Newlywed wife not interested in sex?
If you dated for five years, you must have some ability to communicate with each other. Sit her down and talk to her about this seriously. You can't live together for the next 50 years or so like this. She needs to give you her attention when you're home and work with you on the sex. She needs to give you sex even if it's not "what she thought it was going to be". It'll get better if she just gives it a chance.
What should I do when my newlywed wife gives me the Silent Treatment?
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I'm a newly wed. How can I be a good wife to my husband?
My wife and I are best friends who happen to be married. With that comes mutual respect. Be your own person - be yourself. Don't change who you are for your mate, or be the person you think your mate wants you to be. Sure, some things are a compromise, but be true to who you are. Trying to change fundamental things about yourself for the sake of someone else will likely lead to resentment, depression or both.Learn when to fight and when to stop a fight to go back to it later. Most people reach a point in a fight where they can become hurtful or too focused on "winning." Your mate isn't your adversary. Sure, you'll disagree sometimes. You will get angry - furious even. You can fight, but fight fair. Be honest about why you are upset. Get it out of your system and try to work together to solve the issue. And always apologise, or at least let them know that they have been heard and that their feelings matter. Don't let money come between you. If you find yourselves struggling financially at some point, don't turn frustration into blame or make little things into big things just to release that frustration and tension. Learn to laugh at yourself and the situations that comes up. Seriously - humor can diffuse a fight or tension. A lot of things are funny in hindsight. Humor can really help to ease talking about things that are otherwise difficult. Just don't like fun at things that your mate is insecure about or their feelings. Nobody likes to be minimized or have their deepest vulnerabilities reduced to a joke.Guys generally need to be told exactly what is wanted or expected of them. At least they are in western cultures. As observant as I may be to when something is bothering my wife, I'm not a mind reader. She tells me exactly what is wrong and what she expects of me. That saves a lot of problems. I do the same with her, too. Just always be honest. If you find that he's really, really angry because you didn't do the dishes when it was your turn (share the housework evenly), chances are, it's not about dishes. If it is about dishes, tell him some guy on Quara told him to relax a little - it's only dishes, man!
How do you approach your newly wed wife for sex?
It largely depends on how you think and the kind of ignorant society you belong to. But since you ask at least try to figure out what she wants, a rest after the wedding circus or a bit of talk. Most traditions are indecent and downright weird. The stories i have heard makes me think one has to be very careful because lots of people lie before the marriage about various things and soon after marriage those things come to surface and the conning party thinks well now what can he/she do? there is lots of fraud in indian weddings just like everywhere else.On the other hand if you are like them then its simple: good things happen because of you and bad things happen because of your spouse.
I'm a newly wed and my wife recently took a job on a different state?
We've been together for 2 years and recently got married. I'm 9 years older so I've been working at a company for years. She just got done with college and fearing she would not find anything better locally, took a job ( a good job) for a company in a different state. I haven't been too happy at my job either and she wants me to quit and move in with her. Anything wrong with this picture? I'm just afraid she might be making decisions that are in her best interest only and not being considerate of me.
What's the process for divorce for a newly wedded wife if she discovers within first month that husband is a mentally ill person and relationship can't be established?
First of all of you want to divorce the person because they are mentally ill, what is the guarantee that you are not going to be the same? Mental illness does not mean anything if the person is managing.By marrying he is trying to live a life as normal as can be. I support many families that way. People recover all the time. Humans are not illness categories. If you can be a support to him today he will be a support for you tomorrow. Help him recover, instead of damaging him further just at the juncture where be is trying to gain confidence in his life. You both will emerge stronger from the experience.Just imagine how easy it will be for both of you to marry again once you leave now. You will both be hurt where you both could have been saved from the suffering. Hold on, help him and help yourself. Read my story of recovery if need be.
How often do newly weds have sex?
I am 20 as of october, and my wife is 19, we previously had been dating for 2 1/2 years and as of september we have been married a year and together 3 1/2. I was wondering whats the normal amount of sex other couples are having within their first year? I love having sex but almost never get any, we have a wonderful relationship, she is my best friend and I'm hers. Before we got married we had several attempts but she said it hurt too much so it didn't happen much so oral sex was often for the both of us. We got married because we love each other very much, but we still don't have sex often, more than before but not often. I ask often but I am turned down because shes "not in the mood" almost %90 of the time. What must I do? I try to stimulate her and get her in the mood but she is on her iphone or watching tv. I would like to have sex atleast 3-4 times a week but lately it's like twice a month. We're trying to concieve and she very much wants to but I constantly have to remind her that you've got to have sex to make a baby! Sorry for writing so much, any and all input is appreciated.
Which is the best restaurant in Delhi to take your newly wed wife to for dinner?
