Is it okay not to have friends?
It is absolutely OK and I’ll explain why. Definitely, I’m not a psychologist, but I can speak for my own experience as an introvert and not having any friend. Till I turned 40, I felt ashamed of not having friends, because I felt it was kind of a moral and social obligation for anyone to be considered “normal”. But then I got rid of that complex and I got convinced that I enjoyed life a lot on my own. You see, I’ve always had a very rich inner world: I love reading, going to the theater, to the movies, and above all, music is the most important part in my life, so I enjoy tremendously going to concerts two or three times a week. All these activities, I do them by myself, I don’t need anyone to share them. More than that: I don’t need to talk to anybody about what I’ve just seen.I also play the piano and write novels, and these two activities make me feel so fulfilled that I don’t have time to hang out with friends. Also I go to the gym every day because I love to live healthy. All this might sound odd or sad to a lot of people, but believe me if I tell you that I am so happy with my current life that sometimes I can hardly believe it.Just one more thing. What allowed me to get rid of that feeling of being ashamed for not having friends was a book by a spanish psychologist, Rafael Santandreu, whose motto was: People just need two things in order to be happy: food to eat and somewhere to sleep. Any other need is an artificial need. So I realized I didn’t need friends to be happy and therefore, I hadn’t to feel ashamed of that.
I'm 19, is it okay to have no friends at the moment?
You are better off sometimes. I am alone, and I feel a hell of a lot safer this way. People either want something from you, or want to do something to you, or want you to do something to them, or for them. If you are alone, you are probably a good person. People are rotten. Take a good look at my profile. Look around, read around, think a little about things. And if you are smart, you will look at my other answers, and EVEN, comments that I have made and my blog. You WILL learn things that you can use. I have things, Hiding in Plain Site. You just have to look around a bit. Your smart, you asked a question. Search, and see what you find. I am telling you to look and where to look. You just have to find it.After a decade of dealing with social anxiety and trying everything from medication, reading every book under the sun and even solo travelling around the world to try and break out of my shell I’ve finally figured out what it takes. And honestly it could have been done in a few weeks.Everyone is, of course, different. And we all experience different levels of shyness or social anxiety. But when you come right down to everyone is dealing with the same learned behavioural problem with the same root cause and same root cure.Learned experience has caused it. Whether you were 5 or 35 the lower levels of your brain has learned to fear social situations. And the answer is re-training this lower level of your brain in a controlled way (because just throwing yourself into the deep end reinforces the problem in the long run). In theory, I learned that a long time ago. Putting it into practice was another story. I know how easy it is to get the feeling nobody else is going through the same thing as you are but I promise you at the root it’s all the same thing. I spent years hiding away in my room watching TV and playing games because I was easier than going out and facing people as much as I really wanted to. Watching others lead lives I wish I had but never understanding how they managed to talk to people so easily.I’m not normally one to suggest self-help books. Partly because I’m a guy and partly because I’ve read a load of them and most don’t actually have anything you can use in the real world. I did find the thing which finally turned my life around (and a way you can download the full audiobook for free): Shy to Social Free Audio Book and Community
I have no friends and i wish i was dead?
Well two years ago all of my friends stopped talking to me because apparently they just didnt want to be my friend anymore. I hadnt made a friend since until i started a tafe course and was going out with a guy then he dumped me and now i feel so unloved, and lonely i cant take it anymore and i wish it would all just go away!!!
My wife complains she has no friends, but does nothing about it. What can I do?
My wife complains that she has no friends, yet does nothing to make new friends or keep the few she has. People invite her (and us as a couple) out, but she never follows through. Her response is always "I never heard back from her" or "maybe another time". I've gone so far as to make plans with her friends and she looks for excuses not to go and in some cases I end up going alone or with my friends. I've tried everything. I've explained that you have to be a friend to have a friend and make time for your friends if you want them to stick around with no success. She sees how my best friend and I make it a point to communicate everyday and spend time together every week come hell or high water and her only response is "I wish I had a friend like that". It's starting to impact our marriage. She goes to work, comes home, and if we have no commitments with our child, she sits. My fear is even our date nights might go away as she becomes more withdrawn. My philosophy is we'll have plenty of time to sit when we're old. 40 is too young to sit on the sidelines and watch life pass us by. Has anyone experienced this and what did you do?
Do I have no friends because I'm ugly?
Im in my mid late 20's and currently have no friends at all. I wish I did. I'm wondering is it because I'm ugly that i have friends and no one wants to talk to me?
I wish I had good grades like my friends...?
First off, don't compare grades with friends--not only does it hurt you, but it hurts them, especially if you end up doing better than them. Just keep trying. Do your homework, and when it comes time for a quiz or test, review. Make notecards or join a study group. Reviewing every day after you take notes or listen to a lecture in class may help. Also, keeping yourself organized and taking good notes and filling in worksheets and homework can definitely make an improvement. I hope you see the changes! -Anna<3!
Is it better to have no friends than the wrong friends?
I once found a very beautiful watermelon. Beautiful because it had a fresh green covering. And when I asked the fruit vendor if I could see the insides of it, he just put in a little cut and showed me. It was red as blood.Seems tasty doesn’t it?While coming back from the market, I was very hungry. I could almost imagine myself going home and enjoying that one hell of a watermelon!As I reached home and tasted it, there was a shattering sound; that of my castles in the air being broken. It was more tasteless than any other thing I’ve ever devoured.This incident left me with a lesson. To check my watermelons ,nah, any fruits, properly before I bought them. Now, had I not bought that watermelon, I wouldn’t have had some of the best fruits I’ve had, post that incident, till date.Coming back to your question, wrong friends leave you with lessons. Those that even your best of people couldn’t teach you. And what you are left with are some of the best friends with whom you can discuss about those wrong, tasteless watermelons and have a hearty laugh!Cheers!