Is my guy friend manipulating me? Please give me some advice on what i should do?
i know the post is long but there is no shorter way of putting it. i think that a friend of mine is manipulating me. there have been a few incidents with him which i think proves my point. he pretends to be caring and for my own good. but i have also noticed that he can be very jealous if he sees me talking to or texting another guy. i was out for a few drinks with my him recently and a few of his lad friends. there was one guy i had never met before as he was a college friend from outside town. we got talking and we seemed to get along quite well in my opinion. i didn't fancy him but he was a nice guy to talk to. i then got a text message from my friend from across the table saying 'if you get with my friend im not gonna talk to you anymore' he's 26 years old by the way and behaving like a teenager. i thought it was a pretty childish thing to do. when ever i get talking to his guy friends he gets so jealous and accuses me of ignoring him and not being a proper friend. and just a few days ago i told him i am back texting an old friend who is also a guy and he is someone i have a lot of feelings for. he accused me of being caught in a stupid rut and that i should listen to him and not text that particular guy anymore. he then accused me of being ignorant with his friends and all his friends said the same thing to him about me. i feel like i cant win with him. if i chat to his friends he accuses me of ignoring him and not being a good friend and he also accuses me of trying to get with them. he told me his friends don't like me why would i bother talking to them if that is the case. im thinking of just cutting all ties with him. i told him not to bother texting me again because i am that angry with him. i haven't heard from him in a two days now. i think he has influenced other guys and turned them away from me. he has a background in psychology so im sure he has a few dangerous skills in manipulating me and others.
Why do so many people manipulate and use me? I'm a very friendly and genuine person, and always treat people nicely, but I end up being used and manipulated. Is it possible to be too nice?
Being too nice is not the root cause of people taking advantage of you. You can be the nicest person in the world and still set boundaries with people. Not recognizing the signs when this happens will just set you up for future mistreatment. What may help is reflecting on past situations where you unknowingly allowed people to abuse your friendly and, possibly, non-confrontational, submissive nature. Think of ways you could have, or should have, handled it differently. Remember that you don't owe anyone ANYTHING! Remember that you are not responsible for someone else's problems! Learn to say no! Demand respect from people. If they treat you badly, learn to stand up for yourself and tell them that you will not allow or tolerate their abusive behavior! Keep your distance, or stay away entirely, from manipulative people. Manipulative people are constantly scanning for the next opportunity to take advantage of someone and when you stop allowing them to take advantage of you, they will move on to someone else. Don't make yourself readily available all the time. If you start feeling uncomfortable with the way someone is starting to treat you, back away from them. In time, you will learn to do this naturally, but if you can practice this now, you will save yourself a lot of frustration, hurt, and anger over the years. All that being said, don't change the fact that you are nice - that is not a character flaw. But, like honey attracts bees, being nice just happens to attract the wrong kind of people.
Give me an example of a Scorpion girl manipulating a friend?
good actress!! yeah most are. as one belong to the sign i dont deny im doing it once in a while. Personally if i want to manipulate my friend, i'll do everything i knew to get her sympathy and that includes drama. and when im already sure that i was able to move her emotion...thats the sign that i can do manipulation over her:) As a friend i can say that they can lean on me, through thick and thin. but when they hurt me badly or betrayed me, im sure that im going to strike back no matter how long im going to wait. SCORPIO WOMAN
Is this guy really wanting to be friends or he is trying to manipulate me to have sex with him? Our convos always turn sexual and when I tell him that this doesn’t feel like a “friendship” he tells me stop accusing him of just wanting sex.
Yeah, he is gaslighting you.“Gaslighting is a form of psychological manipulation that seeks to sow seeds of doubt in a targeted individual or in members of a targeted group, making them question their own memory, perception, and sanity.” WikipediaTrust your own perceptions. Do not allow others to substitute their judgement for yours.This is a large red flag, and I think you should break off any relationship with him. He obviously does not respect you.
I resent my boyfriend for psychologically manipulating me into giving him oral?
