Is it normal that I'm quiet and barely talk when I'm around people?
Introverts get a bum rap--usually from themselves. While it appears like "everyone has an easier time socializing..." this is frequently untrue. Extroverts are great at superficial connection; you (I'm assuming) would rather not have vapid, insincere conversations. Still, you have the same basic, human need to connect.Here's what you can do: don't change. Instead, reassess your perceptions of "normal." Read up on multiple intelligences, a notion first introduced to the masses by Howard Gardner, and take note that "interpersonal intelligence" runs alongside "interpersonal" intelligence. To be so open and vulnerable to many is a liability, especially when you don't have common ground with this number of people. Don't sweat whether you can't talk at length with people...keep watching, keep thinking, and connect in contexts where you and people around you are more of a mind (or disposition) together. And be patient, friend. What you see happening around you and the sense of social urgency you feel are only perceptions, not realities. If you don't have a meditation practice--just a breathing, let-your-mind-run-and-WATCH-where-it-goes, observational practice--start one. If being an "intranaut" is your wheelhouse, meditation can help you see how your own thoughts...I repeat, "thoughts"...sneakily trick you into believing they are realities (like, you are a social misfit, which is BS).Plus, people will be grateful that you have gone where they fear to go. Much of the social interaction you covet(?) is motivated less by love than fear. Be true to you, inner-space monkey! Boldly go where few dare. You have a gift of your own. Use it, bless it, and let your social acumen be based on the authentic you, not the mere self-perception...especially at the age of 19. At least you're reaching out at age 19 to get some encouragement. You'll probably need to ask it again. Don't sweat that either; we grow in cycles, too.
Why is my boyfriend more talkative and funny with friends (guys and girls) than he is with me? He also barely makes eye contact with me when we’re with friends.
I see many relationship questions like this on Quora every week:“My boyfriend doesn’t call or text me much anymore. What should I do?”“All my partner and I seem to do is argue with each other all the time. What should I do?”“My boyfriend(girlfriend) seems so distant recently. What should I do?”I always guess that a bad (toxic) relationship is the root cause, but lately I have developed a theory on the basic cause.Many decades ago when people dated, many of them actually made it to their honeymoon. For those that started early, they usually were is a serious relationship or engaged before they started sharing one another.A couple of decades ago when our sons were starting dating, especially in college, young people often were in bed together by the third date. I’m not saying that is bad. The problem is that God (or mother nature) designed human sex as a very powerful bonding experience that works great for holding marriage together. But when a young couple starts out having sex too early it becomes so “bonding” that they overlook many issues that really make them not a long range compatible couple. They exist in a toxic relationship based (loosely) on good (or OK) sex. When they are not in bed, the relationship is not good. Thus we end up with Quora relationship questions looking for help.I say all this for those couples where this might apply. Do you really have anything “solid” in your relationship other that the sex part? If the honest answer is “no.” Please consider calling it off and move on. Life is too short for toxic relationships.
Why do i act so crazy at school?
umm! well i´m a bit crazy at school, but when i come home i am very quiet. I guess some people think i am extremly crazy especially when all the sudden i get really angry and almost don´t answer when people talk to me. And home i am a totally different person. And i don´t know why i am like that but is it possible because my dad had cancer and i use that "hyperness" to hide my pain?
Why am I super shy and quiet around strangers but loud, crazy and fun around my best friends and family?
I really don't understand, especially since I'm a 30year old female like I hardly can open my mouth around strangers and co-works and act awkward but around my friends and Family I'm outgoing and fun. Will people perceive me as being a fake?
Why does my friend act differently towards me when others are around?
That is a very good question but the answer is far from simple.People present themselves to other people in different ways according to what they think the other person wants to see.When your friend is with you alone they are presenting themselves as they want you to see them. They may appear very understanding of your issues and problems on a one to one basis.However, they may also feel that some aspects of your personality are not something they totally agree with. So when somebody else is there they need to present themselves in a way that appeals not only to you but also to the other person. This can lead to conflicts as the other person may have different views and so your friend may have to behave towards you differently in order to also appease the other person.This is human nature and nothing to get too concerned about. A good friend will always value you for what you are and treat you the same in all situations, however a less worthy friend will adapt to other people around and change their attitude towards you according to who they are trying to please.So in my opinion the friend you are talking about may be a superficial friend but does not qualify as a true friend.