Initial outings with your wife will always be special and memorable. I have listed a few private candlelight dinners, that you can consider. Apart from private dining I have added other restaurants with romantic ambience that are worth considering to dine with your wife.Taj Vivanta- You will be served dinner at a private poolside candlelight table. Also, the table will be specially decorated with candlelight setup (as shown in the photo below). Private butler will be there to serve you. You can go for live guitarist performance or other such options to enhance your experience at this 5-star hotel.The Lalit- This is again a private pool side candlelight dinner. This is a must visit place to create memories with your partner. The decoration of your table will be mesmerizing. Five star bakery cake, guitarist performance other such options are also available to make your evening more delightful.Lutyens’ Resort- Romantically decorated private rooftop table (as shown in the photo below) is just another way to make your wife feel special. Romantic music in the background will be played to make the air of love flow throughout the place. Another surprise for your wife - a cake with a personal message.BBQ Factory- This place is just outside Delhi, in Gurugram but I couldn't resist myself from adding it. You can check the photo below for the reason. You must have dinner in this private dining room with such heart taking decoration. You can go for a movie screening here or other such options to surprise your wife.Veda- You will be escorted to your table. Special welcome drinks will be served to you. Also, you'll be served from the special menu. To make your evening more delightful you can go for cake and bouquet.Ardor- At this place, you can opt for terrace seating or indoor one for privacy. Your table will be exclusively decorated. Along with welcome drinks you will have special menu to choose from. Other special options - private mandolin player, cake, bouquet etc are available to enhance your experience.For more such exclusive, romantic and customized options, visit ExperienceSaga. Dining options for couples with the best table at the restaurant start at ₹1900 only.Happy dining.
We're newly married and my wife still parties/get together with her ex-boyfriend/friends regularly. How can I deal with it?
You are in deep shit my friend.Do not trust anyone who says that trust your wife and that she needs her space. This is beyond that. This is India and my personal experience has been that girls and young women here are not very reliable. Do not trust me? Look at other females and try to think why they don't trust other girls. Once you are inside the female circles, you will know all about lies and deception.Don't be a fool. She knows that it's easy to fool you. What did it take? A simple explanation that you will not understand? Why doesn't she try to make you understand? After all, her husband should be her priority as long as you are not being unreasonable. You have every right to ask the question. She can choose to answer it but here, she didn't. She knows that you are not social and you may not be comfortable with such 'outings'. But it is inconsiderate on her part not to make you at ease.Any reason why she is excluding you from all her outings with her friends? If you do not see her friends ever, it is suspicious. There is something that she is hiding. If it was purely platonic, she would not mind tagging you along or introducing them to you.I do not support you trying to control her or blackmail her. Talk to her nicely. Tell her you would like to go along with her. Try to know her friends. If her friends are good to you, things are good. If you feel they try to avoid you or take pity on you, shit is going on. Be mature. Talk to her parents. If if still does not work out, hire a personal detective. Marriages are not made in heaven. You were a fool if you married a girl whose lifestyle does not match yours. My terse advice, you met the wrong girl. Either she has to mend her ways or you will have to move out. But it will not be easy. She will not get someone like you whom she can take for ride easily and there will be lots of tantrums. Your call.This may not be a popular opinion but hard truths are rarely popular. People believe in what is politically correct than what is correct.
I am newly married (10 days) and found my wife with keloids on her body. I am very depressed and not ok with it. What should I do now?
As someone pointed out, your wife must have been forced by her parents to hide that fact.Let me tell you about me. I'm a 40+ woman. Married. A son. I was never healthy. Still not healthy but don't give a damn. I'm a fighter since birth. And that is how I will always be.When I was a teenager, I had to be operated for TB (Not the one they show in movies. Not the ones where the cough and cough and vomit blood. Nope. Not that one.). I went through 2 surgeries. When it was time to get married, my mom threatened me if I revealed about this, I will get rejected. And I believed her but hated myself for lying. But my hubby was an understanding guy. You see, no one wants to be sick and it is not in their hands when they get sick. They just have to go through it. They have to fight sickness. That is what my husband saw and said to me when I finally told him about my TB case.And, I too have keloids. Yes, they are ugly. Very ugly. Do you think that people want keloids? No, they don't. No one wants keloids. But, some people don't have a choice. They have to live with it.And not many people know that keloids are a natural reaction of our body but in a slightly different way. When a person gets hurt, the body's natural is to produce scar tissue, repair that wound and protect the body from the injury. And for some people the body overproduces the scar tissue. And that overproduced scar tissue is what we call keloids. So, you see our body overproduces scar tissues. We do not deliberately ask for overproducing scar tissues. It's just the we are.Whew! That was a long answer!Mister. Who ever you are. Remember, your wife might have emotionally blackmailed. She already has enough shit to deal with. Don't give her more shit.Keloids are not diseases. They are not contagious. Yes, they are ugly. But not ugly as your mindset.Change. Be a better man. Be the hope she wants and desires. She's a human. Just like you. But vulnerable.