Why do I feel bad about my life when looking at other people’s Instagram accounts, and what should I do about it?
Trust me, pal, life would be much better and easy if we know how to and when to demarcate between reality and virtual reality.You are not alone.Almost every other person on social media feels mentally down for one reason or the other, seeing the highlight reels of others on social media platforms like Instagram, Facebook or Snapchat.I am no different.But having a career in digital media AND growing to know this social media world better, I have understood that it is foolish on anyone’s part to buy everything that social media sells to us, at face value.A simple way of putting this would be, you have a bad, bad day, wherein, say, you had a fight with your parents, your cat died, or you just simply don’t even feel like waking up from bed and do nothing but laze around the whole day.Now, would you put this negative/mundane angle of your life on social media?Chances are marginal, for you may feel the onus of the possibility of being judged, being called an attention-seeker, moody, et cetera.Now compare this to a day where you just feel good about yourself. Say, you got a damn nice dress, which fetched you a plethora of compliments, a bevy of people viewed your Snapchat stories, etc. And you do feel like basking in this glory for a change, and you click a picture and post it on Instagram/Facebook.These are all highlight reels that you are sharing.There are people (though less) who share as much of their sad stories as they do for their happy ones, and then there are people who only let their positive side show on social media, concealing the chink in their armor fairly well, simply for the reason that they do not want the world to see their inner demons.But amid all this: truth remains just one. Everyone has their dark days and perfection is just a myth. Nobody’s life is as perfect as their Instagram Feed or Snapchat history might look, and this is a fact.You may feel like, ‘’Oh, she’s got a perfect life!’’ ‘’He has nothing to worry about! I wish I had a life like that!’’ but bottom line is, those persons aren’t living a life that’s hunky dory either, just like you. Just that their problems might be different than yours.It’s the best to thus treat highlight reels as they are: ‘’Reels’’ and know that ‘’Real’’ is quite different. It is basic, it lacks background music, and sometimes, it sucks! But hey, that’s life. We make, we break, and we gotta live it the way we want, whatever it takes! :)Good luck!
I am feeling very low. All of my friends have a better job and higher pay package than me. Its too intimidating. What should I do to encourage myself?
This might be not easy to listen (read) but bear in mind my role here is to provide my opinion or insight on what I believe can help you. I'm not supposed to tell you what you want to hear, but what you need to hear.Mind you, I'll be respectful, no trash, but no BS anyway.You need to make a reset. Really. Reset your way of thinking and by consequence your way of living.The world isn't about you, the world isn't about how much you have more than others. The world is about knowing where we're heading, why we're heading there and what do we aim to build, create and share. And in all this, there is no mention to money, jobs, grades, studies or companies.It's all about people. Money? cars? property? job titles? they's a bi-product. If you're ruled by them, and they're your sole motivation, you'll never fill fulfilled.You should never benchmark with anyone. This life isn't about competition. Don't compete with anyone. You shouldn't compete, but complete.The competition you can do is against the best version of yourself. Everyday, ask yourself "Am i the best version I could possible be?", ""could I have done a better job? could I have helped more?"You could get eventually the same pay or higher of your peers, than what? would be a better person? than you'd go for a higher salary, a bigger car, a bigger house, a bigger company and so on and so on and this would become a never ending story.Want to compare your standards? go to an hospital, see ill people, see people who had accidents, see people who lost beloved ones. Go out to the street, talk to homeless people, listen their stories.This isn't suppose to lower your ambitions or put you down. Its the other way around. This is to motivate you, to make you aware how life can swing on a second and how all you give so much value today, can go away in a blink of an eye. What do you have left? yourself. So change your perspectives. Ask yourself "who am I", "what do I want", "what is my purpose", "what am I grateful for".Change your habits, way of thinking. Ask yourself what drives you in life.Read, read a lot, change habits, step by step. Find your north.
What is 'failure'? Who is a 'looser'? Does there really exist something as these two?
Failure. 1. Failure doesn't mean - You are a failure, It means - You have not succeeded. 2. Failure doesn't mean - You accomplished nothing, It means - You have learned something. 3. Failure doesn't mean - That you have been a fool. It means - You had a lot of faith. 4. Failure doesn't mean - You've been disgraced. It means -You were willing to try. 5. Failure doesn't mean - You don't have it. It means - You have to do something in a different way. 6. Failure doesn't mean - You are inferior. It means - You are not perfect.(who is??) 7. Failure doesn't mean - You've wasted your life. It means - You have a reason to start afresh. 8. Failure doesn't mean - You should give up. It means - You must try harder. 9. Failure doesn't mean - You'll never make it. It means - It will take a little longer. 10. Failure doesn't mean - Nature has abandoned you. It means - Nature has a better way for you. Looser can be positive thing. 1. Looser - a person who lose weight and gain health. 2. Looser - a person who lose his ego and gain friends. 3. Looser - a person who lose his bad habits and gain wealth. 4. Looser - a person who lose his bad luck and gain good fortune. 5. Looser - a person who lose his bad breath and gain a kiss.
When does a teenager start losing the urge to masturbate?
It never stops man..lol That's just part of being a man.. You gotta figure it out for yourself..lol Honestly though, think about this.. The more you have sex with your hand, the more your penis will start to get use to that feeling.. So when you do have sex and you feel what a vagina feels like you won't even be able to handle it.... Trust me, the hand is great, but nonthing is greater than good P*$sy..... Try to cut it down to at least once a week for now.. But never let it take the place of sex in your life.. Beating off is just a tool we men get to use to get us over the dry times..lol But Too much and your gonna mess up your sex life later down the line.. UNLESS,, you use it for practice.. Instead of finishing every time try stopping and not busting every time.. That can actually help you when its time for lasting long in the real thing, cause you'll be use to hanging in there for the long haul and your building up that muscle down there.. Try to go 20min, than 40 min, than hr.. Its sounds like a long time,, but time fly's when your enjoying your self..lol
My boyfriend makes me feel bad about myself?
I am 19 years old and recently started college when I was 18. I met a guy named james* and at first we hit it off and then things changed. everything was great for a few months, then all of a sudden he started being a huge jerk. I even lost my car and quit college for him because I didn't wanna lose him ( we lived together by then) and he never even appreciated. but eventually i got a job and got a truck and now i'm finally back in school. I told him when I started back that it is no option i am going to school and i can't let anyone stop me and he said it was fine. I told him i'm not giving up my dreams for him and he gets made about me going to school for no reason! and he says stuff like " oh ! well you're just going to see your other boyfriend and guy friends just so you can get some!" and stuff like that. He doesn't let me talk to any of my good guy friends i've known for forever and i even deleted all of their numbers out of my phone ! and he still has a ton of girls numbers in his phone after i repeatedly asked him to do the same thing i did because it wasnt fair and he never will. I just feel like i'm always getting accused of cheating on him when all i do is show him how much i love him and i make special dinners and call him just to say how much i care. I even got wine and steaks and all romantic dinner for him and he still thinks i'm cheating on him. He makes me feel bad about myself. like he doesn't love me and that he's the one who's cheating because he's accusing me of doing it all the time. Oh, and he said a girl came up to him and kissed him at a ballpark but i KNIOW no girl would just randomly come and kiss a guy on the lips! I constantly have to say sorry for stuff i didn't do! and it's tiring to always be sorry. He calls me names like B**, ****, and stuff like that and it's really hateful.. the worse thing i've ever called him was an ******. and the other night he hummed a steaming hot bowl of soup at my face and burnt me up... what do i do? because i really do love him. I make mistakes to but.. still. i dont know. help!