What are some characteristics of meth addicts?
Rather than the obvious signs of the homeless rock-bottom addict, perhaps it may be more useful to see some of the earlier subtle signs:-Weight loss despite junk food diet. They may appear pleasantly trim.-Bad skin-Very talkative, full of ideas. Can be intellectually interesting and engaging but at some point it feels they are talking at you more than with you.-No meaningful follow through on said big ideas.-Prone to irrational shifts into angry outbursts. These can be very quick and weird in normal conversation. -vanishing, unreliable to time commitments... Like not answering the phone all weekend, with vague explanations. In reality they were asleep for 3 days.-strange tooth decay, like along the sides of the front teeth. Teeth ground down.-hypersexual at times in risky ways-extremely clean house. Spotless bathrooms and kitchens. And yet there may be a nasty pile of junk hidden somewhere with piles of unfinished projects and found objects -spastic bird-like motions. If they are into dancing this might seem normal -rapid shifts in mood. They may go from sluggish and grumpy to quick and talkative after a short bathroom break.-weird hours in general. Like texting you at 5am with some sort of question -paranoid delusions. This doesn't have to be conspiracy theories and mind control, it could be extreme jealousy and accusations directed at you. Then it may get weirder with obsessions that various people or entities are watching them.-fascination with parts of objects.Contrary to expectations, there are severe meth addicts out there who hold down jobs and the appearance of normal life. In fact meth is a drug that can actually increase brain speed and productivity. Meth users are not stupid while high, but they end up irrational. They are dimwitted only when coming down. This makes the addiction very insidious as the addiction outsmarts the addict and the people around them in subtly sophisticated ways.
Are my friends being rude or am I just annoying?
They are being rude, a bit. Not so much when you jumped into the conversation, but it's definitely rude to invite someone to your house and then spend your time having a private Skype session with someone else. It is possible that Abby doesn't like you and is being a drama queen by making it into an issue with Kat and Elise. It's also possible that they're enjoying having a secret and acting like drama queens about something that has nothing to do with you. But it sucks to be excluded and have to wonder if you're being talked about. Kat and Elise are not being great friends when they put you in this situation repeatedly. My advice would be to keep your distance from Abby. If she is talking about you and trying to convince Kat and Elise how annoying you are, then it'll take her off-guard if you suddenly stop showing interest in her. Her comments to Kat and Elise will seem petty and mean when it's clear to them that you aren't giving Abby any reason to hate you. In the meantime, try to find ways where you can hang out with your two friends without Abby around. If you find time to hang out separately, there is no reason you and Abby should be forced to like each other or why Kat and Elise should be forced to choose between you two. I'd also recommend trying to meet some new people. Even if these girls aren't talking about you, they have excluded you a few times and it's possible that this will get worse over time (for any number of reasons - it doesn't necessarily mean you're the person who Abby hates). Even if you don't make friends easily, take a few steps to broaden your social circle: reconnect with an old friend, invite a new acquaintance to hang out, join a club that gets you outside of your school group, etc. You might even find that if you develop new friendships, your relationships with Kat and Elise (and maybe even Abby) improve because they won't feel like you're socially dependent on them anymore. So regardless of what is really going on, I don't think you can go wrong with trying to meet some new friends. Good luck.
I am extremely shy at school but im really a loud person with my family and close people?
You are obviously shy with people who are not close to you and talkative with those who you know well. Since that is the case try to make one or two good friends in school or perhaps someone is in several classes with you or someone that lives near you. Do you have any hobbies such as shopping? Join some clubs at school. They are usually more relaxed than a classroom. At lunch try to sit with the same people for a week or two and listen in to what they are saying. Add something when the topic is of interest. Many girls like to talk on the telephone. Get the phone numbers of some girls in your classes and call them about homework. You may get involved with them in other ways too. You know the problem and knowledge means that you half way there. Use some of the suggestions above and perhaps you will receive others as well. Then you will be at the other half and be there where at least most of your shyness will disappear. The first few days frequent;y present an opportunity to make new friends. You can start a conversation by asking how are that persons teachers. Learn to smile in school. If you are frowning it looks like you do not want to be approached. Goo luck in the new term and say hello to someone for me.