Is it okay that I don't want to move on from my ex?
I understand. Because I felt the same way as well.Regardless of what people said down here, I’m not gonna do the same. I don’t condone calling people stupid and timid and pathetic just because they don’t want to do something they felt they don’t want to.Because I have the dilemma that all the people trying to force their positivities on oneself is inherently evil, regardless of their intentions.I do not want those people to tell me to move on just because it is the reality.I bet they themselves couldn’t even tell you what lies ahead when one decided, who can tell that good things are coming for you? Is it true, how can you prove it? There’s nothing concrete about “things are going to get better.”I don’t want people with positive smugness to tell me or you or anyone to move on and stop being pathetic.Sometimes, it is these people who abruptly has the ego to tell others that moving on is the best for them because it is how the world works.Well, fuck that. Nobody wants solutions when it comes to emotion. They need someone to understand them.If you choose not to move on, then it is your life, I sympathize, I listen quietly and I hear you.At least I’m the only one who has the guts to say that you’re absolutely okay. to see the world in the different way others look.Back to the question: is it okay that you don’t want to move on from your ex?Others said that you should move on, or end up looking pathetic for yourself.Fuck that.My answer is: if you feel like it, you don’t have to. You can choose to be happy. You can choose to be sad. You can choose to be on your way, and you definitely can choose not to move on with your ex.I don’t want you to listen to those people who force you to have positive outlook, you can do it by yourself. What you need right now, is understanding.Understand yourself. And be proud of what you choose. Regardless what others may say about it. Especially love aspects of your life. If you think you have enough, then yes, by all means.
IS IT OKAY IF I DON'T GO TO HOMECOMING?
So this is my FIRST year at a NEW highschool, and I don't know anyone... I have no friends (except this one girl that went to middle school with me but yeahh.... Still she's a sophomore) And I don't know when there's homecoming. Im not even sure WHAT a homecoming is...? I've never had one.. Cause at my old middle school , there was no highschool it stopped at 8th grade and it was a SMALL school. 30 people TOTAL in the entire middle school. So yeahh. I never went to any of the dances in middle school,. I can't / don't dance... And I've heard that it's sort of a like a big dance except with a football game and a party? Well I don't / won't have a date (trust me... I would know) and I don't really care for parties (cause I have no friends lol -_-) and anddd yeah I just don't care for it... Would it be okay to not go?/: I don't WANT to go, that's the problem too. I don't want to buy a dress and blah blah.. Does everyone go though?/; idk! Help! Thanks btw Im a freshmen girl
Is it ok if I don't have dinner?
Absolutely - most people eat out of habit rather than hunger, it is said the healthiest diet would be to have breakfast like a King, lunch like a Prince, & dinner like a beggar.Many Buddhist monks in Thailand, Sri Lanka, Burma, Laos, SE Asia don’t eat anything after midday - you’ll rarely if ever see a fat SE Asian Buddhist monk.
Is it okay if I don't like my parents?
Part of growing up is distinguishing yourself from your parents.What parts of each of them do you adopt? Which parts do you reject? Why?This psychological growth process is called Individuation or Separation-Individuation Theory. It is often painful and confusing. It often causes anger and resentment because people who are individuating are looking at what they dislike — and reacting.You are always free to feel your feelings. It is okay — and good for you! — to dislike your parents at times. Or always. Your dislike of them is more revealing of you, than them. It is about you.If you dislike their pettiness, that dislike speaks to your depth or desire for depth.If you dislike their emphasis on external things, or status, or any X, that dislike speaks to your like of something else.You are here to walk your own path. While living with your parents, you are seeing various ways you can walk, and preparing yourself for your life’s journey.If you walk away from unlikeable aspects of your parents, you can always accept those parts which are in fact acceptable to you.Love isn't all or nothing. You get to pick and choose your focus. So maybe don't reject them entirely, just reject the parts you dislike. And then behave towards the parts you do like as you imagine you would if you truly loved them.As these are the only parents you have, I figure you may as well enjoy some aspects of them, if there are any.At the very least, be able to look in the mirror and like what you see: treat them with compassion, as they are doing their best even though it may not be enough for you.You can reparent yourself by imagining what an ideal parent would do or say in any instance when your own parents fall short of your ideal.Growing is never easy, and neither is change. I think most of us are growing up, changing, and doing what we can to be improving, all of our lives, and that we are every age we have ever been, all at once.So the baby in us doesn't want to leave the parent forever even while the adult in us thinks the parent may be — in some way — unlikeable.That is why it is a good idea to not entirely reject one’s parents: the baby within still wants them, however remote the chances may be that the baby’s needs will be met.By creating an ideal set of parents, the baby within’s needs are met. Consider reparenting yourself, even while you individuate. I think it helps the process of growing.