I was very opposed to the idea of oral sex (and still am) and I told this to my boyfriend before hand, that I would do it only if I felt like doing it. He said he was okay with it and that he wouldn't concern himself with the matter. But this, was a lie, because he would bring it up all the time during sex. Since he had reciprocated the favor a couple of times, and my friends told me I wouldn't lose anything to try it once, I did it once, but I still did it because he asked me to. (and he asked me to even though I had told him many times I don't want to do it and even though I had told him I was tired that night). Then he didn't reciprocate!!! Which made me really mad, because I did this as a favor and gained nothing from it. Then I told him flat out that I will only do it if he does and he agreed. But then he made some lewd comments about it and I started shouting at him. The problem is, the next time we had sex, even though the oral sex was mutual (and not degrading because I didn't let him do any of the crap they do in porn, although he wanted to), I just hated every part of it. I don't want to be graphic, but I just hated it, it was a chore, and ruined the entire evening, and pretty much the entire week. I am still mad, and I don't fully understand why. My guess is that it's because he doesn't do anything he doesn't want to do during sex, and yet I do. I don't want to be the gal who angrily looks at her partner's private parts and hates every moment of a sexual act, and yet I am. I told him all that. And I am still angry. Maybe even at myself for letting me be manipulated and not doing things at my own pace. Anyway, this has been poisoning our relationship since the early stages. How do I deal with these feelings of resentment and anger? I literally wake up every morning and think of how I will refuse to do this again the next time and also think badly of him for not respecting my wishes, and become desperate with myself because for yet another time, I didn't manage to say NO when it mattered.
Abusive boyfriend wants to apologize..?
I know exactly how you feel right now, and being a nice person and clearly caring you want to hear him out. But don't do it, it's just another way of him trying to shove his way back into your life to gain control. You don't want to be put in the same situation, domestic abuse runs in a cycle.. Im 17 and I went through it for three years and it was terrible. I would say, check out the site Loveisrespect.org they have people you can talk to on there, completely anonymous. Maybe if you just sit down and think about all the things he did you'll realize it's a pattern and he's just going to try it again. Most abusers never change, no matter how bad you want them to. At some point you have to let your anger go, but he doesn't have to know that. I'd say just keep away from him as much as you can. If you ever need to talk just let me know. Hope this helped.
What are some of the best ways to manipulate someone?
It depends on what you want, who you want it from, and on the people involved. Trying to manipulate someone into doing something you want is vastly different from manipulating someone to give you something instead of someone else. Trying to manipulate someone you love and who likes you is vastly different from manipulating someone who hates you.But here is the recipe you need, in general terms. Logic + emotion -conflict = results. If you use a logical argument that caters to someone's emotions, without creating or inflaming any conflict, chances are the person will do what you request.For example, let's say my friend and I decide we need a vacation. My friend wants to take a cruise, in 2 weeks, that lasts a week. I don't want to do that. I want to take a mini vacation, on the weekend, camping. What do I do?I tell my friend I would love to go on a cruise! Who wouldn't? But 2 weeks notice is too short for my job (truth ONLY), and I don't have a passport. I would really love to go though, so maybe we should plan it for 2 months from now! In the meantime, let's take a mini vacation! There's a great lake with camping nearby, so we can still play on the water!See how I didn't critize the first plan at all? Just pointed out the logical issues we would face, gave a good alternative, and took into consideration what would appeal to my friend. Here's the rule though.Manipulation is never something you should do to hurt someone. It is never something to do lightly. And it can easily backfire on you, costing you important people. If you want to manipulate, I would personally recommend a vow to do no harm, and to become the most compassionate, empathetic person you can be. Manipulation has it's time and place, like everything. But if you don't understand what it's worth using for, you're going to be as hurt by it as anyone you try to use it on. If your competing with someone, I highly recommend going all out on level grounds, so that your win is as legit and satisfying as possible.Best of luck.
She's trying to steal my boyfriend and make me jealous..What should i do?
Well i really like him... Him and my ex but i cannot like him no.. But my current boyfriend.. I realy like him.. But my friend she's jealous of me and she copies me and yeah she denies everything i say and everyone think i want to be like her. Oo god,so i asked my other friend what is up with her..Because she like's my boyfriend and i don't like that.But he plan is to make me jealous of her.. And i'm like ok ... I'm trying not to get jealous but yeah... Help me what should i do? My friend is the kind that loves the multnipulating and all that stuff?...;