Bad childhood memories?
Childhood memories really have the biggest impact in our lives. I know of a person who, whenever he buys a new shirt, washes it over and over again so that it wouldn't look new, before wearing it. According to him, he does this because back when he was a little boy, he didn't want to be noticed much. One day, he wore a new pair of pants and a new shirt and soon everybody was complementing him. He clearly didn't like all the attention. He is like 60 years old already but he remembers it up to this very day. Maybe your experience had more impact on you because you were on your formative years when it happened. A child's formative years cast a long impression on their external facing judgments in the future. I remember on my 7th birthday, there was a magic show and the clown asked me to cut a rope. I couldn't use the scissors right, so he asked another kid to do the job. As a child I felt so embarrassed. It was a simple incident, but I guess it has turned me into some "perfectionist". I don't want anyone to bother me when I am doing something even if they just wanna help me. I want to do everything my way, and I want it to be perfect. Regarding your last question. not all siblings fight like that. But a lot do. One of my friends also has the same story. Her younger sister grabbed a knife to threaten her too. Luckily no one got hurt. Relax a bit! Take care!
Is it normal to have bad memories of having a suppository put in as a kid? Am I the only one?
I have exactly the same memories/feelings as you - and Blonde. Me and my sister both had suppositories - and enemas - and more inflicted on us frequently until we were 11, and we never got used to it! Unfortunately as I know what it's like to be persistently constipated - and that these are the most reliable, least damaging treatments around - I have to advocate them (and am continually doing so on these pages!) Administering them to my own daughter though was really something I dreaded, feeling a little guilty about it because of my own memories of being on the receiving end. But...life is like that.
What are the 3 songs that bring up good or bad memories?
What song reminds me of my best or worse memory?Thank you for your A2A Evelyn Krasnik.I will share two new songs tonight. One that evokes a sad memory. And the second is my best memory ever.Ready?Like many of us, our first romantic encounter leaves an indelible mark on our souls. Our bodies remember those moments when we first tasted romantic love.Nothing escapes us.I was sixteen years old when I experienced my first time. With a twenty-one year old man. A man who was the world to me. We ended up moving in together. And sharing everything.And when he turned cold and showed me the door, I was in pieces.And no wonder.My body craved what it once tasted.A warm embrace.The familiar smell of the sheets we shared.The brush of his lips on my cheek.I just discovered this song tonight.It tells the story of how I felt that day when I said goodbye.More than forty years ago.Beth Hart - Fire On The Floor (Official Lyric Video)So, yes. That would be my worse memory.And sharing it tonight does not tear me up.For that, I am grateful.________________And now, for a song that reminds me of my best memory . . .Mom was a hard worker who rarely stopped to relax. So when she decided it was time to kick up her heels, the wheels of industry screeched to a stop.And that’s when Mom would call out, “You guys wanna dance with me?”Did I? Did I!I loved dancing with Mom.Round and round she twirled.Laughing and kicking her heels like nothing you’ve ever seen.Gosh, Mom was a tap dancer in her day. She had the shoes to prove it. Mom was even a guest once on a TV show, Don Messer Jubilee.Up and down. Shaking this way and that. And it didn’t matter how we moved. We just did. I can still see the twinkle in Mom’s eyes.Gosh. I miss dancing with her (choked up now).Thank you Mom for the gift of rhythm and laughter.How grateful I am for that reminder tonight.Source: Photo by Louise (Gagné) D. Jewell - That’s my Mom and Dad shortly after they married.I invite you to play this song by Marvin Gaye. And tell me how it was for you. Know that I’m doing the same as well. With Mom in my heart.Marvin Gaye - I Heard It Through The GrapevineAnd I just realized something tonight. Mom’s husband (my Dad) had a roving eye. I can only imagine Mom processing those words in her heart while she danced.Yep. Dancing was her therapy. I just got it.Posted December 2, 2018.
What were your worst childhood memories and experiences?
I am doing a project on negative childhood experiences an I require information from many people which have face validity. My aims is to express children's negative childhood experiences in forms of textile and clothing design. Please can you help me and give me information preferebly detaiedl information of your negative childhood experiences. Negative childhood experience can include... *Physical abuse from parents, bullies *Being bullied *Being neglected *Accidents including being burned, car accidents, cuts, falling down *Being scared of someting/someone *Hating someone *domestic violence *parents arguing ANYTHING that made you unhappy. Please tell me aswell.. how did it make you feel? how did i affect you personally? what type of material would you use to symbolise your experience? ie. burned animal skin. blood. I would like to gratefully thank you for your time taken to answer the questions :) If you can, please get friends and families to answer this question for me.
Why do bad memories from my childhood-teen years come back to haunt me now?
