Is it too rude or creepy to compliment a woman's legs?
There is a narrow line on how to compliment a woman on her physical features. Unless she already likes you…it’s creepyville all the way. I once complimented a woman on her physical features and that was it. She treated me in an uncalled for manner like as if I was a creep complete with her giving me disdainful dirty looks. And I was very respectful to her when I gave her the compliment. Women do not like compliments unless you are a super handsome young rich man and they want your money or at least they are interested in you. There is a way to compliment .Do it very quickly and and direct and kinda serious keep it decent and casual and immediately move on!!! Preferably dont interact with her ever again if you must now treat her with a smug form of disdain and as if she was asking you for an unreasonable $10.000 loan. Or if she was annoying you. never look at her chest or she will treat you like garbage unless she is already into you.
Is it rude to end an email with the phrase "please advise"?
"please advise" is an incomplete sentence that really means" Please give me an answer to the question(s) that I just asked you. If there are no questions asked, then the phrase is misused. I would respond by asking, "What exactly do you need from me?" It's not passive agressive but it IS passing the buck if no question is clear. It can be a legitimate request for information, however improperly stated it may be.
There's this girl that many people seem to like but she's really rude to me so I feel alone when everyone talks good about her, and we have mutual friends. How do I deal with this feeling?
That’s a hard one. Sometimes young women can pick someone to exclude in order to feel better about themselves. This happened to me. Here’s what I did: nothing. I did make direct eye contact with her and I know she knew she was being an idiot. We both knew. Then I lived my life happily. I did not defend myself or engage on her level. I don’t know or care what became of her, but I do know she will always know I saw right through her ugliness and pettiness. It’s probably a lot more difficult now with social media. You also have the right to speak up at school or to trusted adults if you are being bullied. Good luck!
What do you do if someone is really rude to you?
Usually I'm so focused on what I'm doing that I completely miss what most people say. So I smile at them and ask politely “sorry didn't hear that. What did you say?” if I sense they were rude or angry, I wait for them to start answering me, then interrupt them with a “Actually I'm kinda busy right now. I'll help you out later.” and go back to work, ignoring them and not acknowledging their hostility. And I literally ignore them. It usually disrupts their anger, and they adjust to talking like adults about their issue. Of course in work in academia. So rudeness is a rarity?The key is to give an unexpected response that deflates their anger and forces them to shift emoting gears. They want an argument, a fight. Never give it to them. Force them to intellectualise their problems and articulate it.
What will you do when someone is unnecessarily rude to you?
Ignoring brutal or impolite behavior causes 2 problems : 1) the person can/will go on doing it and I feel it is our responsibilities as co-humans to help prevent violence (even verbal violence) to weaker persons (children, teenagers, homeless, low-esteem persons). 2) it leaves me, maybe not everyone, wondering “why?”, “did I do something rude?”, “did the person misunderstand something I did or say?”. So, whenever it is possible I stop everything else I’m doing and kindly but firmly ask them what they mean or why they just said/did that.I try to ask open and humble questions, I assume it is my fault : “did I do something that pained you?”, “Did I disturb you without noticing?”, “Was I driving on the wrong lane?”, “Did I forgot to say hello?”, it’s all about finding a peaceful way of engaging in a constructive dialogue. As for names, it’s even easier, I ask what it means : “Excuse me, English (or French) is not my first language, I do not understand this word. Can you define it?”. The point is to give it back to them but peacefully. And stay curious! We learn as much from rude people (about them, society, us too sometimes) than we do from followers and admirers.PS : I like equal to equal relationships.Take care! And don’t be rude to me or you’ll end up telling me about your great grand-mother and your first boyfriend before you even know it ;-)
Is it considered rude to go to the gynecologist without waxing your private parts?
