Just caught my 17 year old step son raping my 13 year old daughter. advice? ?
listen to me please. I was abused by my pedo grandfather. But my mothers reactoin was not like yours. She told me to keep the family secret and put up with it. When she dies, i will spit over her grave where her body rots, and i shall only ever regret that i was too sensible to put her in there myself. so congradulations on protecting your daughter thus far. But you have to realise - you cannot betray your daughter and make her live in that house with that step brother of hers any more. Even after my grandfather stopped touching me - i still had the pit in my stomach at being in his presense. Or even in the presence of people who liked or admired him. What you must do - is report this 17 year old to the police. CHances are - because your husband was not angry - that he knew what was going on and was ignoring it because he didnt want to face it. He is going to take his sons side. He already has. And do not think it is unbelievable that that should happen - i told my mother i wanted to report my grandfather to the police and she told me that she would say i was a liar. (and she was also abused at 10 years old by him!) If you want your daughters love - then you must divorce your husband. I cannot tell you how it distroys a womans soul to have her body hurt and violated like that. To this day, 1 out of 3 times when i make love with a partner, i will shudder and cry and run out of the room. Some have been understanding. Others have not. Enough damage has been done to your poor daughter - PROTECT HER - LET MOMMY TIGER COME OUT NOW!!!!!!!!! It is important that you get your daughter to see a psychologist to teach her stress coping techniques. Typically, a few months from now, she will have random shaking fits, cold sweats in the middle of the night, trouble sleeping, fell like choking on thin air etc. IT is all normal. Please give her the help she needs. I coped with it all on my own. And it was so damn hard I tried to slit my wrists a few times. But i made it. I would appreciate if you emailed me how it all goes. I get emotionally involved when i read quesitons like this. Regards, Jessica (aged 18, and sincerely hoping you listen)
My son in high school got spit on yesterday by a girl in class. I am upset but he told me that he walked away
My son was just walking around the track with other students and because she kept turning around telling him to shut up while he was listening to music to himself, and in his own ear she decieded to turn around agin and spit in his face. He walked back towards the school and went to wash his hair and face. But i am not pleased or happy about this. I think it is a form of assault and this girl could be sick or anything. I just don't know how to handle this. My son is hurt but just quiet. What should I do??
My girlfriend slapped me when we were walking on the street, in front of many people. Then I immediately dumped her. But it wasn't enough to make me calm down. What can I do?
Walk away. Part of being a man is knowing when to fight and when not to fight. Your ex slapped you in public, you dumped her…end of story. It’s not like she was a guy or anything…You’re probably embarrassed, but which is more embarrassing…she slapped you and you took it like a man or she slapped you and you slapped her back.No self respecting man will strike a woman under any circumstances. You can…and should restrain a woman when necessary…but no striking.Honestly, if you can’t calm down you shouldn’t be in a relationship anyway. I’m sorry, it comes with the territory and all those kisses, hugs and “other stuff” has a price to pay on the other side.You paid a bit of the price.Take your time, understand you did what you felt was best…and move on.And if (…when) she comes running back, smack her on the a** every chance you get in public for a week……tell her your hand was lonely.Good Luck..
If someone spits on the ground towards you as a sign of disrespect, what do you do?
It’s only an insult if you accept that it’s an insult.If I call you a torbid, what would your feelings be? Confusion? An eye roll?It’s only when you internally translate a word or action into an insult, that you feel insulted.Someone who spits at you as a sign of disrespect is manipulating you into feeling insulted. They’re pulling your strings.If you cut the strings, they have no control over you.Why would you let someone else manipulate and control you?Roll your eyes. Give them a bored look. Laugh. Give them the look you would at a child who challenged you.It only means something if you give it meaning.
Why are homeless people so freaking rude and ignorant?
You have every right to be angry. He shouldn't have treated you that way. But your actions didn't help you at all. You punched him instead of walking away thanking God that you are not in his shoes. Sure, you may be justified in your actions but what did it prove? You handed him a dollar (very graciously) and he was a smart-a$$ about it. You took that personally (kind of hard not to, 'eh?) but people who live that life are just hardened. Not that it makes it okay but that's just how it is. By being angry enough to ask why all homeless people are that way...sounds like it made you a little hardened too.
How to break my Autistic childs BAD habits?
its obvious a lot of people here dont understand what an autistic child entails. there are people who specialize in how to "reach" autistic kids and better communicate with them. i would strongly recommend getting in touch with one. a doctor should be able to point you in the right direction. hes almost old enough for school, so you should already be preparing for alternatives or counseling to help. mostly though, you just have to be patient with him. hes going to be stubborn about things and you just have to keep reinforcing what you dont want him to do over and over again. eventually, he will get the picture. you just have to be more resolute than he is. some things are always going to be there (screaming and spitting for one). you cant think of him in terms of a normal child. remember too, that its just as painful and frustrating for him as it is for you and your wife.
What does it mean to spit on the ground in front of someone passing by? If you are walking and a boy passing by spits on the ground when he sees you, is it a racial act?
“Never attribute to belligerence what can be easily explained by incompetence.”— I don’t remember where I first heard that.In any case, if this was a little kid, then I think that you should attribute it to ill manners on the part of a child, unless the child’s parents gave the child a signal of encouragement.It’s counter-productive to ascribe belligerence to an action just because it’s possible that it is belligerent. You’ll spend too much time ‘dealing with’ false alarms. It’s also counter productive for another reason:“If you insist on treating someone like enemy, sooner or later, they’ll get the hint”.— meIf you keep on treating benign acts as belligerent, after awhile, some of the people that you keep accusing will stop even trying to be nice. In the other direction, prejudice is mostly born of ignorance and fear. If people engaged in low-level (protective) prejudice find that you respond in a kind manner, you’re more likely to eventually turn them to your side.“One turned enemy is worth at least two dead ones.”In support of that, I’ll point to the case of Daryl Davis A black Man who essentially collects KKK robes by befriending members of the racist group. In my world view, belligerence should be a response of last resort. Intentional love tolerance and kindness are, by far, the better ‘weapons’ against racism, prejudice and bigotry.Jesus’ call to turn the other cheek isn’t just an opportunity for you to prove your faith. It’s also a practical solution to hatred and fear. It’s been said that “if everybody chose an eye for an eye, we’d all be blind”, but it’s also true that if everybody turned the other cheek, we’d have a completely peaceful world.Love really is an answer.
Best Joke Challenge...will you get 10 points?
So here's the deal...you have to use the sentence I provide below in a joke that you make up. The person who has the most creative/funny joke will get the 10 points for best answer...! The sentence is: "A lion, a witch and a wardrobe walk into a bar." Make me laugh!