If a person wanted to radically change his/her life, what would be the first step to take?
Decide whether or not you want to change your life, because you clearly have not done that. You can think about this and make as many plans as you want about it, but neither of those things will change anything. You have 2 choices at this very moment, while you're reading this:Continue sitting in front of the computer. Keeping doing what you're doing. Sure, think as much as you want, but please don't pretend that you will be changing anything. DO SOMETHING. I'm not going to suggest what you should do because it doesn't matter what you do. There are no right or wrong first steps. It's like the old saying "A journey of a thousand miles begins with one step." As long as you have not taken a step, you're still exactly where you were. Also, you will take a lot of steps that will seem like first steps. It's possible that you will take a couple steps and then decide that it's not worth it, that you actually are fine the way you are. Maybe that's the case. However think about this: The way you are now is the way you will be tomorrow. The way you are tomorrow is the way you will be next week. The way you are next week is the way you will be next month. The way you are next month is the way you will be next year. The way you are next year, is the way you will be in 10 years.Are you prepared to be 10 years older than you are now and still be living the exact same life that you are living now?What about in 20 years? What about 30 years? If you think that your life will change because of things that will happen to you, then I hope you're right about that. It might help to look up what cognitive dissonance is. I'm 37 right now. I have the following on a piece of paper next to my bed. It scares me every morning: I'm 37 I'm 42 I'm 46 I'm 56 I'm 61 I'm 65 I'm 76 I'm 81When I read it, I think about how I would feel if I was those ages and still living the life that I'm living today. Sometimes that makes me feel okay, and sometimes it scares me more than I can describe. Lastly, there are no easy changes. All personal change takes time and determination. You're more likely to fail more than you succeed. The upside is that every failure is a step closer to success.
Can you really live the life you want?
Yes if you may live a life without "want" by keeping healthy, communicating with family and friends and the best things in life truly are free; good health is one reason to enjoy your life. If you have a passion for something, you will do everything in your power to achieve it. People who won the lottery were not happier than other people because most everything is in your mind. If you come from a happy supportive family, you have a great start. If you enjoy traveling, you can always do it on a budget if you do not earn a lot of money. Just the Internet alone brings you to so many places to help you when you are down or to share when you are happy. If you are in a depression, there is a fund of knowledge on the Internet to help you. We are living in one of the better eras in that we have the technology to help most situations. All people are unique and even Stephan Hawking uses computers to talk whereas a long time ago, it would have been impossible. Money does not buy happiness; it buys the misery you prefer. However, that is negative and I like to think positive as I believe in the law of attraction; whatever it is you think about the most normally will come your way because the universe doesn't care what you want it just seems to send what you "obsess over. It is best to put kindness rather than evil into the universe. Naturally bad things can happen to anyone, and that is why you should appreciate all of the beauty in life. Painful events make people count their blessings as things can always be worse, but it is better to think that things will get better in the end and if they don't then it is not the end. Storms are followed by rainbows and nothing can stay the same forever so whatever it is you want out of life, go for it, work for it, but never hurt anyone including animals to get the life you desire. Blessings, donna
Is it possible to love the same person all your life?
I can answer, but I ask you two questions two:What do you mean by "love"?What do you mean by "the same person"?I will start this by saying that I have been married for 34 years. We met at work, went together for a couple years, and then got married. We have a couple of kids, a couple of dogs, a mortgage - pretty normal. We have had wins and loses, seen good times and bad, and stayed together.But, really, love? This one woman? No, not the love like on your honeymoon. No, not the love like when you are trying to have kids. No, not the love when your babies are babies. And, no, I am not that crazy hippie I was 30 years ago, and she isn't the woman I met; well, not quite.Still, in many ways we are those kids, looking forward to that bright future, to kids, a new house, vacations, holidays, presents and puppies. We still look forward to our walks, to Sunday breakfast, to rainy days and bedtime. So, yes, kiddies, love - it changes, you change, they change, and yet...some things abide. Love endures, love gets richer, love is something you can hold on to.
