Mom thinks I'm disabled?
I'm a teenage girl with good grades, a normal social life, and I am recovering from depression and anxiety. My depression began when my mother told me she thought I was disabled (autism)about 3 years ago. She had thought this my whole life. It ruined my esteem. I beat myself up for years just because she said that. My image had become distorted and I wanted to die. A month ago, I decided to start healing. So i told myself I was perfect the way I am. My therapist and I would work on my self esteem. I suddenly didnt feel sad. I didnt point out my differences from everyone. I was getting happy, i was doing great in school, i came out of my shell, repaired friendships. But yesterday, my mother pointed some very mild thing out that she twisted and turned to make it a symptom of autism. I cried and my heart was shattered. All of the esteem id built was gone. i just want to die. But I want to know... If my mom thought i was disabled, why did she never put me through a screening? I know we have the money. (My depression therapy is court ordered, she didnt do anything for that either.) Why does she think these bad things about me? I had expressed my pain from her words very clearly, but she continued! Is she a hypochondriac? I like science, i want a pet fox when i grow up, i read nonfiction for pleasure, I share my overexcitement as a personality trait, but these things do NOT make me autistic! They make me unique. I know that for sure. What do I have to do to make her see me as me?
My mom is disabled, cannot work, and depends on me.?
My single 48 year old mom has a chronic pain disorder and is on disability and is able to make her rent( the lowest we can find where we live for a 1 bedroom 1 bath). but as to her other necessary utilities she is always behind and getting them shut off, and so as a result she depends on her 19 yr old and her 22 yr old daughters for financial help. I do not mind helping her every once and a while when something happens and needs some money, but it happens every two weeks with i need 300 dollars which is more than i make every two weeks at my part time job. My sister and i are both in school and supporting our own weight and i cannot afford to help her this way when i move off campus and into my own apartment. An impossible solution would be for her to get a job, though the amount of money she receives from disability would be taken from her if she was to find a job at all because "she makes too much money". and finding a job would only make as much money as disability gives her now. Same with food stamps, apparently she makes too much money for that too. I am afraid that i will end up having her homeless or going weeks with no food and water, practically homeless with a roof because all her money would go to her rent with nothing left over. I cannot continue supporting her and myself this way, because when i have my own rent to pay, i will no longer have anything to give her. Moving in with her would provide so little support financially because my paycheck still wouldn't cover all her needs and mine together. All i can think to do is have her move in with a family friend, if our friend is able at all or willing, or in with my boyfriend and myself when we get an apartment. I love my mom, but i cannot accept that i have to carry her weight around the rest of my life. What should i do? any other possible options?
Can a daughter claim her share in father's property against the WILL of her father as per the Hindu law?
The basic principle of Hindu law is - If it is your self acquired property, you can do as you please with it. You can give it away to a stranger on the road or a charitable trust. Doesn't matter. If it is your ancestral property, then your children take a share the moment they are born.When you die without making a will (intestate), your property becomes ancestral for your children.So, to answer your question, if it is your father's self acquired property, you cannot ask a share against his will. If he has dies intestate it becomes ancestral property and you will have an equal share with your brother and mother. Succession for a Hindu male dying intestate is thus - Children, wife and mother take the first equal share. So, if A dies intestate, his wife, daughter, son and mother, all will take 1/4th equal share in his property. There are many many other complex rules but I am not going there for the purpose of this answer. After the amendment to Hindu law, daughters take an equal share in the property. Lastly, if it is your father's self acquired property, you cannot ask for a share against his will, but if he has refused to support you, you can claim maintenance from him. Applies to both boys and girls.For more about India, her laws and polity, follow my blog - Blawgniti
How do you respond to beggars who confront you and ask you for money?
"No sorry" is best if the answer is no.If you would to better decide when to say yes, I live in Africa where poverty is an epidemic and so I probably have more experience with beggars than people in first world countries. I would usually say no to:1. Pet keepers.It is a sad fact that many people feel more sympathy for animals than people because they are perceived as helpless. Unfortunately pets owned by beggars are often neglected, unfed and used only to arouse guilt and sympathy. They will usually only receive the benefit of any money if the giver hangs around to make sure.2. Beggars approaching any people who have food in their hand. People who do this are usually permanent beggars preying on the conscience of a person who feels heartless for declining while they themselves are eating. It is an angle, and the guy working an angle has probably been doing it for a long time.3. Beggars who have a very smooth approach with a wildly coincidental story of misfortune.I usually give these guys something:1. KidsThey should be in school or home or something but somehow they have slipped through the cracks and it says something terrible about the person who says no to a begging child if they have more then enough to spare.2. People who look very embarrassed and/or badly articulate their request.These are often people with pride/dignity who are simply desperate for money or food. Maybe lost a job and home and see no way to survive in the short term.3. Your gut feeling.This makes it all vague but people from any one of the first three types may be misjudged. People simply are not types. Don't say no when you would like to give just because you think there is a small chance the guy is a freeloading scammer. I would rather be scammed a little money a few times and maybe help someone in desperate need.Finally, for every situation there is That Guy and in this situation it is the person who takes 5 minutes out of their lives to tell the beggar to get a job and stop asking passers-bye to finance their drinking habit. You cant brow-beat a beggar for 5 minutes and remove them from the gutter, but you can make their lives a bit more miserable.
How much money did your parents give you for your wedding?
My in laws have us 10k. We never asked, expected or demanded any money, in fact, we rejected their offer several times as we are both adult professionals, but they Insisted since they game my husband's sister $35k towards her wedding, they thought it was just fair. They paid for the photographer, DJ, limo and a very very nice rehearsal dinner. We are in an expensive area, so don't take this as a guide. $5k is very generous and gracious of you. In this time and age couples should not expect to be given any money for parties, and when they do get it, it should be with the uppermost gratitude. I think your daughters are very fortunate to have such a generous and thoughtful mother. Anyone would be delighted to receive such large amount.!!
Autistic Boy and Mom Kicked Off Plane?!?
Did you hear what hapened? I think this is sickiening what is your opinion? article on http://abcnews.go.com/GMA/Story?id=52385... video on yahoo news http://cosmos.bcst.yahoo.com/up/player/p... also can you please star this so as many people can see this question as possible
My boyfriend's mother keeps wanting money!!?
You and your boyfriend ARE family because you share a daughter. His mother is being very selfish and greedy! NO PARENT should expect their adult children to provide for them. She needs to get a job or learn to manage money better and let you and your boyfriend prepare for the future you will share together with your daughter. You owe her nothing. If anything...SHE should try to be helping you guys out!