I'm afraid of growing up?
I was like you once. I was in the "gifted" program (I use that in quotations because I think you can't really measure intelligence). So I felt much more mature than everyone else. After all, none of the other kids had started to learn about the anatomy of a praying mantis. Ho ho! Anyway, I think that everyone has a point in their life that they realize; Oh. My. Gosh. I have to DO something with my life! I have to save like thousands of dollars so I have a place to live before my folks kick me out of the house. But first I have to try really hard to get a degree at a uber competitive college! Yes you're still in high school but you've already started your adult life. The grades you get now consequently affect where you will go to college which I'm assuming you will choose to do so. You sound like a nice dude or dudette so don't even sweat that part. It's when you're in college (which I am) that you feel the pressure of the adult world weighing on your shoulders like that guy carrying the globe (Atlas? yea....) First of all, you're with all these other people that also made it to college. You're high school class only had one valedictorian. Guess what. You're college class will have a minimum of 10. It's so much more studying and work. And because of the way vacation works in college. The year goes by much MUCH faster! It's like growing up two-fold! Luckily we're good at evolving. I've gotten really used to this fast-paced growing up. What you're going through now is but a phase. Physically, I did nothing to quell my fears about doing all this growing up stuff. Every day I'm increasingly excited about getting closer to my chosen career. Maybe that's what you need to do? Get super amped up about adult things! Look at furniture that would look really awesome in your dream house! Search the web for your future wedding gown/tuxedo! (I just realized I don't know if you're a guy or gal) Figure out what you really want to do when you have to get a job! Just.....breathe.....and plan. What's scary about growing up is the unknown right? So just relax and do some planning. I find that that relaxes me just as a pastime. Hope that wasn't too long to read. Hope that helps!
Im afraid to grow up..?
If you're only 14, of course being a grown up seems intimidating. You say your mind is stuck in the mindset of an early teen--and well, you still are one! No need to put pressure on yourself to behave differently than you feel comfortable. Growing up is not really a choice that you have to make all at once, per se. Theres a very slow transition into adulthood, and most of it will happen naturally whenever you're ready, mostly without your really being even conscious of it. In the meantime, just do whatever you still enjoy and take on the challenges that seem exciting (learning to drive, asking out a boy, etc). I was a very young soul throughout most of highschool--I didn't get my license until I was 19, and my first boyfriend was at 18. Just remember to respect and love yourself and don't put too much pressure on yourself! Let your life unfold at its own pace. And in the meantime, try not to stress about what will happen. You will cross those bridges when they come, and by the time they do you will be in a place to handle them.
Is it weird that im afraid to grow up?
I'm in nearly the exact same boat as you. I've struggled with figuring out what I want to do with my life, but I sat down and considered what really interested me- what I actually would enjoy doing when I'm older. You said you avoided raising your hand when the college rep asked the question- this may or may not be a good move in your favor, as he may have been able to offer valuable information and help. Don't be afraid to reach out and say you don't know what you want to do yet! It's really not that uncommon. Senior year is going to fly by so quickly- focus on building up skills to help make you more independent. But do know that just because you turn 18 doesn't mean everything immediately switches over and you're left to sprawl around on your own. Family will still be there for you, and you will always have resources available to you. Focus on working towards goals and establishing an idea of what you want to achieve in life. Your situation isn't terribly unique and many people can relate to you! Look around on forums, perhaps, for further advice.
There's nothing weird in it. Also, there's nothing to get afraid of dying.You were born on one day, and you're going to die away one day. That's how it is, with every human being and every other living creature on this planet.Every human being should understand and accept this truth as early as possible, like in his/her days as a kid.And, thereafter, every human being should live his/her life like a celebration. Like a grand party.Its very good that you have accepted the truth, and that you're not afraid of dying.Now, I'd advice you to go out and…Dance.Run.Climb.Fall.Eat.Drink.Vomit.Poop.Cough.Sneeze.Fall ill.Recover from illness.Make hell lot of friends.Fall in love.Don't break anyone's heart.Make mistakes.Learn from mistakes.Get into problems.Solve those problems.Acquire good knowledge and skills.Work hard.Earn loads of money.Go for tripping.Get confused.Solve your confusion.Build your confidence.Have high aims and targets.Achieve those aims and targets.And, thus live your life to the fullest by not being a Mr./Mrs. Perfectionist, but by being just the way you are.:)
I'm afraid of growing up.?
I dunno. I suppose that in the event you recognize demise that you just real suppose, an you take delivery of it, it makes demise less complicated. Whether that's that you just stop to exist, or that you are going to be in a few variety of afterlife. When I grew to be an atheist, I grew to be petrified of demise. Before I felt like demise used to be like a social gathering finishing, and you then might have got to be in church-land for all eternity, I did not take existence as significantly, for the reason that I had eternity in entrance of me. I used to be petrified of hell even though. As I take delivery of the probability of not anything while I die, I develop extra at peace approximately it. But I disagree with you, I suppose the deeply devout suppose in an afterlife such a lot that they're going to readily throw their lives away. At least they'll by no means recognize what they wasted
Im afraid of everyday things...afraid to grow up sort of?
