Why does my feminist wife expect me to do household chores even though I earn 10 times more than her and she is staying in my house?
I am curious what country you live in and what culture you’re from- Because in America, once you and your spouse are married, it’s a total partnership and it doesn’t matter which one earns more money, because you both bring things into the partnership. Did you marry this woman to keep her as your servant in your home, thinking it is still “your” home? Where is the “our” in your thinking? It is obvious that you consider yourself of higher worth than your wife, as a person and as a husband, simply based on your wage-earning. I gently suggest to you that perhaps you are inferior to her on several levels and you have much to learn from her if she is even willing to stick around - but you don’t give her much incentive. What are you offering her in your partnership-marriage? -“Your” House to clean, alone, while you slave away at your amazing job that earns 10x more, and allow her to wait on you hand and foot when you finally return from your long, hard workday and expect to not lift a finger???? If this is what you wanted, why didn’t you just use your big fat paycheck to hire a cleaning service? Some would say you are very self-centered and arrogant to expect your spouse to be happy and content with this wonderful indentured servant’s package you are offering her.I don’t think I am being too harsh when I say: The first thing you need to do is get over yourself. Humble yourself. You think she is so lucky to have you but you have yet to understand that the reverse is true: you are lucky to have HER!The next thing you need to do is WORSHIP your wife and make her feel like your Queen. It will be very beneficial to your marriage.The third thing I need you to do is pick up after yourself and do the basics. You’re a big boy now. You will find that your self-sufficiency in Activities of Daily Living will cast you in a much more positive light. She may even find this attractive.Best of Luck if she decides to keep you!
Is it normal for my boyfriend who makes 10X more $ than me to expect me to pay 1/2 his mortgage and the bills?? I'm broke?
There is no "Normal" in situations like this. Couples have to find the best way that works for them. Some couples that have been together for as long as you have been have a joint account. So each party is contributing to all bills and all spending money, so on, but that doesn't work for everyone. You have to find what works best for you. If you pay half the mortgage are you also paying half the electric, cable, water, gas, and internet? If not then you are probably coming out even on half the mortgage and not those bills. If you are also paying half those bills then he is probably charging you too much. Who buys the food and other household expenses. These are all things to take into consideration. If you were to move into an apartment and pay rent and all the bills would you pay more or less than what you are paying him? All of that said, I would sit down and talk to him. Find an arrangement that works for both parties. Although, I will say if you are paying more than your share, and he knows it then the relationship itself has issues. People want the best for those they love and care about. If he knows he is taking you to the cleaners and leaving you with little to no money then he doesn't truly care about your well being. Just my opinion.
Why are some rich people always borrowing money?
You must understand the concept of velocity of money.In an inflationary economy such as ours, money is always going down in value. This is bad for people who save money, as you probably already know, because your money loses value just sitting under a mattress or even in a savings account (because they pay you such little interest.)On the flip side, this is good for debtors since your income goes up as time passes, but your debt payments stay the same.So if you buy cashflowing real estate with a loan, that can be a very smart investment. If, for example, your monthly payment is $1,000 per month, but your net rental income is $1500, then you are making $500 per month on your investment.If, however, the value of the property goes up over time, as most do, and your rental income also goes up, as most do, then your investment was doubly smart. You net worth and income increase over time, while your debt payments remain the same.Once you have accumulated enough income from investment #1 to qualify you to borrow more, then do so. Your debt can buy you more wealth bringing assets.Bottom line = use debt (which decreases over time) to buy cashflowing assets (and which increase over time).Debt is simply an accelerator. It gets you what you want faster. If you use it wisely, it builds your wealth quicker. If you use it foolishly, then it makes you poor faster.
My boyfriend comes from a lower middle-class family. He has been earning a huge package at a big firm, but he still: makes small talk with rickshaw drivers and waiters and drinks roadside chai. How can I make my boyfriend more classy and modern?
My boyfriend is a pilot. There's nothing stopping him from showing this fact off to the world. Yet, he doesn't mention this fact to anyone apart from people who ask. I don't know how much it matters in other countries but it's a huuuuge deal in India, being a pilot.I've been with him for around 4 years now and I've seen him while he didn't have a job to now, when he does. I haven't stopped loving him any less during this whole time. He's the classiest man I know and the thing that actually makes him ultra classy is that he gives respect to people lower than him. We don't drive around, we travel by auto sometimes and he talks to the drivers like a friend and like someone who genuinely wants to listen. While I don't prefer making small talk with young drivers because it may become unsafe for me as a woman, but sometimes you can learn a lot from the general public if you don't have “modern" inhibitions. Both of us love chai and the dirtier, more 'roadside' it is, the better. I respect people who can make small talk with people lower than their status. It always means they have a solid moral background and do not let their money or fame define them. He doesn't care about 'branded' clothes since that don't make him, him. I love being a stylist to him and if he doesn't want to spend 5k on a shirt, he won't. Class is an ongoing process. It doesn't end at showing off. I know people who're pretty hollow from inside yet they sport the best brands of clothes, phones etc.Whereas, for you my friend, I guess that boyfriend of yours needs to leave your ass and go meet a girl whose morals match his.