Is it okay not to have friends?
It is absolutely OK and I’ll explain why. Definitely, I’m not a psychologist, but I can speak for my own experience as an introvert and not having any friend. Till I turned 40, I felt ashamed of not having friends, because I felt it was kind of a moral and social obligation for anyone to be considered “normal”. But then I got rid of that complex and I got convinced that I enjoyed life a lot on my own. You see, I’ve always had a very rich inner world: I love reading, going to the theater, to the movies, and above all, music is the most important part in my life, so I enjoy tremendously going to concerts two or three times a week. All these activities, I do them by myself, I don’t need anyone to share them. More than that: I don’t need to talk to anybody about what I’ve just seen.I also play the piano and write novels, and these two activities make me feel so fulfilled that I don’t have time to hang out with friends. Also I go to the gym every day because I love to live healthy. All this might sound odd or sad to a lot of people, but believe me if I tell you that I am so happy with my current life that sometimes I can hardly believe it.Just one more thing. What allowed me to get rid of that feeling of being ashamed for not having friends was a book by a spanish psychologist, Rafael Santandreu, whose motto was: People just need two things in order to be happy: food to eat and somewhere to sleep. Any other need is an artificial need. So I realized I didn’t need friends to be happy and therefore, I hadn’t to feel ashamed of that.
Is it bad to not have friends?
well, i used to live in Michigan and i have 4 best friends. i would do anything for them(literally anything). but i moved to South Carolina about 2 months ago because my dad got a job here. I talk to my friends one time per day. im always in touch with them. but here in south carolina, i have no friends at all. like, i already tried talking to like 20 people but they all ignore me and they all think that im weird. i go to school and pretty much do nothing. i'm not a easily boring person but here, im bored all the time. so, is it bad for me to not have friends and what would you do if you we're in my case. BTW im 15
Is it okay not to have any friends?
It is completely ok. If it makes you feel any better, I'm really similar to everything you just described about yourself. I would suggest though that you do keep in touch with people because humans are meant to be around people, you can be around other introverts. What you have to say is meaningful, remember that. People will be acceptive of your awkward-ness if they really are good people to be friends with.... And soon enough you should open up your shell to them. Even having one person in your life can make a huge difference. It is better to have one best friends than millions of just "friends." So, is it okay to be alone? yes. But, I think, for the sake of your life happiness...it would be nice if you made an acquaintance with someone to get close to. If you can continue living your life without that, then I commend you. Don't be afraid to love though...that's what is most important.. Remember, people out there just like you...Like me... I hope this helps. :)
I'm 19, is it okay to have no friends at the moment?
You are better off sometimes. I am alone, and I feel a hell of a lot safer this way. People either want something from you, or want to do something to you, or want you to do something to them, or for them. If you are alone, you are probably a good person. People are rotten. Take a good look at my profile. Look around, read around, think a little about things. And if you are smart, you will look at my other answers, and EVEN, comments that I have made and my blog. You WILL learn things that you can use. I have things, Hiding in Plain Site. You just have to look around a bit. Your smart, you asked a question. Search, and see what you find. I am telling you to look and where to look. You just have to find it.After a decade of dealing with social anxiety and trying everything from medication, reading every book under the sun and even solo travelling around the world to try and break out of my shell I’ve finally figured out what it takes. And honestly it could have been done in a few weeks.Everyone is, of course, different. And we all experience different levels of shyness or social anxiety. But when you come right down to everyone is dealing with the same learned behavioural problem with the same root cause and same root cure.Learned experience has caused it. Whether you were 5 or 35 the lower levels of your brain has learned to fear social situations. And the answer is re-training this lower level of your brain in a controlled way (because just throwing yourself into the deep end reinforces the problem in the long run). In theory, I learned that a long time ago. Putting it into practice was another story. I know how easy it is to get the feeling nobody else is going through the same thing as you are but I promise you at the root it’s all the same thing. I spent years hiding away in my room watching TV and playing games because I was easier than going out and facing people as much as I really wanted to. Watching others lead lives I wish I had but never understanding how they managed to talk to people so easily.I’m not normally one to suggest self-help books. Partly because I’m a guy and partly because I’ve read a load of them and most don’t actually have anything you can use in the real world. I did find the thing which finally turned my life around (and a way you can download the full audiobook for free): Shy to Social Free Audio Book and Community
Is it common to not have any friends at all?
I think the important question here is not whether it's common, and rather whether you like it.I know some people who enjoy their own company that they prefer to be alone. And even though they have friends they rarely meet or talk. They are happy this way.But I guess you wouldn't be asking if you like it. I guess your real question is: why don't I have friends?!Well, it could be because you didn't connect with people around you. It could be because you moved as a child and couldn't keep in touch with old friends. It could be because you don't try to meet people who are similar to you. It could be because you're shy or you're perceived as a loner. It could be for lots of things.I know you think you are at the point where it's too late to make friends. You are NOT.There's no such a thing.I know that most people think that we shouldn't do something to meet friends and we're going to pass by them in our natural course of life. But I do believe that we can intentionally meet new people who like things that we like and who are potential friends.So, I suggest that you take monthly challenge of trying new things and meeting new people.Here are some suggestions that you are free to edit based on what you like and enjoy:Join a book club and discover what type of books you like.Or a movie club.Take a cooking course.Take a photography course.Explore the city on foot.Visit a new restaurant every week and write a review.Join gatherings of people who like Star Wars, Star Trek, or Harry Potter.Post short videos of you talking on new things you’ve tried.Go to gym.Be nice to people, this is one of the most underrated human interactions.Believe me there are plenty of people who want to meet a new friend and you could be that new friend.
Is it ok to be alone and have no real friends?
It is. I managed to end up right now In my college years pretty much friendless. It bothered me a lot when I was younger and a teenager but now I know that it’s just a fact. For the first time ever I also know that it doesn’t define me.It’s just a fact that you don’t have any friends. You can make friends. However it will take effort and time and will not happen overnight. People will judge you because of it but I know that now so I’m prepared for it.You have to accept it not as something that defines you but just as your situation in life. And your life can and will change. If you have been depressed, anxious or suffered from any other mental issues then please know that you should go easy on yourself and take your time trying to go back into the social world. It took me a long, long while to feel good about myself again and if this is the same for you then please know that this is perfectly normal.Don’t listen to the negative bullshit society in general will say about you. ‘You’re a loser, you’re weird, you’re pathetic, you’re lazy, you must be really messed up, god you must have so much emotional baggage’. These are some of the things I was led to believe but do you know what: fuck that. How are any of these things true. Sometimes in life you don’t like people, you have low self esteem or just don’t make friends that easily. You can’t just label someone as a pathetic loser because they don’t have any friends. It’s much more complex than that. Only you know your reasons as to why you currently don’t have any friends and I know my reasons. Fuck everyone else. It’s hard enough as it is, what with all the nights in on your own and that. So really you don’t need to hear these things and if you do, know they are inherently wrong.