How can you apologize without actually saying the words "I'm sorry" or being apologetic?
There are some great answers in this thread about how best to take responsibility when you ARE sorry, but one way to read the question is to say 'sorry' without saying it because you actually aren't sorry at all. That often happened to me as an HR VP for a big consumer company. Consumers and staff would complain bitterly to us all the time for things that weren't our fault at all. There are lots of ways to sound empathetic without being sorry. Sometimes I'd try something like:"Wow, I can understand that was really frustrating. Anyone could be upset. Is there something we can do to help?" Even if it is your mistake, something like "That shouldn't have happened. What a mistake. Let's see if we can find a way to fix it," could work in many cases. People most of all want to be heard and hear that they've been heard and something is going to be done about it soon. If you encounter someone who say's "I want an apology" then you can say, "I'm going to look into that right away, but let's see what we can do toward making things better right now." If they hammer away demanding an apology when you've investigated or listened and decided it isn't your fault, then I say the weaselly thing - "I'm really sorry this has affected you the way it has. It's really too bad it's made you feel so upset. I really understand you feel awful." (Never say, 'I know how you feel - you don't and they'll be angry about THAT.) But, believe it, I am sorry for people like this, just not sorry for anything I did. With practice, you can use these phrases with genuine meaning and not put your foot in the wrong spot by saying you know how they feel or apologizing for something you didn't do.
What is a good apology to make for ditching someone?
It is not enough to say I am sorry. You need to tell the person that: 1. You were wrong 2. Why did you ditch the person? -- tell the truth 3. You won't do it again You also have to explain why you are sorry. For example: 1. It hurts me to know that I hurt you. I don't like to see you suffering this way for my selfish desires, etc... Admit that you do not have a good reason for ditching that person. Lastly, tell that person that you will understand if the y do not want to talk to you and respect that person's decision whatever it may be. He or she may come around but don't expect an instant friendship. You broke your trust with this person. You can let that person know that you are going try your hardest to earn his or her trust back again. Frankly, if you apologized to me by just saying "I'm sorry" I would walk away too. That tells me that you don't mean it. You will do it again and that you think you can get away with everything.
Is it rude not to accept someone's apology?
Well, depends.....I think the polite thing to do is to say....Thank you for apologizing for (whatever it was they did)....I'm sorry it happened, too. It means a lot to me that you have apologized. Then, just SHUT UP! The person has apologized...and that should be the end of it....most people totally act like gits and then start ranting and raving about what the person did. Once someone has apologized....that is it....you SHUT UP. That being said, after you have thanked them for apologizing, and told them it meant a lot to you to have them apologize.....I see nothing wrong with then telling them that, regardless of the fact that they have apologized..... you simply want to end the friendship. Just say that you have lost all trust in them....that they hurt you by what they did....and that you just don't feel you could ever trust them again to the extent you want to be friends with them anymore. Sometimes you do things to people that they don't get over.....learning that one lesson is an important one in anyone's life....and may keep you from crossing lines and doing things to people that they are willing to end friendships over.
Do you ever apologize even though you're not sorry? Is this a form of lying? Or is it just being polite?
Apologizing when you feel no remorse is the same as lying yes. If you find yourself in this situation you have to make a judgement call.did you actually do something wrong? If someone falsely accuses you of something it is foolish to offer an apology, even dangerous.If you and other differ on what should and shouldn’t be apologized for, the only real cure is dialogue.take a simple example. The child hits their younger sister because she has destroyed his block castle, she cries. Mom says: “apologize to your sister.”At this point the child does not feel they have done anything wrong. From what they understand it was an appropriate response…no remorse required. “No” the child says. The parent offers an explanation: “Just because you are mad at someone it doesn’t mean you are allowed to hit them..hitting is not allowed.”the child understands and offers a meaningful apology.Another thought:Boyfriend: “I saw you looking at that other guy! How could you do that! Don’t you love me!?”Girlfriend: “What are you talking about I can look where I please.”BF: “I can’t beleive you could say that, what is wrong with you?”the boyfriend is seeking to gain emotional control over his girlfriend by fishing or demanding an apology.If someone is demanding an apology and you feel you are unable to give it honestly, say no. But when you say no explain calmly and rationally why. Be prepared to FULLY LISTEN to the persons reply and objectively weigh their argument.Dialogue.openness.Honesty.perusing these goals with someone is an apology in itself
I need to apologize but what do I say?
