Do I have social anxiety disorder?
I'm constantly wondering if people are talking about me, like if they're whispering, i'd think they're talking about me. I feel like I am constantly being judged, so I just try and do my best to avoid everybody. Now I'm worried because it's affecting my grades, because I don't go in the locker room for gym, I don't volunteer in class or like to get up in front of the class, I sit in the back so that people aren't looking at me, because that bothers me, so I can't see the board or anything like that. I'm a Christian, but I don't like going to church, because I feel like I'm being judged there too. Sometimes I get mad at myself, because I miss things that I wanted to do, or know that I should do, like going to the mall, or picking up something from the store, cause my mom asked me. My family even puts me down sometimes too, not to a severe level, but that's kinda how I take it. This my sound weird, but I walk kinda funny in front of people, because I get nervous that they're looking at me, so my legs feel kinda light, so I start to walk funny. And like in class, i'll start shaking, and so will my hands, for no apparent reason. Its also affecting my weight, cause I dont eat lunch, because i'd rather be alone. Also my mom has been asking me questions about girls and stuff, but when I tell her i don't want one she just keeps asking me why not. But the reason is because the last time I went out with somebody, I just got hurt, so ever since then, I just stopped to avoid rejection. I have ADHD, and take meds for that, and I dont want to have to take any more medication. And how would I tell my mom I think I have it.
Why is my social anxiety so bad?
My social anxiety is not as bad as it was, but it is still on the extreme side. As a person with a social disorder, I hate crowds and strangers. I hate crowds and strangers, like the Nazis hated Jews. I hate when people stare at me. That sends my social anxiety through the roof. I hate when strangers talk to me and walk up to me. I automatically get into defense mode, because I don't know what their intentions are. I have very deep seated trust issues. Therefore, when a stranger approaches me, I get anxious because I don't know if they have something up their sleeves. I don't know if they're just being nice to gain my confidence, so that they can ease their way in. I really don't trust people. I don't believe that people are ever just "being nice". I believe that they always have a motive. Whenever people are being nice, it is for selfish reasons. Whether it is because they want to make themselves believe that they are good people, or they want something in return, I don't know. But I have really bad social anxiety and trust issues. Are you experiencing this? If so, what are you doing to bring it down a little?
What are some odd ways to get over social anxiety?
Stop demotivating yourself and just go out and talk to the world without any fear.I also had social anxiety. I even couldn't attend the phone calls and also could not face my siblings or any other person, even for a simple talk i used to suffer. For this reason i never had any friends i never used to go outdoors and being a indoor person i started playing video games,eating Junk food which was not at all good and this made my negativity increase and further this anxiety turned me into a depressed and a fat guy.I do not know how but something motivated me to overcome my anxiety i guess i felt bad about myself . So step by step i decided to overcome it.What i did ?Since i didn't had any friends i decided to go out on my own .-Went to a holiday trip,attended seminars,Learned Guitar,participated in group discussion and debates and meet as many people as possible and just forget the fear of the world and started enjoying the life.Most important thing is love yourself and maintain your lifestyle by exercising and eating properly and you will turn out to be a confident guy and you can face the world with heads up.Hope this will help…
Is it weird that I only have social anxiety in school, but in other places I don't give a crap what others think of me? What do I do?
No, I do not think it’s weird that you have social anxiety in school. There can be many causes. It took me years before I stopped caring about what people thought of me, but that wasn’t until I became an adult. I was bullied in school, that was 1 stressful situation. Another stressful situation was making friends in school. It took a lot for me to make friends, and with being bullied, that made it harder. My grades were bad, which impacted my daily life, as well as, my future-I just hated the place. Plus, a cause of anxiety at school, could be the feeling of over-stimulation from the amount of people there, the noise, the smell of the crowd, how you’re treated. As in, if you’re respected or if you feel somehow mistreated. Even if just the most tinniest thing that doesn’t normally get to you, could become like an atom bomb. The number 5 reason that could cause social anxiety, may be the caste system that “naturally” forms in a social setting like school. Any of these reasons, if you’re experiencing them, can cause social anxiety in school.I’d like to suggest on how to deal with the above examples, is get to know yourself. Know and accept who you are. That way other people’s issues may not affect you as bad, if at all. You cannot change people, and a large cause of social anxiety can be feeling as though you have lost control of your life, and that can happen in school. Your education is so important. It impacts your future.
I have really bad social anxiety.?
