Would you disown your child if they wanted a legal name change?
First of all, I'm not changing my name to spite my family or detach myself from them. I do come from a dysfunctional family and my parents have ****** up my life but I love them unconditionally. It's not them, it's that the name is wrong for me. I have always really hated my birth name, but I suffered for years because I felt guilty about getting it legally changed because it would potentially hurt them. (I hate my full name, btw. First, middle, last.) I long for a beautiful name that I can cherish and love. I know a lot of people will call me selfish but my name upsets me bc it isn't "me." I have tried to accept my name for my parents' sake, but I don't identify with it. I would like to reclaim my heritage by taking the more "ethnic" last name of an ancestor. Either Infante, from Dad's side, or Cohen from my mom's side. Well Cohen is common but it's really pretty. I came out to my parents about it and I tried to gently explain that I love them but that I have struggled with my feelings about the name for years, and that I feel like I'm "meant" to be an Infante (my great grandfather), and that I longed for a beautiful name I could cherish. Well dad isn't speaking to me and my mother is distant. She says that he will probably disown me and that I deserve it. My heart is broken. I feel overcome with guilt because I didn't want to hurt my father and I feel like a monster. I could just die from guilt.
Is there ever a good reason to disown one's own child? If so, what is it?
I don't see the point in making this declaration - meaning that the parent would outright say it out loud.The reason is that if the child is grown and is no longer a child but an adult, ceasing contact with them will not make them not to be one's child. So the whole point of making an "event" out of whatever disagreement two adults have is moot.The other reason is that if these two adults have a rift which can't be repaired, then they simply stop communications and any/all interactions - the world will not end because of it.If the child is young, then, yes, there could be many questions about it, and the parent will be liable to provide for the child until the child reaches legal age. After that time, the child could be on their own anyway, so it's up to these two equals (adults) to reassess whether they need to continue on having any kind of relationship with each other.Ideally, this relationship will continue.If not, then it will happen on mutual terms - and the question now is who disowns whom? The point is that kids usually grow up and many times decide to have a family of their own, and not being a part of that family and that future (which can include kids, well, grand-kids) is up to each parent/grandparent to decide on.To illustrate, my own parent (mother) is not speaking with me - it's more of outbursts of anger that she leaves on my voicemail every now and then about what I apparently "owe" her (and it seems that I owe a lot), all the while not being interested even a bit in her grandchild's life (my child is almost 10 now) or in anything else aside from her own needs. In this case, I doubt there is a valid reason to have a relationship at all, and if she decides that she disowned me, then I won't even argue with that - it's her choice, it's mostly her loss (though she troubles me at times when I think about her upcoming retirement prospects), and until she sees that I am not the enemy, we will be on that voicemail-only terms.
How Can I Legally Disown my Daughter?
I have a daughter who is 17 years old. She was recently raped, which has been terrible for everyone in the family. Unfortunately, we've just learned that she's now pregnant from the rape. She has expressed a desire to get an abortion. We are highly against that in this family. I have told her in no uncertain terms that if she gets an abortion, she will have to leave our home. She is 17 years old, so she's almost 18 anyway. Is there a way for me to legally kick her out of my house? I know there's such a thing as an emancipated minor, but I don't want to get myself in trouble here either. Thanks.
How to legally disown my daughter?
my daughter IS very evil. she found that she could use the social services to her benefit. I am not a perfect mother even though i strive to be. we moved to the UK in 2000 and i was working full time. my daughter was being nasty and one day she wished me dead. after about 8 months i got ill. I became extremely depressed and i dont go out on my own anywhere. 5 years ago my daughter was playing around with make up and put a black eye on herself. it looked real. a few days later we were having an argument and yes i did poke her in the head with the remote, and i did threaten to throwher down the stairs. All this happened because she pushed me to the edge. i know i should not have let her do this and i was wrong. the depression had controll of me and still does. i would never have thrown her down the stairs. i love my children too much to ever do something like that to them. later that week she went out and the next thing that happened was the cops knocked on my door at close to midnight to tell me that she had reported me to the police for beating her. she then told social services that i beat her and i gave her a back eye. She went into care for 1 year when i approached her to try and repair out relationship. she was home for about a 6 months when she started a relationship with a much older man and fell pregnant. she told the father that i was violent and that she had been sexualy abused by a relative. the same relative who had my other daughter staying with her for school purposes and never touched her. the same retative who i lived with for 16 years and she never touched me. she has not spoken to me for 3 and a half years and my grandaughter is now 3. i have tried to make up with her but she completely blanks me. i have been told by my older daughter that she said she has moved on with her life. where does that leave me. i am her mum. please i really need some advice because i am going out of my mind about this. again i say i a not a perfect mother but i love mu kids.
What's it called to disown your parent?
Okay so Im 16 years old and have a father that I wish to disown. I am sick of him treating my sisters, brother, and my mother(sperated) badly and thinking that everything he says is right! Im tired of it! Is there anyone that can tell me what that is legaly called, and were I can go or call for help? And if u would like to learn just how messed up he is look up a woman named Jacqui Lee Schiff thats my grandmother!