When is it too late to get back with the mother of your child if she dumped you?
It's too late when she isn't mad.. when what you do or don't do is no more than annoying. When she doesn't react to news that you're with someone else, talking to someone else.. when she doesn't care if you cancel again.. when she takes hours to return your text, and she's polite but unconcerned about you.. it's too late. When she's indifferent, it's too late.Does she want to “get back” with you? If she's not sure (mad at you but calling you, etc) then you still have a chance.If you still have a chance.. and you might, here's what you do. First thing you need to do is stop and listen. Really listen. Study her like you do the lyrics of your favorite musician, or the stats of your favorite sports team. Notice all her habits and memorize her likes and dislikes. Take an interest what she likes - a genuine interest, not just because you like her. It's the commonalities between a couple that hold them together. And having a past, a child, and/or physical attraction doesn't count as commonality.Second, be genuinely kind. Do nice things with — and this is super important — No Expectations. Do NOT expect anything in return. If you truly care for her, be kind without hope. Be kind just because you care.Third, pay attention to her. Listen when she yells, without trying to defend yourself. Let her vent. Listen and talk about things you both like. The foundation of a relationship that grows close is friendship. So be a friend, as much as she'll let you.If my ex had done these things when I left, we'd probably be still married now. But it's too late for him. I'm not even mad anymore.
Should I wait for my baby's father to come back?
"1) the father doesn't want to be there. 2) he's not ready to have a kid. 3) he obviously doesn't love me." Which of these three points implies a happy ending is just around the corner if only you wait? That he doesn't love you would be reason enough to want him out of your life and far away. Why would you inflict such a person on this child you say you love? Do you want this child to be raised by someone who doesn't love them ... or even you? That's a recipe for abuse and trauma. Not only that, but he also wasn't taking precautions. It's not only your responsibility but his also. That he is blaming you isn't a good sign for his ability to be responsible. Accept the pain, hon. Don't make decisions based on wishes. He isn't who you thought he was. He's made it perfectly clear who he really is already! Believe him! Separate the real man from that ideal image you hoped he might fit. He's not that person. You're going to have to look for someone else if you want that kind of relationship. Next time, believe what someone shows you of their character, without making excuses for them. Now, make your decision based on what has actually happened. Can you raise that child all by yourself? Can you earn the money to raise it in a healthy way? Do you have friends and family to support you and help care for it? What about adoption? Think this through based on reality, knowing this man isn't in the picture at all. He isn't going to be there for you. And if he does hang around, he will probably make things harder and more painful for you, not easier. Knowing all this, what is best?
HUGE decision... Get back with child's father or stay with current guy?? 10 points?
Don't do something just because you have a child, you may end up resenting the child for it later. A family is not just the mother and father of the child, it can be mom and step dad. A family is what you make it. For years a friend of mine, who also had 2 children with no involvement from dad, and I did everything that a family does-we took trips, had weekend outings, ate meals together, were there for each others child's school or sports activities, took turns taking the kids to the Dr etc. She and I did everything that a mom and dad would do (except no kind of physical relationship-she is my best friend). We both are married now and are still really close and do things together, but when neither of us had a "family" as you say for our children we made one. Stop thinking that a family is ONLY the biological parents of a child and think about what you want and what is best for your child. You and dad split up for a reason, is it worth the pain that you may cause your child to end the current relationship and have him not see this guy any more only to have you and dad get back together just to have things end again and maybe next time end worse?
What will happen if I take my child's father off of child support and can I put him back on if I want?
If he really wants to be with you for YOU, then he won't make forgiving the arrearage and canceling his child support an issue. If he does, then there's your answer.Now, what you can do is get him off child support on a go-forward basis, provided he intends for the 3 of you to live together, and for his income to go towards supporting the entire household.But don't forgive the arrearage. That's money you've already spent supporting your child, and he needs to pay his share of the past. ( You can't waive money owed to the State anyway.) If he's ready to be a stand up father and husband, that's great. Tell him to put his money where his mouth is. If he means it, then he will.
How accurate is dna?? My son's "father's" dna came back 99.84% he's the father..but he's not!! What do I do??
A few years back, I had a live in boyfriend, I found out that he cheated on me...so to get back at him, I slept with my ex..I later found out that I was pregnant and told both..when my child was born my ex wanted a dna test, so we got one and it came back 99.84% he's the father but I promise he is not the father...I know looks don't hold up in court but my child is identical to my live in boyfriend...And when he was born the dr told me he had a rare blood type which is A-...My live in boyfriend has the same exact type...Could this be a coincidence that my child looks just like him and shares the same rare blood type?? I really can't believe that but then I can't believe that dna is inaccurate, right?? In this case I don't know what to do, I know he's not the father but I don't know where to turn for help to get this straightened out...But I know if my case is what I KNOW it is, there could be a lot of men out there that were INCORRECTLY proven to be or not be the father...
Can I get back with my ex even though she is pregnant with another guy's baby?
My exand I were together for 6yrs. The last 2yrs were up and down and I felt rejected and alone. The last straw was him lying to me. I moved out. All I wanted to do was forget him and the pain I felt. I met a guy a few weeks after moving out and got pregant. It turned out the guy was a Narcissist and was making my life hell. He texted my ex telling him the baby was his( it wasnt though). My ex emailed me and I Sked him for help. Long story short my narcissist ex is in jail for the millionth tim in his life and my ex has been helping my regain and rebuild from the things that man did to me. He has been nothing but supportive and loving.Reading your post kind of helps put things into perspective. Who cares what the other guys thinks , he obviously didnt care the HELL he put me through when I was pregant and he didnt care that he stole all my childrens stuff (including the baby) and destroyed my home. Ive come to realize I had handled my exs and I breakup in an unhealthy matter and he is the most normal person Ive ever had a relationship with.
How to tell my boyfriend he is not the father of my baby?
I had suspected my boyfriend was cheating on me but I was wrong. So I wanted to "get revenge". I had sex with my ex boyfriend. I made a terrible mistake and I regret it and wish I can go back and chaged what happend, unfortunatly I can't. But the next day I had sex with my boyfriend. He was very excited and is still excited that we have a baby. We are both 17, and basically live together and been together for a little over a year now. My boyfriend thinks he is the father of my little girl and my ex does not know that he is the father. I put my boyfriends name on the birth certificate as the father and he was there from the begining. How do I tell my boyfriend that he is not the father? And tell my ex that he is the father? Please don't leave smart comments because this is serious. I know my ex is the father because he did not use a condom but I told him I take birth control so he did not have to worry (which I lied about, I just like the feeling of it without a condom). And my boyfriend always has used a condom when we had sex