Is it wrong to be in love with your second cousin?
For those who aren’t clear, second cousins (also called “kissing cousins”) are far enough apart in the family that they could marry. Their grandparents are siblings.As far as the “serious relationship” goes, I have no idea what you mean. You don’t mention your age, and that would be part of figuring out if it’s serious. If you both aren’t ready to set up your own household, you aren’t eligible, and therefore you’re not serious. If nobody knows you have a “relationship”, I doubt it’s serious.Sleeping together doesn’t mean you have a serious relationship, or even a relationship, unless the two of you have discussed and agreed that you are planning to marry and have a bunch of kids together. Sometimes people are sleeping together and one of them thinks they have a serious relationship and the other thinks it’s a friends with benefits situation. You can’t assume anything.
Help I feel like a weird loser compared to her?
well it's about my cousins. i have three cousins, all of them are girls. on their other side of their family they have another cousin who's my exact age, but she's so much better than me. my three cousins make me feel like a geeky loser and a lot of the time they call me weird, while their other cousin (her name is leah) is the cool one. this makes me very jealous of her, and it makes me insecure because why can't I be like her? the last time I saw her she looked great. She has bigger breasts than me and long blonde hair. I feel like a dork with my skinny bean pole body. How can I get over this? I just feel bad being known as the "weird" cousin while she's the cool cousin
Is my cousin a jerk and a weirdo, loser?
Do you think my family is subjecting me to abuse? I'm 17, my cousin is 35, college grad from NYC., he married a southern woman last year whos a HS dropout, 36 with a 19 yr old daughter. He lives in Virginia with 35 of her relatives, nearby, he considers himself her daughters dad, brought her a house and her husband told me hes getting all of his money when my cousin dies. My cousin does not want any children. He gets drunk every night drinks 1 bottle of vodka, changed his relegion from catholic to evangelical. when i vistied them, his daughter told me its sad that im 17 and have no fiance, i told her im going to college, she said oh thats for dumb people.
Is it weird to like your second cousin?
The people who are telling you it is bad or taboo are woefully out of touch, and probably don't even know what a 2nd cousin is. In the U.S. (it's a little different in the U.K.) a 1st cousin is the child of your parent's siblings. You and they have the same grandparents. A "1st cousin once removed" is the child of your 1st cousin, a "1st cousin twice removed" is the grandchild of your 1st cousin, and etc. A 2nd cousin is the grandchild of your grandparents siblings. You and they have the same great-grandparents. Do you know your great-grandparents? Most of us don't. The blood connection between you and your 2nd cousin likely goes back 50 years before you were even born. In the U.S. it is socially taboo to marry a 1st cousin, based on some out-moded concepts of genetics...which in fact are false. Still, the taboo lingers, and in some states it is illegal to marry a 1st cousin. The idea does tend to give most people a little bit of the creeps. However, it is not illegal to marry a 2nd cousin, and again, the genetic ramifications of doing so are virtually non-existent. Still, there is some lingering social prejudice against it, and for that reason more than any else, it's generally not a good idea to go looking for dates at your family reunions. By the way, when you're talking 5th cousins (as one responder does), the relationship is ridiculously remote, going back 150 to 200 years or so. Most of us tend to lose track of relationships more distant than 3rd cousins, but in some wealthier or so-called aristocratic familes where such things are tidily kept track of, they do often know these remote relatives. One of our more famous Presidents, Franklin Roosevelt, actually married his 5th cousin (once removed), Eleanor. In fact, her last name was Roosevelt before they got married.
Is it ok to date your second cousin?
There is nothing wrong or weird about second cousins dating. In fact, I think having commonalities within one’s family tree can actually help create a stronger bond between a husband and wife. Indeed, throughout most of human history marriages between cousins was the norm rather than the exception.And contrary to what some others have stated, the offspring of second cousins face no significant increased risk of birth defects. Even for the offspring of first cousins the risk is minimal.
I think that i like my cousin....?
im 13 and a girl. my cousin who's 24 came over for the weekend to look after me and my brother who's 9 because my parents and older siblings were going to this wedding. i hadn't seen him in ages before then. when i first saw him i felt funny in my stomach. which i have never felt that way before. that night we were going to the circus and to get there we had to go on a train. there was only 2 seats and me and my brother sat down. because the trip was an hour and a half my cousin asked my brother if he could sit down then my brother could sit on his lap. my brother said no so i stood up and let him sit down i was standing then he pulled me onto his lap. that night when we got home i went to the bathroom to brush my teeth. when i opened the door he was standing there naked looking in to the mirror. i like froze and he lunched into how he thought i was in bed. i then slammed the door shut and went to bed. then the next day i was trying to avoid him by staying in my room listening to music. apparently he knocked then opened the door and walked across the room to where i was laying normally but i didn't hear. when he tapped me on the shoulder it scared the hell out of me. he said that i liked good music and that we were going to the beach. at the beach it was really funny. i found my self trying to impress him. when he was leaving i gave him a mixed cd that i made for him. he said thanks and that i was cute. now i can't stop thinking about him. .i kinda want him to know how i feel about him now but i know that its wrong to like a family member. how do i stop feeling this way?
Is it wierd that i think my cousins are hot?
Well, it is a strong cultural taboo. As open minded as I am, it still creeps me ou and makes me uneasy. However, I suspect the taboo is unfounded, or so science said. So, yes, it is weird, but I can also say it's natural to be attracted to attractive people, by nature, not by culture. I don't think you should pursue a relationship with your cousin... It could very well ruin the relationship...
Why is it considered incest to date your second cousin?
By some laws, “incest” only takes place when two people of ample cosanguinity engage in sexual relations. If you’re only dating, you’re technically in the green, but you could be skating on thin ice.The (awful?) truth is that a lot of us are actually offspring of so called “incestuous” relationships. The reason I throw the word ‘incestuous’ in quotes is because there’s so much debate as to the meaning of the word.Sleeping with your sister. That seems to be a no brainer. Dating your parent’s first cousin’s daughter or son? Yeah, it’s close in the family and could be called incest, but biologically it’s probably not all that bad.In fact, some studies indicate that even first-cousin couplings are not as bad for the offspring as popular culture has made it. Take a look at this link.There's nothing wrong with cousins getting married, scientists saySo, in the case of you dating your mom’s cousin’s offspring, significant outside genetic material has already been introduced because we’re talking about another entire lateral generation separating you two: You are the offspring of your parents. You have 50% from your mother, and 50% from your father. You take the cousin relation as to your parents. That cousin of one of your parents has a child who himself is already 50% of someone else not immediately within the family. In other words, a gigantic percentage of new genetic material has already been inter-mixed and would act as a buffer to an already otherwise generally safe coupling between first cousins. If that’s already considered “safe” for one generation, than couplings between second cousins ought to be even more safe.You shouldn’t need to worry about your children if you plan on having them. Just make sure you don’t keep doing this generation after generation. That’s a sure fire way of leading to inbreeding depression.
Is marrying your second cousin ok?
It depends.If your grandfather is your maternal grandfather , your grandfather’s brother’s son will be your mom’s brother and you can marry his daughter :)If it is your paternal grandfather then his brother’s son will be your dad’s brother too and dad’s brother’s daughter will be your sister :(
Is it okay to have sex with a second cousin, a daughter to a maternal cousin?
It's okay to want to have sex with anyone. Seriously, anyone at all.In certain situations (the other person is in a monogamous relationship, is underage, is in a professional relationship with you, etc.) It is not ethical to act on that desire. But to want it? Want away. Your fantasies are private and only yours.