Is a 35-year-old man too old to date or marry a 16-year-old girl if he loves her truly and wants to take care of her?
Original Question: “Is a 35-year-old man too old to date or marry a 16-year-old girl if he loves her truly and wants to take care of her?”Depending on where you live, maybe you could legally marry her, with or without parental consent.Ethically and practically, it’s a horrible idea. You are an adult with lots of life experience. She is little more than a child. She’s not fully formed her character, she’s not experienced life, she’s not your equal.There is a power imbalance by virtue of your age and experience. Whether you mean to or not, you will dominate her. She won’t have freedom to learn and mature. If one day she gets old enough to think about what’s happened, she may deeply resent you for stealing her adolescence.There is a category of men who are attracted to pubescent girls, ephebophiles. It’s very closely related to paedophilia.Be honest, will she be as attractive to you when she’s 35 and headstrong, perhaps gained some weight and stretch marks? What if she opposes your wishes? What if she gets a crush on the latest teen idol - will you be jealous? Will she have freedom to spend time with friends her own age, or will you be suspicious and controlling? She’s not a doll for you to “take care of” and won’t always be so innocent, fresh and winsome. Will you expect her at 35 to nurse you in your old age?I think you kid yourself about truly loving this girl and wanting to take care of her. If you truly had her best interests at heart, you would walk away now.Ephebophilia - Wikipedia
Should I let my 18-year-old daughter sleep over at her boyfriend's house?
First, she's reached the age of sexual majority in the US. It is her decision and not yours now.Second, is SHE Catholic? If not, then again, it's her decision and not yours.Third, in YOUR home, you can make any (legally permissible) rules you wish to make and enforce them. This includes disallowing sex between non-married people, period. She can remedy this by being elsewhere, which she soon will be anyway, at Uni.Fourth, you have no legal right to forbid her to do anything legal outside of the home, whether it's sex, playing the lottery or smoking tobacco.If you want her to abstain, clearly that ship sailed LONG ago and is presumed lost at sea. You cannot undo what has already transpired.You are at a crossroads: You may choose to hold onto your attachment to your practices and attempt all sorts of ways to manipulate her into adhering to them or you can let go of them, reducing your stress, and permit her to make her own decisions... and mistakes as needed. Be available to answer questions or soothe the hurts, but you had your 18 years chance. Time to let go and trust her to watch out for herself.Otherwise, you risk losing her altogether and creating a resentment that could take decades, if ever, to overcome.Look at the big picture, let go of your attachments and trust in all your prior years of effort. Every person has a different path through life and sometimes you just have to watch the bruises as they occur and stand ready with the arnica gel to soothe them.Good luck.
Villain cliches?
i am writing a story making fun of all those stories with cliched villains, does anyone know of a list of villain cliches? thanks! Additional Details 0 seconds ago like an online list or if you know any write them here thanks
Are men really attracted to their wives after marriage?
It's strange this question popped up.Just YESTERDAY I was in the computer accessory store with my wife (together 13+ years now) just browsing. She walked off on her own looking for something. I was just loitering around when I saw this really nice looking girl rifling through some items. I was checking her out big time but I was mindful that I had no idea where exactly my wife was - didn't want to get caught, if you must know.So I looked down one aisle, no wife.I looked down another aisle, still no wife.Took a quick peek at the girl again, lovely; panicked, I looked down a third aisle. Still no wife.Then the girl turned around and said to me, "Baby, should I get this?"Yeah, that girl I was scoping out like a hornball teenager was my wife. I left the shop scratching my head. Couldn't make heads or tails of what just happened.I chalk one up for my mind going soft.