My grandmother is moving in. I don't want her to. How do I deal?
I can't down and talk to her, she doesn't speak my language and I don't speak hers. AS to whoever said I'm being selfish, I doubt you have ever dealt with something as complex and difficult as this. Selfish is not doing something because it won't benefit you. I respect my grandmother and I won't be mean or rude to her. I'm not selfish. I bet you'd act the same way if you wouldn't have anytime to yourself, and nowhere to go when you did. Seeing that I won't have a room.
My sister hates me now and avoids me? (Long)?
First of all im really jealous of you I wish I had a sister which loved me that much haha anyway. Im also 16 and if you think about it she is 12 ok she is a kid she is fragile so you need to remember that of course it shows that she loves you a lot! but dont worry she will forget what happened it just needs patience and time, it would be a good idea if you wrote her like a letter explaining to her why you were mad and that you didnt mean to push her and sometimes people make mistakes maybe leave the letter on her bed with a chocolate and include inside that you love her and maybe come in her room after 10-15 min I hope that would work :)
Is it wrong that I don't want to watch my stepson during my maternity leave?
not wrong at all.. the fact that he isnt your child means you shouldnt have to take full responsibility although when getting together with his father you should have realised this would become a issue sooner or later.. what i think you should do is... have him stay at his grandparents house for a couple hours everyday.. maybe right up until 2 hours from when your hubby gets home.. if the grandparents are willing to drive him and care for him.... Or you could request to have time with your new baby for 2 weeks ... and say after that you are willing to work something out.. maybe every other day he spends the day with you and the others with his grandparents.. i know what you meen about the kids not getting along.. but him being 9 shouldnt be a problem.. i meen.. he should be listening and stuff at that age.. but still you should request the time alone with your new baby your son hubby and grandmother for 2 weeks... im 27 weeks pregnant and my son is only 3 well i am currently going thru the same thing except mine isnt as major my sister in law just assumes i will watch her kids... and our kids dont get along and when they are together its to much to handle... i dont know how to tell her know.. so i can imagine what you are going thru... but every situation has a solution.. talk with your husband about this.. maybe his son can come and start staying with you guys 2 weeks after your baby is born?.... good luck
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I got gang raped.Gang. Raped.I'm going to give some details… so I guess trigger warningI went to a fish market with my uncle and grandma. My grandma is old and can't walk very well so I was waiting with her for my uncle to get some fish. This huge man comes and picks me up from behind. I'm pretty strong, but this man was much stronger. He grabbed me and ran as I screamed for my uncle to help me. He came too late.So. The big man “A”The other men are “B” “C” and “D”A grabbed me and brought me to a cornerB C D take turns throwing me against a fence as they all undress. They all are on me at the same time. One would be one my face making me suck his dick. One would be masturbating on my chest. One would be doing whatever he wanted on my vagina. One would be holding down my legs.They tied down my arms above my head, stripped me naked, did their rotations, and broke my ankle.I kept squirming so they punched me, gagged me, and stabbed right below my ribcage with a knife. I stopped moving and they rotated a few times. When they were done, about and hour later, they tied to me to fence.They would grab me from behind, touch all over me, cum on me, and then forced me to masturbate. They stuck their fingers up my vagina, put their dicks in my mouth. They made me masturbate on the floor, and then would smack me with their dicks wherever they felt like it.It was torturous. I was in so much pain. They ran Away. The police were searching everywhere, and then one found me on the floor behind a trashcan in an alley. They took me to a hospital, and it gave me so much emotional trauma.Right now, a year later, I am crying in my room, too scared to go anywhere, ripping at my thighs and stomach with a blade. Burning with lighters. I never told anyone else. The only people that know is my grandma, uncle, mom, and dad. I'm too scared to tell anyone.
Everyday I always help my mom to do the housework. My sister only sometimes helps my mom. Does anyone know what I should do to get my sister to help my mom with the housework more often?
Nothing. Honestly, you can't do anything but be your own person. My younger brother is about as lazy as they come. When we were both living with our parents, he would do the bare minimum to get by on chores while I was usually pretty diligent about them. So I feel your pain.At the time, I felt like my mom wasn't being fair because she didn't always enforce him doing an equal share, but now I realize that I think that was mostly because she was SO TIRED of having to ride him to get him to do anything, then get on his case again and again to get him to do it right. Parents are people, too, and they're not perfect. So sometimes what looks like favoritism really is kind of the opposite, since having to nag someone to do the slightest thing doesn't really endear them to you.So what can you do, knowing that you can't change your sister's behavior? -- Help your mom for the sake of being a good person who is honoring to her parents and learning diligence and integrity. Don't complain about what your sister does and doesn't do and don't keep score. You are doing this for you and your mom, not for your sister. If you keep score that will only build resentment.-- Appreciate where you are and look forward to when you move out. My brother and I shared a bathroom which he never, ever cleaned. Never. Sometimes I would let it get really dirty in the hopes that he would get fed up and clean it, but he was perfectly willing to live in filth until I cleaned it. He was like that. Finally, I figured I could resent him and/or bug mom about making him clean the bathroom once in awhile, or I could just realize that this was a temporary situation and that the price of living at home while in college was having him as my roommate. When I got my own place, it was satisfying to really keep it clean and be proud of my efforts. His apartments have ever been disgusting. -- Take this as a life lesson. Not everyone in your life is going to pull their weight, from the classmate who says they'll make the poster for the group project to the roommate who'll definitely pay their rent soon to the coworker who does a horrible job on the report they don't feel like writing. Learning what you can and can't control and learning what to fight and what to let go is a big lesson that a lot of people don't learn. You get to start early! I hope this is encouraging to you. You're doing the right thing! Hang in there!
How do I discipline my spoiled and rude little sister (she screams to the top of her lungs when she’s mad) when my parents are always on her side and blame me for her crying?
This situation used to always happen with my younger sister and it particularly effected my older sister. My first question is, does yelling happen often in your household but not just from your younger sister? If it does your sister could be learning this behaviour by what she sees around the house from other memebers. As I said earlier my younger and older sister ( who have an age gap of 7 years) used to have this problem when my younger sister was just coming into puberty and had just started high school. Now they used to argue and bicker between the two of them about small things like chores. My younger sister used to yell and argue with my parents as well and they responded with yelling and screaming. I’m not entirely sure what my parents did to stop this, though they always punish her by taking toys away or putting her in ‘time out’. The other thing is that the youngest siblings almost all of the time get away with these things because they are the youngest and the oldest sibling is meant to be the role model towards the younger child, which is bullshit. I believe that the younger kid picks up on these things and might learn to use it to their advantage. Funnily enough my older and younger siblings get along really well now. You need to talk to your parents about this and have a serious conversation showing your side of the story which I’m sure you have but I’d you haven’t that would be a great place to start. If nothing changes go to another trusted adult or go to counselling. If your parents here another adult agreeing with your side it may change their perspective.