I'm attracted to older men? I'm 14.?
dude yr 14, lets be honest, your pretty much attracted to anything that moves. when I was 13 I lost my virginity to a 25 yr old, luckily for me he was a nice guy. Whilst you might find older guys sexy (and that normal) you should stick to guys your own age till you are 18 or so because otherwise you leave youself wide open (so to speak) for exploitation. Im 30, so i have a whole different set of wants and needs from a guy than a teenager does, thats why i dont get with them. basically if you get with older guys sooner or later you are gonna get used and head fu(ked, prolly sooner than later find yrself a nice guy your own age and yeah its all dreadfully freudian, but you are probably looking for a father figure try and sort out your relationship with your dad and if you do you wont feel the need to be taken/nurtured/held by older dudes
Is it normal to be attracted to older men at only 16?
It is very normal for teenage girls to like older men, not always good for the girls however. Of course he must be single and unattached, never cheat with some old and married guy. The experience advantage he has over you makes it really easy to mess with your head, so he needs to be a nice guy. Communications between you is really important, if you are gonna act like an adult you need to act like an adult and discuss possible outcomes and consecquences. Is he a man of his word? If he is already divorced from a marriage or has jail time or bad debt or many other things that are a clue about his word's value and his honesty. Y'all girls will believe the most unbelievable stuff, so listen with a critical ear and be sure that the relationship is the same to him as it is to you. He isn't automaticly a pervert with bad intentions but he certainly may be, chacing a 16 year old is suscpecious in our culture. While practice makes perfect with ice skating, with sex practice makes perverted, and you can't ever go back. It is easy to loose your innocence to some old perv who played you to get physical pleasure only. good luck. PS How do you know him? if he is a freind of the family and is sneaking around with you, stop immediately. A friend of your father that is lying to him will have no issues with lying to you. That's alot of life experience differences to overcome in a long term relationship.
Is it normal for older men to be attracted to young women?
Very much so. And unfortunately, to even younger girls.While a teen I've been vaguely aware of it mainly from second/ third hand sources. But I was pretty sheltered, and didn't venture much beyond school activities with my peers, so hardly experienced it personally.When I was a grad student I was shocked to see how common and intense was the attraction of older men towards girls. I know that many people on Quora stress that young females are women, but I'm referring here to underage girls (many 15 -17) who looked their age. (And for those who were wondering how the girls were dressed - very "plainly", these were students from low-income rural families who couldn't afford stylish clothing.)During the Summer I used to work for a program for high school kids who spent several weeks on the campus. As a part of the program we took them to visit various industries, etc. When we were out and about, I saw how grown men of all ages STARED their eyes out at the girls. In fact, it was so pervasive that it was my most disturbing recollection of working for the program. When the students got all dressed up and did their final presentations, I happened to sit at the back of the auditorium and saw some of the male instructors also staring out at the females. Once when we were in a hotel dining room I saw a male in his 30's, who was there with his wife, a small infant and an older couple (his or her parents) stare ACROSS the room at the girls who were in plain white Walmart T-shirts, with wet hair from the swimming pool. And I'm by no means referring to quick, appreciative "ain't she cute" glances. These were prolonged, leering, predatory stares.And the strange thing I noticed was that the teen boys in the program behaved much, much more circumspectly towards the girls. For all the talk of testosterone driven young males, I didn't notice, or hear of, anything remotely comparable in my several years of working for the program. (And I interacted with the students a lot outside the classroom - in their residence halls, on trips out of town, etc. Because most of the students were minors the staff were required to keep a close watch on them at all times.)
I have always been attracted to older women. Is this normal?
I could bore you with things like age is just a number and that “normality” is after all objective but I don't think that is what you want to hear. In this world there is a real normality that is in effect what you wish it to be and there is a perceived normality or rather what others accept as such. I am sure many will volunteer to advise you on the former so I shall stick to the latter.Whether your preferences are normal or not largely depends on your age and on how older your preferences are in comparison to yourself. If you are somewhat young and possibly inexperienced, that may very well be normal. Teenage boys or young inexperienced men do tend to go for (or fantasise about) older women. The reason is that they are afraid of not knowing “what to do” with a girl and even the first kiss sounds daunting let alone the first date or worse still, the first time at it. An older woman is therefore highly tempting as she'd be obviously experienced and she can both teach him the ropes and also not expect him to be take the lead. If on the other hand a guy is older or is somewhat experienced, than no, that is not particularly considered normal. Typically young guys around you would be looking at girls their own age to a couple of years younger. Ironically a 21 year old may think a 17 year old is too young whereas a 30/35 year old man would think nothing of dating an 18 year old. Even if you consider dating older women as normal, they in their turn typically seek older men. So your advances to older women may not be so easily reciprocated.Anyway the basic rule of thumb is that the older you get, the less accepted is the fact that you date an older woman. By older of course society typically understands more than a couple of years. So while 1 to 2 years is fine, say 3 to 5 is pushing it, up to 10 years is kinda creepy. Well, above that, and you're probably gonna look like you're in it for her cash.So don't take this as wrong to date older women but don't expect others around you to be so acceptive and supportive of your choice especially if the age gap is rather big. Even with the tables turned (in that woman dating older men), while older is here the norm, much older becomes less easy to be accepted and much much older is practically scorned by one and all.
