Is It Right For A Person To Marry Things Besides A Person

How do you know you married the right person?

The thing about human nature is that it’s inherently selfish.Everything anyone does is to satisfy something in themselves. People are generous, because they want to be or they feel they should be, as an individual. People cooperate in violent situations, because they want to appease their fear and/or they don’t want to be harmed. People don’t cooperate in violent situations, because they don’t want to be a victim.Humans are genetically programmed to procreate. However, people also generally want to be loved. That’s where marriage comes in.I want someone to love me unconditionally. It’s not unreasonable for them to want the same. I should find someone I am wholly compatible with.Then you have cultures. Most instilling the idea that marriage is the primary goal in life. Often times relating it to a sense of self validation. Reinforced by the feelings above.That’s where you get this conflict. Two different aspects of human nature, one of them reinforced by culture, conflicting inside you.Feelings change. Hormones change. Pheromones change.I would say feel it out. Try to relax. Try to wipe the slate clean as far as decision making goes and decide what to do based on how you feel from this point on. Feel it out for a time you’re comfortable with. Talk to her about it. Let her be a part of the decision making process. It’s her marriage, too. It can either breathe new life into your marriage or you can realize it wasn’t the right decision for the long-term.If she’s a rational adult, she’ll understand you’re conflicted and that it’s natural. It might be tough for her, but if the relationship continues, it will likely be better in the long run.If you don’t believe she’s a rational adult who could handle a talk like that, then factor that into your decision making process. Do you really want to be married to someone you’re not only unsure about, but can’t talk to? Is that fair to either of you?

Who is the right kind of person to marry?

That person makes you feel relaxed. You're able to just be yourself. You're comfortable crying in front of him/her, yelling in front him/her, and even having quiet moments. He/She seen the good, the bad, the hungover and he/she still loves you.He/She makes you smile more than you frown. When you're with him/her, you're really, really happy. He/She treats you like a king/queen and does everything he/she can to make you happy.Your future husband/wife should be loyal and beyond 100 percent committed to you. He/She should only have eyes for you. You never have to worry about him/her being unfaithful, because he/she is all yours.The person you will marry should listen to you, and I mean really listen. That person should pay attention to what you say. That person lets you vent, regardless of the subject. A person who truly loves you cares about what you have to say.That person tells you out of the blue that you look handsome/beautiful. That person raves to his/her friends about you because he/she knows you're special. That person knows he/she is lucky to have you in his/her life, and he/she never lets you forget it.That person spends time with your family and you've gotten to know his/hers. That person makes an effort to be present in your life and engages the people you love. That person cares about your friends and wants them to like him/her. That person fits into your life perfectly.That person makes sacrifices for you because he/she knows it will make you happy. That person plans things he/she knows you will enjoy. That person is willing to do anything for you, because he/she loves you.The person you will marry should make you feel grateful and so blessed.

How do I know who is the right person to marry?

A healthy recommendation is to take a 2 year period of engagement before either of you make a final commitment. The hope is that within 2 years you will have seen the worst and best sides of each other and will have a fair chance of learning if you still feel this person is right for you.An engagement period is an old idea that seems worth carrying on. Committing to marriage in a week because it just feels perfect is dangerous. Now you are married and discover that she does such and such or doesn’t do such and such.Does your family like the BF or GF? Does your partner’s family like you? Is this important for either of you?Enter Life. Both of you have done everything according to plan. Everything seems right and you marry. We are all at the mercy of situations. Will there be jobs paying enough for both of you? Will there be housing that is affordable and suit you, not a 3 hour commute everyday? What about having children sooner or later?And that’s just the everyday challenges.There is also Life, Fate, Chance that operates on forces far beyond any human control. People at the wrong time, wrong place, a terminal disease, a life shattering event that we can have no control over.We are raised to think that life is fair. It is not.Living is always a chance. We cannot know. We are forced to take a leap of faith and hope for the best.

How do I know if my girlfriend is the right person to marry?

