My girlfriend keeps on lying to me when she's going out with her friends for a drink. What should I do?
First things first: Ignore all the answers that are accusing you of doing something wrong. Unless there's something you're not tell us, it is completely unacceptable for everyone to be turning this around on you “Because you need to stay out of her personal life” or “"Because you need to let her hang out with whoever she wants”. That's not the issue and they clearly think that you being a guy makes it your fault. BS.Now that that is out of the way, let's talk about the problem. Trust.Your issue, as you've expressed it, is that your partner has been lying to you. Not that she is going out with her friends, but that she's lying about it. This is a major problem for several reasons.People lie because they are trying not to tell you something. Whatever that something is will make you upset or hurt. Since you have expressed to us all that you feel no problem with her going out with friends, and you’ve expressed this to her as well, there is something she isnt telling you. This is the thing that will hurt you or at least she believes will hurt you. Maybe it's her seeing other guys or her dressing inappropriately. This lack of communication on her end is leading to your issue of trust on your end. Speaking of which…Trust is something that is built up over time between people and can be broken very quickly and in a mess. Take a janga tower. It takes a while to build that tower, and just a couple blocks pulled from the bottom can ruin the whole thing. This is an issue you must confront now. If she is lying to you about this, you'll soon never be able to trust her, and you’ll have good reason not to. I know from personal experience that some people can become compulsive liers over time and lie about things that range from not doing dishes to failing out of school to what happened the the car. If you don't bite this in the butt right now, it'll soon reach a state of irrepair if it hasn't already.What you need to do is sit down and talk to her. Don’t put yourself in this situation where you wonder if she's telling you the truth all the time. And whatever you do, don’t let her her keep doing this to you. Especially if it ends up being, “I won't do it again. I promise.” Every single time. You need to give her an ultimatum and hold her accountable. She's hurting you, and needs to understand that you're not going to keep doing this to yourself.I wish you the best of luck in however you move forward.
Why does my girlfriend always accuse me of cheating and lying?
My own girlfriend was worried I would be cheating on her for several years. Despite her brain knowing I wasn't cheating on her, her emotions couldn't shake that fact.Surprisingly enough, I don’t think the reason she thinks you’re cheating with her is you. I think it’s just her overreacting to certain situations, seeing things that aren't there. It’s sadly a common thing. It hurts me every single time to have someone who means so much to me, accuse me of being unfaithful. Or even to hear that she worries about me being unfaithful! as I’ve proven to choose her above others multiple times.Now, in order to prevent all this, you need to talk to her. Don’t show her your phone, browser history, chat histories, etc etc. That stuff is private. if she can’t have a functional relationship without spying on your every message, that’s unhealthy. Not to mention that she’ll take a LOT of that stuff out of context. she’ll be actively searching for things that point to you cheating. and she’ll find some, even if they don’t exists. because she’ll bring the out of context.Instead you could try to spend more time with her, not actually doing things together, but just be near each-other. If you need to study, why not study at her place? if she ok with that that is. It’s time you don’t wish to be disturbed, but also can’t talk to your girlfriend. She may suddenly think you’re cheating in that time because you’re not talking to her. So if you’re studying at her place, she’ll KNOW you’re working hard. she’ll KNOW you’re loyal.I’m an introvert, so I sometimes need full days of quiet and silence. However I make sure that whenever I need time alone, I’ll be close to where my girlfriend is at. I’ll be reading a book on a couch, playing games on the laptop. If you’d like you could bring her over to your place too, you could ask her to bring something to amuse herself with, just because you enjoy having her presence around you.Bottom-line, spend more time “around” her.It’s hard for her emotions to match her brain with logics. if she feels you’re cheating, that’s the first conclusion she’ll find. even when it simply isn't true.
My roommate's lying about her job, should I confront her?
I discovered my roommate is a stripper by some Nancy Drew like work (wasn't hard) I tried to tell her I knew and I don't judge her for it, but I don't like being lied to. I am confused because is this my business or not?? I think it is since it's just plain safer if I know where she is and how to reach her, but I don't want to drag something she is obviously wanting to keep secret into the light.
Should i break up with my girlfriend, who has been lying?
She isn't worth the trouble, girls like this are just plain naive. She doesn't seem to appreciate you. And from the sound of it you don't really want to go back there. Move on.
My girlfriend lies to me constantly. How do I deal with this? I’m fairly certain she’s not cheating because that’s not what she lies about. I catch her in stupid lies and she says she was too afraid to tell me the truth.
Hard to say for certain why she is lying so often. I can only relate one possibility, that I experienced with my ex.I am a really honest person. I always try to do the right thing. I really never have a reason to lie. My ex though, she was more "normal" in her mind at least. She did not like disapointing me. She did not like me disapproving of her and her weaknesses. So, she lied about it. She simply pretended to be someone that she wasn't. She really wanted to be with me, but she didn't want to change, so she lied. I later became a professional fraud investigator. I learned that people that make little lies so casually, also do the big lies. It isn't really possible for them to only do the little lies. In fact, they are usually a lot more careful about the big lies, letting themselves be caught easily on the little ones to throw you off, make you think you can always tell when they are lying. I never would have thought my ex was capable of cheating, but later, I found out she was doing it a lot. I was surprised at how little I really knew her. This is because I loved the person she was pretending to be, not who she really was. The whole relationship was built on her lies.The funny thing was, after we broke up, she met a guy that was a real sleazeball. He lied, cheated, drank excessively, was lazy, took drugs, etc. It was a match made in heaven for her. She made him happy just the way she was. Of course, she continued to lie, but she didn't feel so guilty about it. He was in no position to judge her either.Consider if your situation is similar. If so, then maybe you two are not a good match?