I get really nervous and I practice a lot the night before (an hour or two) too but when it is my time to speak in front of people I just kind of tell myself "screw it, none of this matters, people really dont even care what I have to say, so I am just going to say it, people might ask a few questions, and I will sit down and everyone will forget about it" And really, thats pretty much the reality of it - and after awhile, you probably will get good at it. Most people get nervous when they do not have experience speaking in front of groups so thats okay and normal too. (FYI, I have general social anxiety and get really nervous in front of people...I am better these days because I have had many opportunities to speak in front of people, get good at it, and I know I am pretty good at it these days, so now I just tell myself "Your the baddest MFer out there, I got this, no problem" - you can get there one day too and will if you just stick to it) Your going to be fine.
Should I tell my crush I have social anxiety?
Should I tell my crush I have social anxiety? So I'm 17 and I like her so much and she liked me too but now she hates me because I am super anxious and nervous and awkward she don't even want to look at me because we always have weird eye contact but I like her a lot I have done lots of things for her and I can tell that she doesnt like me anymore from her body language and from her eyes I am broken and she thinks I'm weird but I still want her to know the truth that I am a very loving person and I like her a lot like that one time I made her a sketch of her face I made a mix tape for her . I never introduced myself to any girl but her she's the first one and it's because I don't think I am able to because of my social anxiety she's the only reasonschool why I am happy to go to schoolwhy because my classmate at school also thinks I'm weird I'm lonely and if I can't change the way she thinks about me maybe I will consider to kill myself
Bad Parents and Social Anxiety?
Today I went to go eat with my dad, his mom and her mom. Now I'm 18 have bad social anxiety and have problems talking to people let alone eating out and talking to them. I hate going somewhere to eat since i'm not going to talk and I feel stupid when I don't say anything since the only time I do say something is when someone asks me a question and I usually respond with yeah, ok, no or shake my head up and down or to the side to indicate i'm saying yes or no. Well as my dad drops me off at home, he goes off and starts talking about how I need to learn how to talk to people and act normal and my mom goes and says "Oh, yeah, he always acts that way because hes mad". evem though I've TOLD HER THAT I HAVE SOCIAL ANXIETY. At this point im feeling pretty upset because i'm being accused of something thats not even me and to make things worse, they're saying all these bad things about me and the only thing I can do is sit there guilty all because I cant say anything thanks to social anxiety. My dad goes off about how to speak to people even though I know how to, but I just cant because of my bad social anxiety. During them talking crap about me I manage to blurt out social anxiety, and my dad goes and says something to the extent of "oh you mean that **** you looked up online. you dont have that" and then he went on to tell me how some social disibility is because I don't ahve a strong enough mind... Oh yeah, he really knows what it feels like to have social anxiety... Only thing my mom did was agree with him on how I need to grow up and I need to stop acting like a ***** and how I have a ****** up attitude and how im lazy, mad, dont want to talk. I would love to talk, but I cant because I have social anxiety, its like these people dont understand ****. They keep on telling me how I have no proof I have social anxiety and then began to pretty much make fun of me. I'm sitting here thinking to myself "All this from eating out with family". Do you guys think this is how parents should treat their kid with problems? Its annoying having them believe im lazy or Ii'm an asshole and thats why I don't talk. They fail to realize, It would be like a dream come true if i was able to talk and express myself. Not to mention my mom is not a very nice person as she puts me down and starts arguments with me for no reason, as there is so much to this whole thing I've haven't gone in detail about.
Is it normal to feel social anxiety?
I’d say it’s normal to some extent. Everyone has a little bit of social anxiety. Some more than others. Just like plain anxiety.I believe social anxiety is a very manageable/curable thing if you know the right ways to manage it. 2 ways that I recommend (and that have helped my social anxiety tremendously) include:Meditation. Meditation is great for training your mind to not care what other’s think about you. It also is great for preventing excessive amounts of over-thinking and worrying. (There are tons of other additional benefits that come with consistent meditation as well)Forcing yourself outside your comfort zone. When in public, force yourself to start talking to EVERYONE. Literally everyone. Old people, weird people, young people, cute girls…everyone! Even if it’s just saying a friendly ‘hello’ or giving a random person a complement. Obviously this will be a challenge for someone with social anxiety…but after putting yourself out there for a bit and talking to a few random people…being in public will be a breeze. Let me know if you have any other questions on this.Hope this helps!