LGB people, what are your views on transgender individuals?
PJ, I didnt at all mean to marginalize anyones appearance. I was merely pointing out that banning transwomen from women's only spaces is ridiculous; they can turn away those who have the misfortune of being scarred by years of testosterone, but those lucky few who are able to meet society's view of what a woman should appear as cannot possibly be forced out of women's only spaces unless a birth certificate is required upon entry. I only used the word "passing" as it is a commonly recognized word for those previously mentioned. I would prefer not to use it, but thought it better than a drawn-out explanation, hence the quotation marks around it.
If you are transgender, what was your first friendship experience with your own gender like after you transitioned?
Emily!My first female-to-female friendship was made during my transition, at work, during my year of RLT. A few months after coming back to work as Marcie, I changed jobs and moved to a new department in a new office in a different suburb. No one knew about me except my new boss who had known me before transition, and she was just ridiculously cool because she was a very butchy lesbian who wore men’s clothes and was constantly being kicked out of the ladies’ room by security. Anyway, there was another woman in the department who was just a few years older than me, and we bonded. I was young(er) and stylish and my new friend really admired that about me. I think I reminded her of herself, just somewhat younger.It’s been almost 15 years, amazingly. We’re still friends. Eventually, for some stupid reason, I told her my story, and things were a bit rocky between us for a few weeks while she processed that information (and, if it were now, I’d never tell her, I never tell *anyone* - I learned that lesson), but then she came through and we got back to just being girlfriends. I’m chatting with her on Whatsapp right now, as I write this. She’s a good friend.Note that I have no friends left from before transition. None of them stayed with me, even the ones I thought would understand. Oh well, I guess.
Is there something to permanently get rid of unwanted hair without pain and lots of $$$$$?
If you continuously pluck an area of hair, eventually it will stop growing back. The permanent alternative is laser hair removal but that does cost a fair amount and may take several visits.
If I'm angry at my therapist at the very last termination session, should I just be mellow, so we can have a happy ending?
No, you shouldn't. I see no point in the supposed “Happy ending” when you're hurt. Do it for you. Tell your therapist exactly how you feel without mincing words so that you can start healing at least, as well as you feel better and lighter after getting it off your chest.Chances are that he or she may not even know that they hurt you and when you don't speak up, they may do it to someone else without knowing the implications. If the person doesn't speak up again the cycle continues. What if it then becomes detrimental to someone else's life?Do it for yourself first then do it for the next innocent person that could be negatively affected.P.S: I'm a Physical Therapist and in every way I encourage my patients to be completely honest with me as regards my treatment. I really do appreciate honesty as it helps me manage them better thus strengthens our Therapist-Patient relationship. If you were my Patient, i would appreciate your being completely honest with me. So help your therapist to help you.