Like we would do any other night. I got text saying she doesn't need that BS right now of me walking away all bluntly. I tried to explain to her in a very calmly way that, that's not what I was doing at all and she says I'm making her feel guilty. And said she's to tired to talk about this tonight I'm goin to bed and I simply said ok no problem can you call me tomorrow and she said see guilt and hung up on me. What did I do wrong here. I'm so confused right now. I love this girl more then anything but it seems everything I say is wrong or something. Help?