Do you believe in ''one person can change your life ''?
No person can change your life.Only what you absorb from what he has to offer - Physical assistance, Emotional Support or Intellectual clarity that brings change in life.So it is what flows from the other to you being important than the Person. For this flow to happen, your being in a state of absorption much important than the person and what is absorbed more important that what is available to be absorbed (much might remain un-absorbed or perceived differently).We need to drop the Context, Characters and environment once learning has happened. Learning is important. Context change, Characters behave differently when faced with different moment and environment is always dynamic. Learning continues to expand horizons and that is all that matters.
Can a person realy change their sexuality?
I've read alot of people's answers on this saying that they 'used to be gay' and are now straight or bi, some say they used to be bi and are now gay or straight and so on. Do you, in your opinion, think this is possible, I personaly don't, I just cant see it happening, mabey these people just had a bad experience with someone and subconsiously decided not to like that sex in general, mabey it's a concious decision. But I think, if the right person came along, they would be back to their previous sexuality. I just don't think you can turn off your sexuality like a light switch. If we could every gay person who goes through a bad time with it, coming out and whatnot would choose to be straight, it's less complicated. Mabey I'm wrong, what do you think?
HOW can you change your reputation if you live in a small town?
In the past I went through a very public break up. My ex then slandered me around town telling everyone what a Bit@h I was in our relationship. He also talked about my issues with anxiety and depression that I've struggled with. Now my little sister committed suicide and I wonder how this will reflect on my reputation as well. Because in the past my depression and anxiety got so bad I gained about 50 lbs and barely left the house. Little did I know, my uneducated boyfriend at the time told people I was "kinda crazy" and had a "hard time leaving the house". (Mostly because I was a huge pot-head at the time which really made my anxiety go through the roof) Well, now I'm a 32 year old single mom, in RN school full-time and work... I'm trying to maybe date but fear that because it's a small town people will "know about me" and my past. I'd like to surround myself with more positive and successful people instead of the pot-heads and druggies I used to hang with. Is it possible to change your reputation in a small town? I know that Angelina Jolie did a big turn-around with her reputation in the media... going from a little crazy to a humanitarian. Do you think it's possible to revamp yourself and repair a rep ion a small town and start over. I can't move for 2 years and I really like where I live... I just worry about the small town gossips making me look bad. ANY TIPS ON HOW TO CHANGE A REP? Specifically.
I don't want to live a normal and routine life?
It seems like EVERYONE just goes to school, graduates, goes to college, graduates, does a job they may or may not enjoy, gets married (or not) has kids, (or not) retires, and then dies. I DO NOT WANT TO DO THIS. Who came up with this system? I mean I'm 15 years old and I've been hounded since 7th grade about figuring out college and my career! I had a college prep class IN THE FREAKING 8TH GRADE! I really don't know what I want to do. I have a PASSION for film. I want to act or be involved in film making in some way. But everyone tells me that's not practical, so for career day I just chose something that I'm interested in, but don't really have a passion for, and that's Psychology. I could be a psychologist or something but I don't want to spend time in school, waiting for a degree, then waiting to get a job, then waiting to get married, then waiting to have kids, then waiting to retire and die. Do I sound crazy? I've always been more mature than my peers, and I don't mean to sound conceited, that's just a fact about me. I really feel like I see the world differently than most other people. I guess what I'm saying is I see this life like an hourglass. I need to get stuff done in that time. Why do people waste it planning out colleges and their drab careers and living in the suburbs with a minivan and retiring and then dying in a nursing home? Why do people spend their lives just waiting for something else to happen? You're always going to be waiting for a party next week, a date next month, your birthday next year, college in 3 years, meeting someone in 6, getting married in 10 years. Do you know what I'm saying? This is the NOW, and I want to live in it. I don't want to follow an exact copy of everyone else's life. Does anyone else know what I mean? Do I sound crazy? Please help.