Frankly speaking, it is very difficult to know if your girlfriend is the right person to marry.  You will have to take that risk (in fact, even she can’t be sure if you are the right person).  There is nothing called perfect couple.  All make adjustments, compromises, sacrifices to make the marriage work.Earlier days, there was social stigma if you got divorced; today, it is acceptable and men/women can look forward to second and third marriage if the earlier ones fail.If couples can practice following traits honestly, then it becomes easy to make the marriage work and provide happiness not only to them but also to their children and other family members:There must be no abuse (neither verbal or physical).Self respect/self esteem must not be compromised.Couples must not be rigid in their views and never impose their views on each other.Spare time for each other, develop good listening skills.Problems must not be suppressed but discussed, debated, argued and kept pending if it can’t be solved.Truce must be found within 24 hours and ego must not come in the way.  Whoever takes the lead must be appreciated and rewarded.Third party involvements in personal disagreements must be avoided to maximum extent.Nurture positive thoughts and always be a well wisher to your partner.You need not get disturbed from the experiences of others.  Take time to discuss all the above points with your girlfriend and go ahead with the marriage with the confidence that you can handle life as it comes.Best wishes.

Is it better to get married to the right person at the wrong time than to a wrong person at the right time?

You never marry the right person, and the entire concept of the "right person" is faulty in that implies that it's actually possible to find such a person. (And that somehow just by finding that person you'll end up with a better relationship.) It's a fairy tale that serves us all poorly by implying that if things don't go well, it's because we didn't choose the right partner. It's an abdication of responsibility. (And then when things stop working, we can simply decide that we were with the "wrong person".)Neither you nor your partner know everything about each other, because that's simply not possible - you don't know even know yourself that well. Beyond that, people continue to change throughout their lives, both spontaneously and in reaction to life events (one of those events being marriage itself, natch.) So unless you can see the future, you can't know if they're "right person". Someone who is "right" today might be "wrong" tomorrow by the same criteria. Or your criteria might shift.(Please note that I'm not implying that folks should continue in a relationship at any cost, under any conditions. Obviously, everyone always has to make a decision about whether a relationship is continuing to work for them, and whether their partner is making a genuine effort to make it work.)Where does that leave us? Trying to find a working relationship with a person we respect, where we have healthy ways of continuing to evolve a relationship so that it works for both parties. Looking for someone who understands people are human and that relations are a messy, ongoing project. Knowing that the person you choose understands that and has appropriate expectations - that they're not under the impression that if they simply find the "right person" then everything will be perfect and they'll never have work on the relationship.

Why do we love a person and marry another person? Is it a good thing?

People often mix-up love and marriage.Marriage is a social institution, more or less an informal contract in any society.Love is an emotion. Love is universal; marriage is local.Anyone may fall in love at any age. Marriage happens once in a life time, subject to local culture and society etc.There are many individuals who married their loved one and remained single in memory of this life long love when the partner had passed away. These people find love in their partner after getting married. For them, love happens once and it remains life long. Love wont happen often. That which repeats itself is NOT LOVE, perhaps attraction, infatuation, etc.. but not love.Love happens once in life time. In our society, I came across many individuals who remained single when they lost their married partner departed to heaven prematurely. These persons are living the love of the departed partner in the memories they left behind, in the things they shared together when alive, and in bringing up the kids as wished by the departed love. This way, they found love in after getting married to their partner.This has been the culture of our great civilization for the ages. It has withstood the external onslaughts of invaders, occupiers who thrust their migrant and survival culture on our culture. Many of us became tempted to imitate these “migrant” culture at a dear cost.In the West, marriage happens many times in the life time of an individual. Also, they claim that “love” also happens frequently. This is a classic case of confused emotions. Lust, infatuation, attraction, may happen repeatedly. LOVE HAPPENS ONCE IN LIFE TIME…THAT TOO IF YOU ARE LUCKY AND BLESSED.MARRY YOUR DEAR HEART. LOVE HER/HIM life-long, if you can.Try.