How do you react when someone humiliates you in front of other people?
First, be cool.If that "someone's " intention is to humiliate you, then don't let him win by getting caught into it.Never try to argue,correct, accept or deny anything at all. Just be neutral or if you can be smiley and polite. If you get angry and try to argue it will validate the facts against you.Get out of the center of attention as soon as you can. If you need to give an explanation to others, let it be another day or nevermind if you never see them again.Teach yourself that there is nothing in this world to be humiliated about, except if you have done something wrongfully against the law and against someone else. If you did, then you deserve the humiliation.Otherwise, loosing a competition, being found naked, being poor or disable or any matter of your private life etc., not belong there to be humiliated. We all are human beings. No body is perfect. We have short lives. Everyone will die someday.Be proud of who you are. Have a good self respect and importantly be humble and polite. Respect others. Never be egoistic.If you have fed these things well in advance into yourself, you will never be humiliated.See the example of president Obama. He is a black man having a Muslim middle name, no political history. Many tried to humiliate him in various many levels but no one could stop him or humiliate him. No matter who hated him or who argued about his abilities, he became one of the most popular presidents and he spent full two terms.Have a righteous life, it will keep you uplifted all the time. You will never get humiliated.
Domestic Violence Law: Are you ready to go to jail for arguing with your spouse?
Liberals cause me emotional distress. When can I press charges? Will the ACLU take my case?
Is it normal for a guy to leave the house after an argument in order to go cool off?
Just wanted some insight into the differences b/w men and women. I am being made to think this, but I'm trying to find out if this is a guy thing or just me. I know I hate arguing, and whenever my wife and I get into it, and there is tension in the air and nothing is being resolved, I leave the house to avoid any escalations. I would much rather cool off elsewhere and then come back later to talk logically. She feels that this action is enough grounds for a divorce, but I tell her men don't like to argue. Once when I tried staying at home and in the other room after we had a heated argument, she practically barged into the room then walks out slamming the door. I felt this is not the environment for me to cool off. So I just usually leave the house to avoid any escalations. But she feels that I am "abandoning" her when I do this and I try to explain that men do this alot cos we dont like to argue. Please share your experiences guys and girls and maybe some advice.
How do you deal/argue with people who refuse to respond to reason, logic and facts?
Try emotion.For most of human evolutionary history, the ability to respond to emotion has been a much more useful evolutionary advantage than the ability to respond to data or facts, which are pretty recent in evolutionary terms. Emotions precede even language.Of course, the bedrock of a modern functioning society should ideally be rational public discourse devoid of any appeal to emotion but hey, natural selection couldn’t care less about any of that.There are tons of evidence that suggests that human decision-making is primarily emotional. The decisions can range from choosing what to eat[1] to even voting in elections.[2]So, to convince someone, you don’t just throw facts at them but also supplement them with emotional anecdotes. You follow up “Rigorous peer-reviewed research has conclusively found no causal relationship between vaccination and autism” with a story of a poor couple’s only child who succumbed to pneumonia because she wasn’t vaccinated, and talk about how the couple regrets not doing so.The key word here is supplement. One won’t do without the other. Facts don’t evoke emotion but anecdotes do, and we internally justify those emotions using facts. According to British psychologist Rob Yeung, fear, shame and pride are very persuasive emotions.[3]Sometimes, it helps to think of ourselves as just apes with an internet connection.Footnotes[1] http://people.hss.caltech.edu/~s...[2] Voting is irrational. Emotions always win | Eyal Winter[3] Keep losing arguments? A psychologist explains why emotions are more persuasive than logic
He doesn't want to talk to me after an argument. What do I do now?
