People communicate in different ways, and everyone's personalities are a result of the day they've had, the environment they're in and their upbringing.Recognize this, then understand that you may not always be correct about their intent of being rude to you. They may be trying to communicate with brevity, which can sometimes be misinterpreted as rudeness. In this case, would you feel justified for puffing up your chest, or worse?Anytime I'm angry with someone, I quickly remind myself that if I had lead the same life as them, had the same day they've had and been exposed to all the things they've been exposed to, I would have said the exact same thing they did. That little bit helps me to put perspective on things and not get upset so easily.Hope that helps.
I’m the same. I have a theory about it.I think it’s because I don’t feel loved by anybody. I’m not even sure I love myself. So any criticism of me strikes at my very soul. It threatens my foundations and so must be repelled with great force.I’m especially sensitive when people criticise things that I myself criticise, i.e. things that I lack confidence in. For example, my professional ability. I actually think I’m very good at my job, but I’m also very aware of my weaknesses. Criticise those and I feel extremely vulnerable and will respond aggressively in my defence. To some extent I suffer from ‘imposter syndrome’ – the feeling that I’m not as good as I hold myself out as being and that one day someone is going to find out and realise I’m a fraud. Criticism then sounds a bit like I’m about to be discovered and I go into panic-mode.I guess the solution is to somehow feel loved, either by myself or someone else. This is slightly lame, but I do remember one time when I got home from work and felt I’d done a really poor job. My dog bounded up to greet me with his usual enthusiasm. I thought to myself, “you don’t care that I messed up at work, do you?”Unconditional love is a great way for someone to feel less threatened by criticism and thus they are less likely to feel the need to react aggressively.
What do you do when someone calls you an idiot?
ok if someone said that i probably wouldnt get TO upset id give em a thumbs down though, but if someone went out of their way to say something rude to me (you know how you can tell someones in a sour mood and they just wanna drag someone down) like i asked a simple casual question and somebody types me an essay on how stupid i am this is unnessesary and and abusive so that is when i either personally email them and if they dont allow email i ad a detail to the question (adressing their icon name) and basicley tell them it was uncalled for and that they are @ss holes and pretty much tell em to go f*ck a tree
Is it rude to speak another language around someone who doesn't?
I worked at a Latin night club in CA and dealt with the same issue. There were two of us who spoke little Spanish. Some of the people spoke little English so I could certainly understand why they wouldn't. Still, when the bartenders were all out back counting our tips the 5 who spoke Spanish would be going on and on while excluding the two of us. I'd constantly (every single weekend!) point out that it was incredibly rude as they were all quite proficient in English and their use of Spanish only made O. and I feel excluded. I was ignored every time. Mind you, the entire time I worked there I made great efforts to learn as much Spanish as I could, including studying texts, poetry, and translating actual books myself (so not well, though!). One of the Spanish speaking bartender's girl friend, when ever I went to a party at their place, would always translate for me when she was around. She wouldn't baby sit me and I wouldn't rely on her, but if we were in a group and everyone else was speaking Spanish she'd let me know what people were saying. This is a nice thing to do. It makes people feel included. I would, and have, translated as much as I could when talking with a person who speaks English and someone who does not. It's just polite, even if the person who doesn't know the language is not affected by the conversation or has no interest in it. For your situation it would seem that communication is essential to your education. First, I would suggest asking that one of them, at least, translate so that you can keep up with the group. They may simply not be able to communicate as well in English for the purposes of your group. This may set everything straight. If this doesn't work talk to your professor. Let him or her know that you understand that they may learn better communicating in Spanish and that your desire is not to limit them but that you'd feel you'd do better working with people who are more willing and/or able to speak English in these group settings. If the course isn't related to language there is no reason you or they should sacrifice education for communication. If talking to your professor doesn't work go to the department head and, then, the dean. If you do plan on staying and working in the Southwest learning Spanish will be an invaluable asset and make you more hirable in your job market.
How do you respond to rude/mean people?
Ok....Well you have quite a few options but it depends on the type of person they are Firstly if they are the type of person that is very attention seeking and thrives off of drama then either smile politely and walk away or yawn and walk away -- this gets people soooo angry. Secoundly if they say something that really upsets you find their weakspot - what they are most self consious about (everyone is self consious about something) and then use that against them. Especially If it is infront of loads of people. Thirdly there is always the way you can make someone feel dumb and inferior by saying something like "Oh my god are you still rambling on" ... or ..... "Your voice is irratating me now" Lastly there is always the sarcastic comment which I sometimes use.... Trust me all these things work just decide which one you think is right for the situation and remember ALWAYS speak with confidence and even if you are not sure with what you are saying say it confidently and clearly coz if you act as if you know what you are doing everyone will think you do. Good Luck!
One day, in my college canteen, my friend and I were drinking lemonades. After drinking it, I walked a few distance and put it in a dustbin. My friend put it on the ground near him and started to walk away.I saw that and started to tell him we're educated if you do like this, then what's the difference between you and uneducated people? He said I'm feeling lazy and started giving lame excuses! Then I picked it up and put it in the dustbin.Another day, same thing happened, but there was one more guy with us. After drinking it, he put it on ground again. The new guy saw that and swore him badly. Then he put it in the dustbin.After this incident, he always puts it in the dustbin, if that guy is around him. I was being polite, so he never cared for the words that I said.So, I think I have answered the question!
You are absolutely not wrong to get angry when people cancel last minute. It is rude. Extremely rude. The definition of the word commitment is as follows:A commitment is an engagement or obligation that restricts freedom of action.When you tell someone you will do something, you (pl) do it. Period. If you tell someone you will do something and then bail out on that commitment, it is called lack of integrity. Would you trust someone who says they will do something and then bail out for no good reason? Or without good reason and no advance notice? Nope. I wouldn’t. It is the equivalent of saying one thing and doing something else.Of course it is upsetting! It is a breach of trust and a very hostile thing to do. It is just like being chronically late.You made your plans, your hopes were raised; psychologically speaking, you had already mentally ‘tried on ‘ what the party was going to look like/ be like, who was coming, perhaps you spent a lot of money preparing the event, etc…When someone blows you off, what they are really saying to you is that you are not important to them, you do rate high enough on their list of priorities, etc…I don’t blame you one bit.
Why are some ppl sooooo rude all the time !!!?
U hv surely seen some people when they get angry thrash and crash things here and there - that's how they take out their anger. These rude people are a bit smarter. They know breaking things can get them into great losses and land them into severe problems(if the things r not their's).So, they hv devised a better fool-proof idea to take out their anger - they take it out on innocent people for even the slightest mistakes.There r other reasons too.Some people feel really insecured - so, in defence, they try to scare the people whom they fear by putting on a mask of anger and fearlessness and after a long time it becomes a habit and they then do it all the time even if they don't mean it. Also, some people suffer from the mental disease which makes them feel that the whole world is trying to cheat them or cause harm to them (for no defined reasons) or make fun out of them - so, they dont trust people so easily and that's why they always get irritated even when people hv good intentions.