This is a great question. NO, IT ISN'T. PLEASE DON'T WAX ANYTHING BEFORE YOU GO TO A GYNECOLOGIST OR A MIDWIFE. As professionals, we couldn't care less about body hair in legs or armpits. And characteristics of pubic hair give us valuable information about hormonal balance. Waxing of shaving the area could also produces rashes, irritation (As others had so accurately pointed out in their answers down below) and ingrown hairs that can harm the delicate skin of the vulva.Same goes for secretions that may be produced in the vaginal canal or vulva. The characteristics and odors of secretions can reflect a normal vaginal flora or signs of vaginal infections.So, how should you "prepare" for a doctor's appointment or a midwife's appointment? The afternoon or night before, wash the area with running water (Just water. No soap. Not even the ones that are specially formulated for personal hygiene.), then proceed as usual.Trust me. It will be a huge plus during a regular check up.
Are the people of Hong Kong rude? I often have a poor experience when I visit Hong Kong. Do others have the same experience?
I have lived many different countries. Now, I live in HK. You meet 3 kinds of people in HK.Expats: They are okay.Weternised Chinese: They are also okay cause they understand there is world outside HK.Hong Kong Chinese: They make biggest population of HK and to be honest they are A***H**Ls. They don't really don't know there is a world outside HK. It's only HK Govt. Tax policy which is making it a prosperous city. If this policy is ended, or Mainland makes some other cities in China more tax and immigration friendly, 70% of Expats will move.Let me give few examples:Go shopping in Kowloon area the shopkeeper will behave if he is not selling stuff, he will behave as if he is donating the stuff.You buy something of $78.10. You have $78 but don't have 10 cents, shopkeepr will not leave his 10 Cents. Even if you are a regular customer of his shop. He will ask you to pay in full or leave. HK retail businesses work on minimum 40% margin.You want to rent a place for short term for 6 Months, they don't understand what is short term rental. The contract should be of 2 years rental only.I need to pay rent by 7th of every month. I was not in HK, I informed landlord that I will be back on 9th and pay the rent. Many HK Chinese don't understand this. He sent me a court notice on 8th to pay the rent. I am renting his place since 3 years.If you are Mainland Chinese, African, Indian, Asian, you can't expect the amount of racism they have. Only white are welcome. Even britishers f***ked them for 99 years still only White are welcome.What is discount? Discount never exist.Poor old lady falls down while walking, no one will help her to get up.What is smile, they don't know.These are just few examples. On the other hand Mainland is much much much better place to live.People are friendly, helpful and awesome. Honestly, the things which you hear about China being a miserable place to live is not at all true. It is normal semi developed country. People just had made their minds that China is a bad place.
I told a girl "I don't think you have a pretty face but I think you have a goodlooking body".Do you think what I said to that girl was rude?
That girl told me my comment was rude and it was rude of me to tell her that her face is not pretty because she never aksed for my opinion about her looks in the first place. I will be honest thought that girl NEVER asked for my opinion about her looks in the first place. but still I do NOT think what I said to that girl was rude because I complimented and said a nice thing to her after I told her I do not think she is pretty by telling her I think she has a good looking body.
He is incapable of changing. I am out of options other than suicide?
I'm referring to my dad on this. He is the rudest, insensitive, and most stereotypical racist person I know. My dad is Asian and is just a rude, loudmouth overbearing uncaring person. I am so tired of his act. Calls me names, always compares to me to people he sees on tv saying, "why can't you be like that" or "why couldn't my son be as smart as him" which is weird, cause I have really good grades. He constantly judges evertyhing I do, saying that because I refuse to listen to his nagging, I'm acting like a black person, or Mexican. He constantly harasses me about my body, and likes to bring up sensitive personal subject about me. It's gotten so bad, I actually been called up to the counselor by one of my friends for a suicide prevention protocol because I am suicidal because of him... In fact, twice within the same month.... Each time, my dad tries to me a "nice guy" but this charade literally only lasted for 3 days. Is it going to take the police to make him understand that there is an obvious problem? Obviously not, because the police did show up to school and forced a 3 hour parent conference within the third suicide prevention case with me. I even frkin wrote a note that said "why I hate my dad,"listing the reason I hate him right on the table which he did read and my dad is still not budging his attitude. Plus, I've been forced into therapy which is still not solving the case with my dad because he is incapable of changing. I am out of options... Other than suicide...