What are harsh realities daycare and preschool providers tend to not tell parents?
I worked at a daycare in the "baby room" for 5 months until I could take no more of the things I was seeing. After working there I no longer saw people the same and I don't trust anyone. I refuse to place my children in daycare and live on the bread line because of this. These are only some of the things I've seen 1) Once you leave your crying baby(everything will be ok he/she will stop crying the minute you leave or so they say) your baby is put down on the floor or in a cot and not picked up for quite some time, sometimes hours. 2) Your child is allowed to sleep for however long it wants, however this will be lied about if you ask3) Your baby is quickly force fed any foods given if it vomits this is scaped up and fed back in. I've seen spoons bashed off teeth and lips and gums and babies crying and just shhhh shhhh shhhhh the kid soon learns there's just no point crying 4) No stimulation whatsoever, for hours 5) Diaper not changed unless absolutely necessary. When it is changed no interaction just onto the changing table, diaper off, new diaper on clothes hs back on back into cot. 6) Staff are cold and uncaring and not loving towards your child. I've seen rattles, toys etc snatched out of babies hands to give to another crying baby7) Every staff member gossips about the parents of the children and they make nasty comments about marriages, family situations etc8) I've seen toddlers left standing facing the wall crying their eyes out for 55 minutes at 2 years old. The toddler room was below ours and id pass it on the way in or going to the bathroom. I'd ask why this was the case. No response. 9) 10 minutes before you arrive you child is cleaned up, diaper changed, report about the day is lied about completely and your child is handed back. Staff change from cold and harsh to "oh look there's mommy he /she was absolutely fine" all happy, all fake. 10) I know for a fact most parent's are on some level aware of all this but because of bills, mortgages etc they simply have no choice but to leave their kids there. This daycare has since closed down and I will never work in one or even go into one again. Maybe they're not all like this I don't know I have heard stories of other places being the same though. My advice. Spot check over and over. Show up when they least expect. Or leave your kids with family members That's all.
Is it child abuse if a parent hits you when angry?
Hitting a child is child abuse, whatever the motivation the parent has. Having a “reason” for a behavior does not make it okay, does not justify it.So, whether a parent it angry or not, or whether the child “did anything to deserve it” or not, there is no excuse for hitting a child.I include spanking here, as well as slapping or punching or shoving.I call this abuse, but what the law may judge as abuse in one jurisdiction or another may vary. The last time I checked spanking was legal in all states but Minnesota, and I think that one or two Scandinavian countries outlawed it. However, it would be up to local authorities to judge whether the line had been crossed, even in spanking, to a point that intervention by the State was required.I once had a teacher say that he defines “abuse” as anything short of adequate nurturing. Also it is important to understand that the parent does not need to intend to be abusive. A parent who makes a mistake about parenting that harms a child, may have been abusive, such as a parent who is too harsh, etc. And again, intent is not an excuse. Anger is not an excuse. Custom and tradition is not an excuse. A child being particularly “naughty” is not an excuse.There is just no excuse for hitting another person.While saying that, most likely every parent has been guilty of child abuse or child neglect, without meaning to now or then. All parents make mistakes, lose their tempers. Most parents yell, and many parents may spank or hit their children even though it was something they said they would never do.Whether this is an isolated incident that can be mended to created a better parent/child dynamic or whether this is part of a pattern of escalating battery can’t be figured out from the question. Any child who has been hit can confide in a teacher or school counselor for further help.
Parents are making me choose my own punishment?
So, I'm 17 and my parents do not allow me to have any technology up stairs. One night I decided to take my computer into my room so I could Skype my boyfriend who lives 3 states away. I know it is wrong to disobey my household rules but I just don't think it is reasonable to not let me have a computer upstairs for an hour or two. We don't have sex or do any of that stuff because were both waiting till marriage and I'm a really good kid, I don't drink or do drugs or sneak out and I have mostly As and an occasional B. But anyways, my parents are making me choose my own punishment for this. Usually their punishments are very harsh and over the top so it can't be no friends for a week or no computer, I never really get to hang out with friends anyway... I really need help?!?!?! I would also like to sit down with them and tell them I'm leaving for college next year and it would be awesome of them to let up on me a little...
Why do abusive parents often single out certain children rather than all of their children?
There are different kinds of abusive parents, some really think that they really are just disciplining their children and some snap and overreact, these parents usually abuse all of their children and dont single out specifics. then there are abusive because they are mentally ill, they arent thinking clearly and are usually under a lot of pressure and are just looking for someone to blame, so they single out the "bad child" and lay all of the blame on them. these parents usually use more harsh punishments then the average abusive parent, instead of smacking them around and beating them they will burn, kick, drown, starve, and inflict other forms of torture on the child. they do this because in their minds, they arent abusive, they justify in their minds that they cant be abusive because they treat all of their other kids like royalty because they are the "good children", its the "bad childs" own fault that he or she is punished, if they would only be good like the others then the parent wouldnt have to discipline them so much. basically, they have sick minds and need help.