Why don't I feel like talking to anyone?
I don't know whether you had this issue all through your life till now or this is a recent change you observed in yourself. I will tell you few possible reasons along with some solutions. I hope it helps you. If it is because you are hurt, sad or depressed about anything then you need to be serious about it. If there is something that is making you sad talk about it. Share it with your close friend or family. There is certainly a solution for everything, trust me.If this is a habit from childhood then you are probably an introvert. Well, this was the situation with me only. And as I grew up I found out that I had inferiority complex kind of thing. My mind use to unnecessarily compare me with others and I use to feel they are far better than me and I use to avoid people. But then I met a psychologist who helped to get out of this situation. Whether you feel like or not when you meet someone initiate conversation. General conversation like saying hi.. When you are with friends or gathering and you feel like sitting alone, not responding much or not talking at all. Take a deep breath and try to mix up with people and take interest in conversation or discussion. One reason can be your thinking doesn't match with others around you. It happens and it doesn't mean that you are wrong or they are wrong. Everyone has their own perspective. So, try avoiding topics that can lead to conflicts rather talk about general topics. Do meditation. It will help you get answer of many things that probably no one can answer as no one can see what is their in your mind except you yourself. If you feel like not talking to anyone all the time then this is a serious issue. It is very common sign of depression. Find out the cause of your depression. Are you not happy with your job/ studies? Do you want to do something and failed? Did anyone hurt you? Have anyone friend/gf cheated or hurt you? Ask these question and if any of these are cause of your sadness then think of possible solution. Do things that make you happy. No person and nothing, absolutely nothing is more important then your happiness. If someone has hurt you or betrayed you, forgive them. It happens and holding on these things harm you more than that person. If you are not happy with your job then search for another. Money matters but not more than one's happiness. Be happy!!
What does" we need to talk" mean?
I guess, from my own experience at least, that most of the times (for not saying all the times) "we need to talk" is said is nothing good going to happen. It doens't meen that you are going to be dumped, but usually means that something is not working properly in the relationship and needs to be talk about. Normally is us, women, who use that espresion because we see the need to talk more often than guys, but "we need to talk" is not that bad. Most of the times is just about something that needs to be solved between you and your partner. Don't be afraid when you hear those words, it is not always bad.
What would you do if your ex approached you and said "we need to talk"?
You give them a chance to say what is on their mind. And you listen to what they have to say. You have absolutely no idea what your ex is going to say to you. Do not go in there falling straight into their lap again and in love. Second chances are fine, only if they are earned. I just my boyfriend very badly once and if e never gave me a second chance I wouldn't have found my love. If he/she cheated, absolutely tell him/her to fuck off. But if he/she didn't, and maybe she/he wasn't a an admirable person but now they are. What a shame it would be to punish someone for their old self. Except cheating….because cheaters always cheat. So do yourself a favour and give him/her the benefit of the doubt and just listen. If you do Go, do not leave getting back together if that's what he/she wants to talk about. Leave just as single as you went. And decide everything when you are alone and clear headed.
Is it wrong to talk to someone if you're feeling down?
You can talk to someone. In fact, you should. But make sure you don't attach like a parasite to that person. At first they'll be concerned, then they'll pity you, later they'll get bored, at the end they'll start avoiding you.However bad your state of mind is, don't dump your negative feelings on the other person. You'll be poisoning that relationship yourself. Have some self respect, Love yourself, read a good book, go out for a walk, keep your cell phone aside, watch a movie, go to the grocery store, cook food yourself, indulge in some sports or fine arts, go to gym or do anything to refresh yourself. Also meet a friend, but don't make a 'habit' of only talking about your troubles and talking negativity over and over again.My friend and I were struggling with our lives in our own ways. We came to an agreement that we would talk only about the good things that are happening in our lives and it's working very well for us.If you feel things are out of control, seek professional help rather than discussing all your problems with friends.Cheers!
Is there a better way to say "we need to talk"?
