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Should adult children living at home help with rent and household chores? What should you do if they refuse?

Of course. Definitely!! Yes…. I have 3 adult children living at home. My eldest, 25 has graduated college and is working a full time job so I've asked him to contribute to the household. He gives me a monetary amount each month which is much less than what he would be paying renting a room. He also helps out with the lawn and with cleaning a bathroom. My middle child is 23 and has also graduated college and works full time. She also helps out with various chores around the house and pays the bills. My youngest is 20, still in college and currently not working. She's never contributed financially but is the one that helps the most around the house. I wouldn't have it any other way. This helps them become responsible. If they would refuse, I would ask them to move out. Actually my eldest has moved out in the past because he didn't want to follow the house rules but has moved back after realizing how good he actually had it at home. My daughters say they've learned from his mistakes and have never moved out nor does it look like they will anytime soon. We as parents have to stand our ground and let them learn from their mistakes. We are the bosses not them…I tell my kids “My house, my rules”. I feel that we are very reasonable with them but nonetheless they must follow our rules. And one last piece of advice, treat your children like adults not kids. We tend to forget that they are grown up. They're now adults and should be treated and respected as such.

At what age should children leave their parents' house? Why?

Our family has no mandatory age for children to leave the parental home.Our family doesn’t believe leaving home is a benchmark of an healthy adult or demonstrates independence and “standing on your own two feet.”One has nothing to do with the others.Sometimes the most mature decision an adult child can make is to remain home for a family member who needs financial support or home care.My daughter is 26 years old and has always lived with either me or her father. She is a great example of a responsible and contented adult.Since her first job at 16, our daughter pays her share of household expenses. She works for her dad, has adult friends, and a loving partner who also happens to live with her parents.Her father and I live in college towns where the standard of living is high and affordable housing is scarce. We don’t believe our kid should have to struggle economically to prove some arbitrary age of independence.I first left home at 16 to attend boarding school an hour and a half away. During my college freshman year, I lived in the woman’s dormitory at a university across state. The following year, I transferred to a community college closer to home and had my own apartment. I never went back home permanently. But my father claimed me on his taxes until I married at 23.When I got pregnant two years later, my husband and I were still college students. We moved in with his parents, at his childhood home, during my pregnancy to save money as we finished school. We lived with them until we graduated with our bachelor degrees. Our daughter was 3 months.My younger brother didn’t go away to school. He continued to live with our parents, off and on, after high school. He went back home to help Mom care for Dad who had Alzheimer’s.Several years after Dad died, Mom developed Parkinson’s and my brother moved in for good to be with her. He inherited the house after her death.My ex-husband and I think it’s very convenient living with our adult child. She’s an excellent lodger. In addition to the extra cash for rent, she’s around to care for the pets, pitches in with cooking and cleaning, and runs errands.Why have our daughter do all that for someone else?

When should a child move out of their parents’ house?

By answering this question I’m gonna assume your between the age of 18–25?I believe there is stigma in America for moving out at 18. False.You should move out of your parents house when you feel ready to move out.But that’s the tough part.When you feel ready doesn’t mean waiting till 36 and feeling like now is the good time. Feeling ready is when you have some-what of a stable income and can provide for yourself (for the most part).Moving out when you feel ready does not mean leaving when you have a long period of feeling comfortable. I suggest leaving home the moment before you begin getting too comfortable.I personally believe the sooner you can financially leave the better for two particular reasons:You’ll learn to become more independent.You’ll taste the real-world and be consumed by daily challenges.My kids technically moved out at age 17/18 for college, but they moved back in after school and stayed still they were between 22 to 26 (I have 5 kids).My husband and I didn’t put any pressure on them, but we made sure they found a job, and started saving some sort of income so that when they were ready to move on, they’d be able to.BUT…If your not going to college and simply want to “grind” and work 24/7, you get a long with your parents, and you don’t feel restricted living at home, then by all means, stay at home till when ever.You’ll save a TON of money that you could be spending on more important things, like your first house!Once you have a sufficient amount of income saved, rent an apartment. This could be at age 23 or even 27. It all depends on the situation.