My mom won't stop buying me childish clothes?
Well, I just turned 15. The thing is, my mom acts like I'm about 7. It's my birthday today and all she got me was clothes, even though a few months ago she went shopping for me and got me these pink denim jeans which I didn't like, but I was polite and just said 'mom, i don't want to offend you but i don't really like these. maybe next time you buy clothes for me, i could come with you and tell you what i like?' she agreed. so today I was opening my presents and I was like, oh my god, not clothes. She got me really childish clothes and not stylish, she doesn't understand the modern style that i have, she only understands jeans & t-shirts. She bought me a pink top with 'glittery' butterflies on it. She also bought me a top that says 'EVERYONE WANTS TO BE ME'. I felt bad when I saw it because I realised I'd never wear it, and my mom had just wasted money. However I didn't want her to feel bad so I just put on a fake smile and said I liked it. She also bought me bright pink sparkly plimsoles and ballet shoes. I am actually fed up of this, I only have few clothes that aren't childish, and I have to keep wearing them because I would not be seen dead in some of the things my mom buys me.. I'm just really fed up because all my friends get to wear nice fashionable clothes and I'm stuck with these. How do I let my mom know that I want to make the decisions?!?! I also feel really bad because she's wasted a lot of money on clothes I won't wear.. but I mean COME ON?! I'm 15!! Hasn't she realised that the clothes are a bit childish?
I have felt hurt by the lack of thought my husband gives to my birthday presents and Christmas presents and anniversary presents.He spend $80 on flowers for my last birthday and $60 on a perfume that an old lady said she loved. I hate the smell but I kept it because my husband got it for me and he never really gets me much.I wish that he would just think about what I actually would want rather than getting me a whatever present that would just shut me up. Despite all this, I love my husband. He does a lot for me and my daughter on a daily basis. He just doesn't give presents much thought. I have learned to just buy my own presents and not expect him to get me anything.Get yourself your own Christmas presents and be happy. If it really hurts you that much, talk to him and maybe give him ideas for the next time around.
Getting rid of Childish things... I want to decorate "Adult" but I love my "Childish" things! Advice?
In my opinion you did the right thing. What good would spending time with your family have been if you had no roof over your head or food on the table? While you were not there physically or emotionally, it WASN'T because you didn't want to be-it was because you had an obligation to take care of you family. You are a stand up guy. I do have to say that I can see your wife's perspective and why she is upset and feels neglected. You were gone and she was raising your children all by herself, and trust me raising two children is a full time job in itself. This is just the growing pains of starting a family at a young age. You have survived 8 years, which is more than you can say of many young couples in similar situations-so congratulations. Now that your wife will be the bread-winner in the family and the family's well being will rest entirely on her shoulders, I think she may see the kind of pressure you were under to provide and support the family. Likewise, you being at home raising the children will make you more aware of the difficulty of raising children and maintaining a home. You two just really need to sit down and have a serious talk-you both need to take turns LISTENING to each other concerns. Listen to why she felt/feels neglected or upset. Then stress to her the importance of you working to support her and the kids. Make sure you make it a point to tell her that YOU DID NOT WANT to be physically or emotionally withdrawn all those years, but in order to take care of her and the family you did what you had to do. If talking this way doesn't work, I would suggest seeing a counselor. It is normal that she will have resentment, but she cannot dwell in the past. Throwing in your face your absence due to working for 8 years is only going to hurt the marriage more. It will create added tension and stress, and make both of you feel worse. While your wife may not understand all the reasons you did what you did, she should at least TRY to understand it-and listen to what you say. In the end, if your wife really loves you and values your marriage I highly doubt she will constantly be throwing the past in your face. If she does, you really should seek out a counselors help to resolve the negative feelings in the marriage. I hope everything works out for you and your family. Good luck!
What can I do about a childish husband?
This will sound ridiculous but I am so ticked at my husband (41) right now over a dumb thing. It's just that he does this to me really often when he doesn't get his way or has to, heaven forbid, compromise! Last night it was really warm in our house and he wanted ice cream. As usual, he sends me out to get it. I didn't feel like going out again but I went anyway while he showered. The line at DQ was really long and I didn't want to wait so I went and picked up fudgcicles from the grocery store, ones he likes and has eaten before. Thinking he'd be happy to have something cool I went downstairs and gave him one. He pouted for the rest of the night because he didn't get his blizzard and on top of that, he left the fudgcicle to melt in its package on the table. When I realized he hadn't eaten it yet, I said "I think the fudgcicle is melting" just as a reminder in case he'd forgotten it was there. He just shrugged and ignored me for the rest of the night. I know, I know, this sounds silly but there are lots of other things that happen like this. He gets me to do something for him and then ignores it or says he doesn't need it or whatever. The other night we were out shopping and he saw a computer game he wanted. I suggested checking to see if there is a trial version online first just to see if it's something he'd like. He looked at me and just like a child said "but I want it now". So I ended up buying it for him against my better judgement and when he got it home and tried it, he didn't like it. What do you think of all of this aside from the fact that I'm am idiot for putting up with this for nearly 10 years?!