My mom left my dad before he could physically hurt me, but there were many emotional trust issues I've had to deal with [regarding the male species] I've gotten past alot, even forgave my father in my early 20's, who now is deceased. I didn't live close to my family for 20 yrs then recently moved back-[moved after graduating high school.] It didn't start until recently that memories of abuse from my mom & sibling' have come out. Previously looked up to them. I think possibly brought to light recently because I overheard my mother say to my cousin she' wished she had waited to have me... but when I heard it, it felt more like how i've felt most my life, unwanted. Recently I lost a dear relative who was more like a parent to me, it's really tore the family apart even more. I want to resolve the relationship with my mom but part of me feels it would be better to focus on my own family [husband & sons ] -I don't understand thou what good is it, or Y memories from years past surfaced now.
What is your saddest memory?
What is your saddest memory or what is or has been the saddest time in your life? For me the saddest thing in my life was losing my baby girl to miscarriage. For me that topped even the abuse and rapes.
What is the best memory you have with your mother from childhood?
I have one memory that stands out. It was before my dad went to prison. Before the abuse. Before the neglect. We weren’t a normal family back then either, but the really bad stuff hadn’t happened yet.I’m not sure of the exact year, but I was probably 4 or 5 years old. It was my older sister’s birthday (she had turned 8 or 9 years old).You know, it’s funny because I don’t remember the birthday itself. I have no idea if my parents got her a cake or threw her a party. I don’t remember any of it.I do remember in those days, my mom and dad owned a Disk Jockey business. My dad was the DJ and my mom was the helper. They would do weddings, birthdays, and parties. They even had a commercial. But, that also meant a lot of late nights and into the early morning. Lots of baby sitters and shuffling back and forth between my parents, parties, and baby sitters.So, on my sister’s birthday it had gotten really late into the night. My sister, my mom, and myself sat down and threw a “party” for the barbies my sister had received. My mom made a pretend wedding veil for one of the dolls. And she got the strobe lights and party lights from their business, and put them up for the dolls. Then she turned off the lights. It looked so cool!It was so out of character for my mom. She didn’t play with us. And honestly, that’s the only time I remember her doing it.Like I said, it was basically a simpler time. Yeah my dad was hitting her. Yeah they argued and fought. My dad put holes in our walls. They constantly cheated on one another. Screaming was normal. Evictions and moving in the middle of the night (leaving all our possessions) was our normal.But, it was still better than what was to come, after my dad was incarcerated.So, I’m happy I have this memory.I am.I can visit it anytime I want.I can still see those barbies being held by all three of us…just dancing away with fancy lights above them. They had their permanent Barbie smiles on. We had real smiles on.I visit that memory often.
My mom keeps remembering the bad things that have happened in her past and keeps talking about it. Why?
Seems like ! your mom has gone through a lot of bad to good changes …Bad things .. leave a higher impact in our life for a longer period of time. We all need someone to share all good / bad things from which we have gone through in our past/ ongoing in the present.If you have become more better / best from your past comparatively, you will keep on explaining / referencing these things to others for their betterment. Which is not a bad habit cause it might be useful for others too.Now, what your mom is doing is normal on most of the cases… The possible reasons could be :-She is not experiencing a lot of changes to get the bad memories gone.She might have missed something which can’t be recovered, though those were bad memories… but possible a good moment might got attached with it in some particular cases.She might have not expressed herself at all with someone, who can listen her story and put a little effort in interpreting those bad things and converting them in such a way that it will go off from her mind.Though she would be in a good time now, might be feeling alone.Everything goes off with the time, if we have a good present and we dream of a best future… only what we need … keep alive that spirit to live up the life to the another level.Try to find out the like /dislikes of your mom and make her life more comfortable to make that bad thing goes off form her mind.Good luck!
Repressed Memory or bad dream?
Can you think of an event around the time of the dream that would trigger the memory?? Repressed memories are real but be very careful. Make sure you want to know the past before you walk into it. if there is any doubt do not confront your dad about this. it would sever any relationship you have with him. Do you have someone you can talk to about varifying the dream/memory? a brother or sister or mom? if you decide to see a councelor about it go to one that will not put anything in your head. you need to decide for yourself where this goes. if a therapist makes any suggestions or adds any details it makes the entire thing invalid. i recently have gone through the same experience. i remembered that my favorite uncle molested and raped me as a kid. i can remember nothing about my childhood until i was in third grade. think back: is there any gaps in your memory--times when you can't remember anything. this is normal until you are a certain age but in my case i should remember somethings before third grade. at any rate, if you can just dismiss this as a bad dream. if you need to explore it just be careful peace&hope
Why do mothers cry when their children are growing up?
Because all the big kids you know used to be little kids and you were all so cute and when you were little there was one person who was the center of your world. Can you guess/remember who that was? Yes, it was your mother. While she has enjoyed watching you grow up, The memories of when you all were little are precious. You will understand better when you have kids or even nephews and nieces.