The more you chase him , the more he will run away. To be honest this chasing and running is a very thrilling game to play, but it is nothing close to an actual relationship.And sweet words spoken under intoxication are good to hear, but meaningless once sober. Take him accountable for what he is saying to you in a sane mind.Here’s my advice to you,You have already apologized, if you meant it you have done your part. Don’t repeat.Let him know that you are open to a rational conversation and you sincerely want to work this out. But prepare yourself in case it doesn’t.He is confused which is why he is sending mixed signals. But there is nothing you can do about it, he has to make up his own mind and act accordingly. You can and I believe you already have tried to make him understand what you want from him. Now, the more you try to convince him, the more he will slip away.Facebook relationship status has zero impact on your real life relationship. Removing it was done to punish you. Your reaction is not needed here.And last and the most important one, don’t ignore the little signs if you have seen any. Often these indicate a bigger problem but we choose to overlook them.Try judging from a neutral perspective, if it is worth your time going through this struggle. If it works good, if it doesn’t still good. But if you don’t know where you stand, you are in trouble. Try your best to get out of the loop of uncertainty as soon as you can.Sometimes we are so determined to make things work that we find comfort in the hope of a mere possibility and deny the reality. It only prolongs our sufferings.If he is determined that he doesn’t want to be with you, accept and proceed.Easier said than done. But the sooner you accept the reality, the sooner your pain and misery will go away.
Is his argument irrelevant to our current situation?
Several weeks ago my husband lost his job that he's had for almost a year and money has been tight for us. His unemployment hasn't started yet and today I was thinking that it would start this week and he told me that he spoke to the unemployment office and they told him it could be as must as a month or more before his benefits start. I told him I was frustrated because I am needing help with the bills and plus, we're suppose to go out of town to his daughter's college homecoming and stay a few days with her. He said that if we needed to we could change our reservation from two days down to one. He then told me that I needed to stop slipping my grown son money. He hasn't lived with us in several years because he didn't want to follow the house rules and he and my son really didn't get along because my husband (who isn't his father) said he was going to be the only man in the house. Well, I told him that was irrelevant and he said it was knowing that I was slipping my son money. That money could go to supporting our house instead of him walking the street all day and night. I feel that as his mother I have ever right to give him a few dollars ever now and then but he doesn't see it that way. Is his argument irrelevant to our current situation. And for those who are wondering, yes, he is looking for work.
I stutter alot when I am angry or arguing, does that happen to you?
I hate it! How can I change that!? If I am arguing with some one or speaking angrily with someone and I start stuttering people are NOT going to take me seriously! Tips?!
How to control your temper when someone keeps provoking you?
If people ignore him, he doesn't have any fun. You keep him going by getting angry. Learn to not care what a drunk says because they only delight in annoying people who can't control their temper. You are a great target. Never allow anyone to make you get out of control because you are actually giving them control over you. Turn and walk away. That type is useless.
I feel so dependent, spoiled and useless?
You remind me of myself. I was given everything as well, but my family was bit below middle class. The thing that got me my independence was wanting to do this for me, not because people expected of me to do so. The first year of college I was made food, given money for food, my dad gave me a car, family help paid expense for the car. In high school I got money for stay above 3.00 GPA, which I found personally easy. I didn't have an iPod till like Junior as a gift. As much as you hate taking money, you are very fortunate because we all know college is obviously expensive. They are just helping you so you can have a better chance of success, but that doesn't mean to slack or anything. If you feel your life is easier because of that support then find a way to work harder. If you want to know what it means to be independent then the money you get don't spend. Keep track of the money you receive from your parent's and yourself and only spend your own money. Use your parent's money is backup. With that driving issue you need to fight for that because that is all young adults freedom. I was slightly spoiled as a kid, but also was able to be responsible. When I went to college I knew what it mean to be responsible because no one cares what happens to me in college I need to survive it on my own, but I will have family to back me up when i do need help. The most important thing to realize is that college is not for everyone. If you want an education and want to have a dream career then you go to college. If you have no ambition for an education then you are wasting your money. I got a C- on my first test at college and freaked out because I didn't expect it to be "this" hard. Ask help from professors, college professors are nice and know there stuff. They won't push off like some high school teachers. Remember you are pretty fortunate to have parents like yours that help you, but also fight for some independence because you as an adult need your own car, or should drive on your own.