Are these graphic tees too childish for a 15 year old?
So, I don't generally buy things at Justice anymore...I mostly shop in the juniors sections at places like Kohl's. I LOVE shirts with food on them, lol. And they have a bunch of these at Justice, which I know is mainly a store for "tweens". I have seen shirts that are kind of similar to these in juniors sections at other places, but I was just wondering if these looked too childish for me to wear. The foods do have eyes and mouths, lol. They're also scented, but I think it's cool. xD So here are two that I think are cute, but I'm not sure if it would look silly on someone my age or not. But again, I have seen some shirts in the juniors' sections that are sort of similar, that have food on them and some saying below. Idk...do the foods having faces on them make it seem more little-girlish? Their sizes actually go pretty big, so I would be able to fit in these. http://www.shopjustice.com/girls-clothin... http://www.shopjustice.com/girls-clothin...
99% of the time when such an outrageous amount of money is paid for a work of art, the artist is dead. He or she cannot make any more work, so the value goes up. This is not very encouraging for living artists such as myself... the chance that an artist will be rich (or even making a decent amount of money of his or her work) in his or her own lifetime is reserved for a few artists such as Picasso, Salvador Dali, Jeff Koons etc. The rest of us need to kick the bucket first before making big bucks. Vincent van Gogh, I remind you, died in abject poverty, never having sold a painting in his life. One painting of his was sold at $82.5 million in 1990, and is now estimated to have an even higher value if it came back on the market.This painting, "Etoile Bleue" is made by Joan Miró (famous Catalan artist, dead of course) and though it may not be everyone's cup of tea I remind you that for some people art by famous dead people is an investment and that the piece is unique. Rich people have paid outrageous amounts for other items that have the rest of us mortals scratching our heads:- a baseball for $3 million (Mark McGwire's 70th-home-run baseball)- a cabinet for $36 million (the Badmington Cabinet)- a car for $12.2 million (1957 Ferrari 250 Testa Rossa)- a lock of hair for $115,000 (from Elvis Presley)- a sketchbook for $30,802,500 (Leonardo da Vinci's Codex Hammer)- a dress for $1,267,500 (worn by Marilyn Monroe)You may think that your 5 year old toddler can paint something similar (or even better) than "Etoile Bleue", and you may be right. But your toddler is neither famous nor dead, and s/he didn´t paint it.
I believe that it is when the tendency is quite strong.For example, many people will simply never consume adequate amounts of vegetables because they don't like the way most of them taste--even when prepared well--or because they require excessive amounts of butter or other oils in order to consume them (which generally prevents the consumption of vegetables in sufficiently large quantities). As a consequence, they will be significantly more likely to die of cancer or heart disease.Others will never consume enough fish to obtain a balanced amount of omega-3 fatty acids. They too will have an increased likelihood of contracting heart disease, not to mention reduced health in many other areas.What these people often overlook is that what may seem unfamiliar and disgusting can be made--at the very least--palatable if they commit to eating it regularly. Liver, lamb, kale, collards, salmon and many other foods were quite unpleasant to me when I initially tried them, but with time I learned to cook them in ways that are quite delicious. Now they are my staple foods.People who lack the discipline to try unfamiliar but nutritious foods and work to make them palatable (or even tasty) are sacrificing the future for the sake of avoiding relatively minor inconveniences. That is, I believe, quite childish.The approach should never be avoiding important foods because they seem unpleasant. Instead, determine what is optimal, and then find a way to enjoy it. This approach will serve you well in many aspects of life.A CaveatThere's a lot of food out there that claims be healthy but is in reality processed gunk that tastes like sawdust. What I have said applies to real food, relatively unprocessed and fresh/frozen, not to fat-free protein bars or low-carb frozen dinners.I'll also say that there's no sense in making yourself eat exotic "health" foods like nutritional yeast, etc., if you don't enjoy them. Your best bet is to select foods that you like within the category of nutritious whole foods. Eat fish--but if you hate sardines, eat salmon. Eat vegetables--but if you hate collards, eat kale or spinach. And so on.