How hard is it to juggle 4 kids and a fulltime job without feeling like you neglect them?
I think you need the title of supermum!! I have 3 kids and im a stay at home mum! There is no way I could throw full time work into that equation because there is simply too many chores that need doing at home!!! You truly are a super mum if you do that! so hats off to you! All i can say is spend the time you can with them... the washing, the dishes can wait till they are in bed. Just cherish every moment and take LOTS of pictures!! They grow up in a blink of an eye! :D
What is your advice for juggling work and school?
Are you ready? There is no magic secret. It's a hell of a thing to go through. Stay closer to people in a similar situation as you in your school. Eliminate all other things like leasure and romantic pursuits, stay focused on the goal and have faith the marathon will end. Take care not to burn out. This means that you must make time for "me time" as long as it's something truly relaxing and restorative, like a nice hike, bike ride, yoga, gym, etc. Cut out (at least temporarily) all people from your life, who are a distraction to you. The ones who want you to come out and party, you know the ones I mean. The biggest challenge is getting adequate rest. Always try to go to bed at a dissent hour. Don't study before bed time.. Give yourself an hour between end of study and sleep. Wear a hat that says "Don't bother me. I go to school and work". I am kidding about the hat. But the rest is true. Good luck!
How is a single mom supposed to work, go to school, and spend time with their child?
It is really hard. I was 15 when my oldest was born. I went to school, then to work, and saw her in the late evenings. I missed her first steps, and her first words. Now she is 13. I have a decent job because I did finish high school, and college. If I could take it all back, I would have waited ten years to have her so that we could enjoy each other. As long as you are leaving your kids with someone that they can bond with, they will be ok. My daughter is very well adjusted, and she knows that I have worked very hard to get us to where we are today. If you can, try to get all of your classes on the same days - In college I had either a T/Th or M/W/F schedule every semester. That way, I got to see her on my days off of school. Then I worked in the evenings. For awhile I had two jobs, and did not get to see too much of her. I also used student loans to help pay our bills so that I didn't have to work as much. I am still paying on those ten years later, but it got us through. You will find a way to make it work. Just don't give up hope.
Single mom working 2 full time jobs?
I'm a 18 year old single mother. I have my own place and car, I'm a Cna, I work 3-11 4 days on 2 off at a nursing home and then I just got another job at a different nursing home from 11-7. I have a 8 month old daughter who I support completely myself. Do you think this is working too much? The 11-7 job is 4 on,2 off too. I have a babysitter which is my mother and other family. I just want some opinions and experiences.
I's so far behind in high school credits what can i do?
Don't drop out, don't focus on small money now from a job your senior year and focus on the big bucks you will get from a high school diploma and maybe some college credits. I feel the only time you should do school on line is for health reasons or to fit in that on class a semester for college. The benefits to staying in school are to great. Go to your local college or community college and get a tutor. College kids are always looking to tooter kids for free because it gives them college credits. Don't rely on negative input from adults. seek a new councilor or even talk to a councilor at the college, they want to see you finish and attend their school so they will try to help you. Don't give up on getting help and advice and don't give up on you. You can still walk down the Ilse for graduation with out having all your credits. If you are close enough they will let you walk and then you take summer school to finish and get your diploma. PLEASE, PLEASE, PLEASE stay in school. No matter how hard or bad it seems, it will benefit you in the long run, especially financially!!!
How old were you when you had your first child?
I adopted my first child at age 34. I gave birth for the first time to my second child at almost 36. I would've liked it to have been about 5-7 years earlier, but that's the way it happened.As a mom on the lower end of older , I think the fact that I was married for 10 years before I had kids had advantages and disadvantages. I didn't have to get used to a new marraige at the same time as my parents. I have an established career, 2 college degrees. I have parents at my kids school who I could possibly be their parent. They are doing a darn good job, but they are juggling more than me. Plus I sense they are intimidated by older parents who are really accomplished in their careers, and don't speak up at PTO as much.I have less energy. So does my husband.My kids don't have any cousins their age, our holiday gatherings are not the raucous events they were my nieces or nephews were young. My kids get more adult attention, but they don't need more of that lol.Being over 35 automatically classifies you as high risk. I did have a high risk, life threatening pregnancy.I don't want more kids , but I also can't, unless I adopt again. But I grew up with 3 siblings, my kids just have each other. I feel like my kids rely way too much in my husband and I playing with them. My mom was a great mom, but she wasn't my playmate. My brother is only 5 years older than me but has a son who is 24, a daughter 22, and a 17 year old. He'll turn 50 next year. When I'm 50, kids will both be in high school. My mom and dad had 4 kids by the time they were 29 and 32. They were still working when they had their first grandchild.