Is it ok if I don't wear my retainer for a day?
So i'm going to my state fair tomorrow (which is HUGEE) and it has a ton of food and I really don't want to have to bring my retainer and wrap it in a napkin every time I want to eat! Is it ok if I just don't wear it while i'm at the fair? Thank you!!!
Is it okay if you don't care whether you live or die?
Yes, it’s okay. There are some days where it might feel like the entire world’s against you and there’s nothing you can do about it. There are some days where it might feel like nobody’s there for you. There are some days where you think the world would be a better place without you, and it’s all these days that make you very, very human. It’s these days you have to not let get the best of you. And whether everyday is like this for you, or perhaps only a few, I can promise you that there is always something out there that will make you want to be alive. Whether it be a passion you have yet to discover, or a person you have yet to meet, or forgiveness you have yet to give— there will always be a reason to be alive, it’s just you might not always be able to see it. But knowing it’s there is all you need. And even if you aren’t able to accept this, remember what an incredible thing it is that you are alive. It’s estimated that the probability that any single person is born is 1 in 400 trillion. I mean, just think about that! Someone rolled a 400 trillion sided dice, and you were lucky enough to be on the side face up. It’s not a privilege, it’s not a gift, its just pure luck; you’re not entitled to do anything or be anything or live up to anyone’s expectations. Just be the person you want to be and do the things you love to do and I promise that you’ll be so grateful for how lucky you got.
Is it okay if I don't wear retainers in school?
I put my braces off a week ago. I had them for 4 years. Doctor gave me retainers and said I have to wear them all day except when I eat, brush and do sports, even at school. Until now I haven't wore them at school but now I googled the thing and saw that some people are saying you really have to wear them all day and now I am affraid that my teeth would shift again. 1. Is it okay if i don't wear them at school? That would mean I would wear them 14 hours a day (I wouldn't wear them for 9 hours that school takes me + 1hour for eating and brushing at home). I would wear them all weekend, but only bout 9 hours at fridays. I really don't want to have anything on my teeth while I'm in public but I also don't want to have bad teeth again... I never saw anyone wearing them before and I can't speak clearely while i have them on. What should I do? What are the chances for my teeth go to previous position again? 2. I took photos of my teeth today so I will see if they start to shape back again, but if they do and I start to wear retainers 24/7 will I be able to get them back in nice position? 3. Do you know anyone who has done same thing before (not wearing at school) and what were the results?
Is it okay not to have friends?
It is absolutely OK and I’ll explain why. Definitely, I’m not a psychologist, but I can speak for my own experience as an introvert and not having any friend. Till I turned 40, I felt ashamed of not having friends, because I felt it was kind of a moral and social obligation for anyone to be considered “normal”. But then I got rid of that complex and I got convinced that I enjoyed life a lot on my own. You see, I’ve always had a very rich inner world: I love reading, going to the theater, to the movies, and above all, music is the most important part in my life, so I enjoy tremendously going to concerts two or three times a week. All these activities, I do them by myself, I don’t need anyone to share them. More than that: I don’t need to talk to anybody about what I’ve just seen.I also play the piano and write novels, and these two activities make me feel so fulfilled that I don’t have time to hang out with friends. Also I go to the gym every day because I love to live healthy. All this might sound odd or sad to a lot of people, but believe me if I tell you that I am so happy with my current life that sometimes I can hardly believe it.Just one more thing. What allowed me to get rid of that feeling of being ashamed for not having friends was a book by a spanish psychologist, Rafael Santandreu, whose motto was: People just need two things in order to be happy: food to eat and somewhere to sleep. Any other need is an artificial need. So I realized I didn’t need friends to be happy and therefore, I hadn’t to feel ashamed of that.