If you have not seen a psyciatrist please do so!! You are still very young, impressionable, and CAN BE HELPED to overcome and lead a normal life. Depression does follow a cycle. When you start feeling like that take special notice of what triggers it off. Ask yourself What are you REALLY afraid of? From a more spiritual standpoint you suffer from a spirit of fear. Remember, God said he has not given us the spirit of fear, but of love, power and a sound mind. 2 timothy 1:7. Remember pride and fear go hand in hand. Find a church with a good youth group. And remember most importantly, there is good in people. So what if you do make a mistake, or look foolish sometimes. We all do. WE ARE ALL HUMAN. We all laugh, cry, hurt, bleed, take a bath, hurt others at times, make mistakes, make good choices, bad choices. KEEP A DIARY OF ALL EVENTS and all your feelings everyday. iT WILL HELP YOU TO SEE WHAT IT IS YOU REALLY FEAR. most of all seek professional help. Both medical and spiritual.
I'm afraid of growing up?
I'm 14, and already, I'm terrified at the concept of growing up. I don't want it all to go; my mom, my sis, my dad. I can't sleep at night for being woken up by nightmares of their ( and my own ) deaths. I know it's irrational, but it's not as if I can help it. I just don't know what's the point of living anymore. (It doesn't make sense. I started feeling this about 2 months ago, but I got over it eventually, but it came back yesterday, after I had a REALLY GOOD DAY.) Everything around me is a constant reminder that I'm not gonna be a kid anymore, soon, and I'm terrified. I'm just terrified. I don't know what I want to be when I grow up... I never knew. (I don't even know what I even WANT.) And it all feels so close and my parents are getting older and I don't want to lose them or this lifestyle cuz I don't know any different and I'm just I don't know, I'm so scared. My mom never really had a good life, the burden of chores and responsibility was shoved onto her at a young age, and she had a weak body (still does have one), and though she had a fun childhood, there were lots of sad memories that she still hangs on to. And now, she's still not having a good life, because my dad is always yelling at her and making her do all of the housework, and she always always tells me that she's depressed and I know she's sick and I try to help, but I feel like we're trying to support this household all on our own and it's not enough.. She tells me the only thing that she wants now is for me to become a scientist or a doctor and then she'll be happy and content. I really really want her to be happy and content (cuz as a kid, she pampered me and my sis and did ALL of the work, and it's too much and i regret not helping her and I regret a lot of things I did, being a bad daughter to her) and she deserves to be happy and content and die a painless, regretless death, but the only dream I have is to become an actress. Do you see my dilemma? THE ONLY TWO THINGS THAT WOULD MAKE ME HAPPY LIVING ARE CONTRADICTING EACH OTHER. I don't want to grow up and face it all and face death and stress and more fear, I'm tired of being afraid. Someone, pleaaaseee tell me what to do. Everything is too all-at-once and painful.
It's much more likely that you're actually afraid of the things that come along with being good-looking.For example, you may be afraid of people hitting on you when you're just trying to walk to the grocery store; of people assuming you're stupid because you're pretty; of perhaps becoming vain because you find your like your appearance.These are normal fears of unpleasant situations.Being good-looking implies judgment - judgment of others. Even favorable judgment still involves scrutiny. I see that "0 want answers" now so hopefully you found a satisfactory one!
Fear of losing the happiness , it is there in all of us .Happiness is hardly comes in our life and rest we stop this happiness having fear of losing it .Why this fear exist in all of us ?Fear is there because we wanted to avoid certain experiences in life based on our past perception . We do not want to experience these in our life again .It is problem with perception and not in past experience .We are not sure about the permanency of happiness and we are afraid repetition of bad experiences of past after this happiness.In a way i am avoiding the happiness in avoiding the bad experiences .I wanted to stop all in my life due to fear . Is it possible to stop all ?You can stop at conscious level but at subconscious level and unconscious still work .Even these fear reaches to subconscious level and create further miseries in life .Understand this process , allow all to happen . “Be with” all thoughts , emotions and feelings . This is only way you can learn to be yourself and be happy forever .Wait for this happiness , until and unless all got cleared through the living “ be with” and you reach to your pure and natural condition .
I dont wanna grow up.. its weird..?
it probably is normal...i'm a couple of years younger than you but i kinda feel the same. i might leave school in my second last year(5th year...don't know what the english equivalent is if you are english/welsh/northern/southern irish)and i am good friends with people 1&2 years younger than me..probs better friends with them than people my age.i feel like i've missed out a bit and i just want to rewind a few years again.its weird...when you're younger you want to grow up and be "big" but now i wish i was a bit younger! oh well have to deal with it...i can't rewind time.we'll get over it...maybe...(: good luck!? (: s: