How do I make my husband see my mother-in-law's true personality?
This sounds real crazy. I wouldnt offer any advice but I d tell you what i would do to protect my dignity.Start working. However small or big the salary is join something. This will give you a direction to be independant & to divert your mind away. Remember, this might create more problems for you from your MIL but this would help stand on your legs when there is no hopeIgnore your MIL. I repeat. Dont let her get you. Your feelings thoughts and emotions are internal to you. Dont let external factors affect you. Start meditatingIf your husband is a nice guy. Start loving him without any expectations. He will slowly love you back and without asking he would start shielding you. ( unfortuantely this would take time and high level of patience from you)Tell your friends about the situation and be ready for emergency help. With a single message or call.Dont be alone. Learn some hobby and entertain yourself. This is one way you can make her jealous. Negative people wont like if someone is content and happy before themLive for yourself. Find the ultimate happiness in spreading joy in whatever way you likeDont worry about others. If they are listening to a third person and forming opinions about you they are not worth knowing you. Just keep going the way you naturally are and slowly they’ll come around.I have a feeling that your husband is already aware of his Mother’s attitude. Thats the only reason he is giving deaf ear. Otherwise he would equally get curious to know whats going wrong.A friend of mine has come out of an unhealthy relationship and she constantly inspires me with her fervour(by making a choice at age of 24 to file a divorce) courage and compassion(does volunteering at orphanages and animal welfare). She tells me Hardships are given to people who have the courage to withstand them and emerge as winners. She is grateful for this life and its virtuesShe was and is a winner to me. Never let anyone tell you what you are and what you arent capable of. Believe u are a self sustaining power. Trust your instincts. If your husband doesnt cater for your safety happiness and trust i dont see a future there.Lots of prayers and courage to you. Please let me know if you want someone to talk to & unload burden.
My mom brought me here illegal when i was little, should i leave too?
i know you're right about what your saying, but its not my fault my mom brought me here, i have learned everything all the legal people learn, and am above them, i belng here, i get mad at this country sometimes, but i can't do anything but love it! Should I leave too? I dont want to, i kind of belong here ya know? I dont know much of mexicos history but know a ot of american history! I want to lovehere, go to college, get drivers license like everybody else, its not fair!
I don't get along with my mother in law, how do I keep my husband out of the middle of it all?
Really, I'm not going to go into detail about all the stupid things that make me not like my mother in law. The list is long. My question is more about my husband. I don't want him to get caught in the middle, and I try everything to keep him out of it, but, of course, he does get stuck there sometimes. The latest problem was that my MIL took my daughter without my permission or knowlege for 10 hours. I was frantic with worry when I woke up and found my daughter was gone. After my husband called his mother, and reamed her out, did she decide to drop her back off at home, after she agrued about it. Long story short, I was so mad at this woman, and freaked out about my missing kid, that I was yelling, screaming and in tears. My husband feels that I take out how mad I am at her on him. Which, I don't feel that I do. I'll admit, I am a shouter. When I get mad, I yell. Thats me. I don't yell at him, I don't blame him, I don't point fingers at him, I'm just mad at the situation. I can't talk to her and straighten this out. It has gone so far beyond that point. She refuses to talk to me, as she thinks she never does anything wrong. And of corse, my husband, in her eyes, is a saint. He really is a good guy, I don't have any complaints. I do love him dearly. However, the problems I have with her (and vise versa) are starting to stress him out a bit. He is very understanding, and always takes my side, and defends me to her. Its getting to be a strain, as she does stupid things almost daily. I don't complain about her constantly, and I'm not a ******. I'm not a winer, or overly sensitive. It's just when she does her constant interferring, and overstepping of the boundries, I get mad. What can I do to keep him from feeling torn between me and his mom? How can I be more sensitive about it all when it comes to him? I have no intention of playing nice with her, but what can I do to make it better for him? Any ideas?
What is the legal way to keep someone from coming to my house or contacting me in any other way?
The first thing you can do is actually go to your local courthouse and file for a no contact order or equivalent. You will have to have the other party served the notice that they are not legally permitted to contact you in any way. This would include they cannot email you they cannot text you they cannot mail letters or any packages to you they cannot call you and they cannot contact you through a third party. They cannot come to your school or your job or your house of residents and if they see you at the local grocery store or any other public location they are not to make contact with you in any way.Usually violation of this is a fine or jail time. If all else fails then you can use self-defense for trespassing. Because quite honestly the bottom line is a no contact order and a restraining order is just a piece of paper. And I'm not saying you should go out and try and do something to this individual to get your point across that they need to stay away from you because that could get you into trouble. And I'm also not saying try to trick them into coming to your house against your desire so you could respond with necessary Force to get your point across to either. But if you're going to go that last route make sure you absolutely positively explore all avenues of legal protection against the individual first.
Mothers vs Mothers?
I dont think there is such a thing as a bad mother (unless your abusive and neglitive). One of things Ive noticed sense becoming a mother is how you get critized for everything. I DO NOT do this. I dont care if one mother decides to hold her baby when he sleeps or those who prefer to put them down to nap. Does it really matter?!? I was reading how a mother was so angry that parents prop bottles, put there children in shopping carts or resturant high chairs and even putting a car seat in the basket. As being a horrible thing. Why does it matter what other parents do to raise there children. Nobody is perfect. But trying to to act like your the perfect mother and putting everybody else's parenting skills to shame, is down right wrong and can be hurtful when other moms blab to everybody. Know this is not a situation that happened to me but what I see around me. My Mother in Law is the worst at this. She ran a daycare for years and believes everything shes does is the correct way.