The odd sibling out?
I always thought I was close to my siblings untill I realised Im really not at all. My 3 siblings are 23 20 and 19. Im 13 and I feel left out with all of my family members. They know everything about each other and are so close. And I'm not cloes to any of them. And they dont even really know who I am and i dont really know who they are. I feel like the odd one out. I'm not really close to my pparents either. Its like all of the rest of my family are really close and I'm like so far away from them. What should I do?
Is it okay if I'm not close with my sibling?
It’s not a question of whether its okay or not. You just have to make the best of whatever relationship you do have with a sibling or siblings. They are not always close, contrary to what many TV shows portray. Sometimes, having grown up in the same house creates lots of problems, resentments and feelings (whether correct or not) that make siblings pull away from each other.We had five kids and I was always closest to the sister 2 years younger than me and the youngest sister, 10 years my junior. To her, I felt more like a mother than a sister. The middle ones, a brother and sister, never really “clicked” with me and they were always out of the house, doing whatever.Years later, due to a clash over raising children and not abusing them, my sister, who routinely hit her kids, broke off our relationship after I discussed her abuse with a school psychologist who called. I didn’t regret helping the kids but she was furious and is still waging a vendetta against me, 20 years later!I rarely see the other siblings and two of them are raving conservatives, so we can never have a nice, friendly talk. The other one is just weird! She’s a practicing Druid (nothing against Druids!) and has some odd ideas that I can’t get into. We email back and forth occasionally.So, I’m not close to any of my siblings now. I see it as a sort of evolution. Read any story, look at history, or any myth, like Norse myths, or the Hebrew Bible for that matter and you’ll see brother against brother, fighting, sisters in Rome overthrowing their brothers. Cleopatra is supped to have killed her own brother to become Pharaoh! So sibling animosity is not rare at all.People who have close siblings are lucky, but it’s not a given.
Are you close with your brother or sister?
Well what can I say about them…I am currently turning 19 years old and I have two older siblings which is alrighhttt... So I have an older sister that is 20 years old and older brother that is 23 years old. I really enjoy their company and are kinddaa close but you know there are the sweet and bitter times especially with my sister….We would always argue on the little things like our clothes or the cleaning in the house, etc but we still end up just giving those little smirk faces at the end of the day. However, there are days that me and her would never stop laughing with each other like non stop, we would just laugh at our stupid sense of humor of our jokes (and people). I would give her motivation to do exercise and she is always soo friendly and a loving person towards me and the family. So we are close to an extent I cant believe.Then comes my brother that has no brother but only his annoying two younger sisters but still considers us to be good siblings (hopefully).Soooo… his a guy that enjoys you know the sport cars and the drifting and allows us to listen to his music all the time. I enjoy his company because he is very helpful and kind so that makes me kinda close to him (since I am the shy and reserved person) I still find it hard to approach him sometimes. I dont really see my brother very often as he is always at work which is kinda hard to actually catch up with him. But overall he likes us and we love him and he is always there for usI’m grateful and blessed (Alhamdulilah) to have my siblings in front of my eyes today… which is beautiful…
Are there many people who don't speak to their siblings? I have not talked to mine in over 10 years.
Thank you for A2A.For many reasons there are actually many who don't. As they say , although you can choose your friends , you can't however choose your family.And unfortunately, some of our family members can be toxic for each others.Some battle with their own demons and got too deep in it. They become a source of pain and a sour reminder of dysfunctional relationships to many including their family members.Some got into frictional misunderstandings and that wound up become the reason they stopped talking altogether forever.The possible reasons for family members to stop talking with each other is endless. Most conclude that things are nicer and less dramatic without being in contact.Though the lack of connection does not always imply that there's a deficit of love.But if if can be help, by any means,it might be wise for you to mend these relationships. You can even maintain a safe distance while being in contact if necessary . Unless they are toxic for you , then it's the best for you to keep the cold distance.
Is it normal how close my brother and I are?
I don't think it's weird. I have one younger brother and one younger sister. We are all grown adults now but I currently have my brother as a roommate. He says hi to me every morning, we hang out at events, concerts, bars, birthday parties, etc together. I feel bad when I go out to something and he's not invited due to my friends don't know home, but he's cool with it because we have some different friends and some same friends. We hug in my family - openly. Not to say we don't argue but we totally are closer than some of my friend's and their siblings of the opposite gender. Most people may think it's out of the norm but it's not weird. It's cool that you have someone in the clan that you can be allies with. If people think it's weird don't sweat it. Think about it, arguing is so much work and so stressful why would anyone prefer that?
Is it weird that all my siblings are over 25 and still live at home?
I'm 20 and the youngest of four. I live in my own apartment close to my university. All my siblings still live at home with our parents, and they're over 25. My youngest sister is 27 and still lives at home, my brother is 28 and still lives at home, and my oldest sister is 33 and still lives at home. Is it weird to still live at home at those ages?
Are my brother and I too close?
Me and my brother have always been really close, ever since we were little. He is two years older then me, I am 17 and he just turned 19. We all went out with my mum and her boyfriend to spend all day at this castle park area and we brought the dogs and a picnic... Kind of boring but we always end up getting dragged into plans like this, so my brothers friend came with us and we mooched away from my mum. His friend kept acting really wierd around me, like we were lazing around in this woodland area and I was lying down with my head on my brothers stomach, and he was lying down also, and his friend asked if we were step or biological siblings, acting really uncomfortable. So all though the day we just tried to make the most of it and my brother was just giving me piggybacks and chased me around and stuff, but totally friendly (we tend to act like kids when around eachother) and nothing wierd about it. Then later when we got home and dropped his friend off, my brother was acting a bit off - and I asked him what was up and he said his friend was really mean about me and thought we were too close to just be brother and sister... This made me feel really horrible and awkward because there is NOTHING wierd about it to me and brother but I'm worried now people might think I'm a freak and not be telling me? At home I might end up sitting under his arm if we're watching TV and he sometimes sleeps on the sofa in my bedroom because he suffers from these panic attacks when trying to get to sleep sometimes (and sometimes in my bed, but we don't cuddle or do anything creepy).. Do we sound too close? I never get jealous of his girlfriends and vise versa so there (and never will be) nothing sexual or gross about it.. I feel really uncomfortable knowing that someone thinks we are too close because now I'm terrified that my friends might think the same way?