Help with what to say in this apology... here's the situation... A nerdy kid in my grade told me he liked me and asked me out on a date today. I hardly even know him other then he's one of those kids in class who raises his hand for the teacher to pick him to answer a question before anyone else in the class, all the time. I'm in the popular crowd, but not only that I hardly even know him, let alone ever talk to him. What the hell was he thinking? I was so stunned by his asking I laughed at him and said no in probably a very rude way but that was only because I thought he had to be joking. It turns out he was serious and was very depressed for the rest of the day. I really, really, really did think he was just joking. I would never have been so rude to him. Someone suggested me to apologize on facebook which is what I am gonna do but I really don't know what to say without coming off like more of a ***** (like how do you tell him you thought he was joking without seeming like a *****?). I also have to be sure I don't give him the wrong impression because I do not want to date him.
Will this Taurus Apologize and does he mean what he said?
So, i was talking to my Taurus Boyfriend and he said i have a young mind and that i'm weird and creepy. It hurts my feelings because his words were really sharp. I said goodbye and he texted me a smiley face. Any advice? Does he hate me? Is he annoyed or mad? Should i break up with him? I want to know what he thinks but i REFUSE to ask him or talk to him. I'm just pissed off right now. Please do not troll or say rude crap to me because it doesn't make my situation any better. Thank you in advance. Btw, i'm a Leo if that helps.
What does it mean when a sincere apology is ignored?
It means that either they arnt a very forgiving person and hold grudges, or that maybe even though it was a minor wrongdoing in your eyes, it wasnt to them. You should apologize anyway but if they won't accept there is nothing you can do but move on from it. Youre the better person for at least trying.
How do you tell someone you don't want to talk, without seeming rude?
Because even if you say it politely, like "listen I don't want to be rude but I just don't feel like talking right now," it still comes across like you're being a d!ck. Just had a weird exchange with my roommate, I was in the kitchen making food, he came in and started asking me questions, and I just was like "I don't know man!" because I just wanted to make some food without being interrogated. He was like "Oh, sorry!" and then it was a thing, and I had to send a text explaining that I wasn't mad. Is there any right way to avoid talking when you don't want to? Thanks.
What is the best way to say sorry?
The best way to say sorry is not to say sorry at all, unless you have done something intentional and you felt wrong and guilty about it. See, people your apologize are precious to you. Your value is affected by saying sorry or apologizing to people. So unless you do something wrong INTENSIONALLY and feel bad about it do not say sorry. Make your apology creditable.. Now what do I say instead of saying sorry? Or what do I do to make it up to someone who you have disappointed?See, first of all you are not the one who disappointed them, it's just that they expected something out of you and they got disappointed.. It isn't wrong to expect something out of someone either. SO THIS IS WHAT YOU DO.Rather than saying "SORRY", say "THANK YOU". Appreciate them for what they have done for you. Understood?Say, you are late to meet someone for about an hour, and they waited for you for an hour. Don't go and say "I am so sorry for being late, sorry but there was traffic." Say "oh I am so late, thank you for being so patient and for waiting for me, traffic was terrible today." AnotherSay, you have disappointed some one, say you fail to do something. You don't go and say "Sorry, I couldn't do it, sorry for disappointing you, I hope to do better next time." The other person won't appreciate your apologize. But, if you say something like. "Thanks for keeping your hope on me all this time, I know I couldn't do what you wanted but next time I will try my best."Guy try it it's like magic. The power of a thankyou is amazing.Remember Don't say sorry, say thank you.Thank you for sparing your precious time reading my opinion. Comments are always welcome.