Don't sweet talk him to come over or to tell him your coming over that's a fact. Such as "Hey hunny we need to talk.." no. Breakups are not easy, Specially towards the reaction the person your leaving may have, It may be harder. I think before you leave him you should get a paper and write all the reasons on why you want to leave him, And why you don't.. And then just think about it. If it's something that you really want to do then just tell him "Hey, Can you come over we have to have a serious talk" Or "Hey, can i come over i want to talk to you about a few things" I think this will give him the clue about what is about to go down. Once you see him don't go straight to the breaking up part, DON'T!! Take your time.. talk about how things have been between you guys, Then slowly jump into how you feel about him and how your feelings have changed for him and once he talks and lets hes side out of the store, just let it out easily don't just say were over. simple say i think we should see other people, I love you and i care for you but i dont think this is what i want right now.. Good luck!
How do guys feel when their girlfriends say, "We need to talk?"
panic?hey girls I know guys can be sort of slow at getting your drift and they may not seem all that smart sometimes and you really feel like you need to talk to them but let me tell you what you got to do. Don't tell a man “we got to talk “. it freaks them out and makes them put up all their defenses. I don't know if it comes from something from their childhood maybe when they got in trouble at school or with their mom or their dad, but I know that telling a guy we need to talk is not a good way to start a conversation with them about something important. What you got to do is go do something with them that they enjoy like hiking or fishing or whatever is something that you just like to do together maybe it's cooking or just some activity and in the middle of the activity just start talking about the subject you want to talk about just ask him hey how do you feel about this or you know I've been thinking this and I wanted to tell you or there's something sort of important I want to tell you and just start telling them that because they're already relaxed there in a comfortable environment and they're going to feel a lot better about talking about the stuff it's not usually even what you're talking about that freaks them out, it's the fact that you're saying “hey we need to talk.”that's just my opinion coming from a 57 year old person who's been around the bush a few times.
What is wrong with me? PLEASE HELP *READ*?
Before I start, I do NOT want nasty comments. I am at CAMHS, I am sick of being labelled as 'autistic', I was given the diagnosis of de clerambault syndrome which is an obvious misdiagnosis. I am 16 years old, I can not go into everything what has happened in my life. I am lacking social contact; I am not able to talk to my psychiatrist since she has discharged me, my mental health specialist sees me once every fortnight and he doesn't allow me in a room with him without my dad being present due to my proclaimed 'erotomania'. I have been bullied (although I do not like using that term due to the fact that it sounds as though I am victimising myself). I have told my mental health specialist that I was being ridiculed at school and I was told to kill myself because I was a "psychopath", my mom passed away from cancer last year and when I was at school I was told that she deserved to die. Thank God I am doing work at home for the last few months 'till GCSEs. Anyway, getting to the point... I'm not sure what I want, I don't know what I want in general. I'm scared of people leaving my life, like my mental health specialist leaving me, we have gotten close and I am petrified of him leaving me just like everyone else has. I tell people one thing and mean the other, then I tell people to "f**k off and get out of my life" and I don't mean it. My mind keeps changing all the time, one minute I love people, then I hate them. It's like subconsciously I want myself to suffer...
Why is the phrase "we need to talk" so frightening?
"We need to talk" is a signal that what you need to talk about is serious, and that the other person may or may not like the conversation. You don't say what you need to talk about. This can raise all sorts of possibilities in the other person's mind, especially if you're in a power position. For instance: We need to talk... about your drinking.We need to talk... about your poor performance lately. We need to talk... I've found someone else and I want a divorce. (OK, that one isn't business, but you get the idea.)If you want to be less frightening, and especially if you don't actually plan on a confrontation of some kind, make it clear and friendly. Hey, we haven't talked in a long time. Let's catch up on how things are going. We need to talk about vacation plans. We need to talk about who to invite for Christmas.Let's have a meeting to set up plans for the new project. If you do plan on a confrontation, just say "we need to talk" or "let's talk" and then talk right away. Don't make the other person wait, and don't be surprised if they act frightened.