Lolita - is it normal for much older men to be attracted to a 15 year old girl?
My boyfriend has shown an inordinate amount of attention to several teenage girls -we have met through mutual friends. (Aged 15-17). By inordinate, I'm talking 30-45 minute one on one conversations followed by comments on how attractive each one is, how smart she is etc. etc. Oh and they were both quite beautiful young ladies and not at all trying to "play a sexuality card". I've just never been out with a guy who has paid that much attention to their friend's daughters - one of these girls he has a "secret phone relationship" with - he told me this last night. He has promised her money to help with college - unbeknownst to both parents -if she keeps her grades up. I know we all like looking at young beautiful people but is this kind of behavior normal? My gut tells me icky - yuck-something seriously wrong here. By the way my boyfriend is no great looker -50 years old- has some money. ...I don't know if that even helps with deciphering this but am I overreacting or is this o.k.
Why am I attracted to older men?
You’re not the only one sister!So am I. I have dated a man older than my dad before! It was great since I was still learning how to control my emotions. Somehow, that man kept me grounded.They say we are looking for a daddy figure, but, to be honest I don’t think it was that. At least for me it wasn’t. I was a young rebellious artsy chick with a vast mind. (I’m pretty sure an entire galaxy could fit in it.) He loved that about me.He understood that I didn’t want someone trying to control me and tell me I’m wrong all the time. I was 21 then, and of course I’ll make a lot of mistakes. Mistakes that don’t even matter to them by their age. I guess you are looking for someone who “gets it” while all the guys your age are not even close to that yet.It felt nice with my older guy, but he and I both knew it wasn’t going to end with us happily married. He was a settled man, and “had it all” basically. I was just discovering who I am, and our energy levels didn’t connect well. I wanted us to be able to do more than he’s used to at his age. Of course, there are some incredibly strong adult men out there that could keep up!You’ll be lucky with one of those!When we were together, it looked crazy for others, but to me, it all felt so natural. Even when we ended things, it felt like the most beautiful break up I’ve ever had. We parted ways and never looked back. I still don’t regret it. I do sincerely hope he’s doing well nowadays! :):)
Is it normal to be sexually attracted to men who are 20 years older than me? I'm a 22-year-old girl.
When you say sexually attracted, does that mean you want a one nighter, or to get married?Men in their late 30’s and early 40’s are definitely sexy. In my experience, they are the best lovers too.If you’re talking about love and marriage. I’d suggest either keeping the age gap close or opening it up a little more. Follow me on this!(15 year gap) you’re 22, he’s 37. Then you’re 37 and he’s 52. Then you’re 52, and he’s 67. In the 15 year gap, you are almost a senior citizen when you have to bury him.(25 year gap). You’re 22, he’s 47. Men are still sexy and healthy at 47. Then when you are 42, he is 67. This means after the funeral, you are still young enough to have fun. To live a little, possibly start another relationship.My point is, keeping the gap close (or far) has advantages but the medium gap can mess up the last quarter of your life.
Why am I so attracted to older men?
Ever since I can remember I have been attracted to men sometimes more than double my age. I'm 19, and have had 2 long term boyfriends. One was 3 years older, and the other the same age. But I find it really hard to find guys so young attractive! I have never had a relationship with someone much older, but I have slept with a 39 year old and it was the best sex I've ever had. He was so sensitive and experienced, there was no awkward shyness he knew exactly what he wanted and what he was doing! I look at men, usually with kids my own age and just feel really attracted to them! I can't imagine I would go out with anyone near my age again, but I worry how my family especially my dad would react to me having a relationship with someone in there 30's-40's. Is it really wrong to want this? They turn me on, and make me feel like a woman when I imagine then touching me not a little girl. Problem being, most of these men are married or have kids! The guy I slept with was married, but that only made it more fun and naughty! I seem to get a lot more attention off these older men, and they know how to woo a woman more than a spotty teenager!! What's the right thing to do?