Is The Shaming Of 30-year-old Men Dating 18-year-olds Strictly An American Phenomenon

Should a 30-year-old date an 18-year-old?

No … not even if No it doesn’t matter if you are soul mates. It doesn’t matter if you are both artists and understand each other beautifully.It doesn’t even matter if it is destiny because you both got the same tattoo when you were 15 and it says “I want to date somebody who is 12 years apart from me in age.” Not even then.At 30, a person should be finished with basic education or training, well into advanced education or their career, have mature relationships with friends, have a stable home and transportation, and be looking for somebody in a similar mindset. This person is independent, knows who they are, and knows what their goals and direction in life are. If you aren’t there yet, you have no business dating anyone at all. Get your life in gear!At 18, a person is still an emotional teenager for about 7 more years. They can go to college, but crazy drama and emotional relationships can derail things easily. They have no career, and most likely no stable home or transportation. This person is looking for novel, exciting experiences and they do not consider the consequences. This is a child still, really. The last stage of brain development is not complete until about age 25. This person is not independent, has no idea what it is like to live alone and be responsible, and has no idea what they will be doing next week, much less a few years down the road.Now if you are talking about just going out for drinks (which you cannot do for three more years in the US) and some fun, I can’t fault you. If I’m honest, I’m probably jealous. An 18 year old is so full of energy and emotion and they are amazing. Wow, I have great memories of college girlfriends. I’m sure we all do. But as for ‘dating’ or a relationship, it just isn’t a good idea in any way. You are just in two different places.As long as you guys are clear on what things are about, might be fun. If you are expecting someone who is making rational decisions, you are fooling yourself. Can you still remember that far back? When you were 18? Remember how just lost and mindless you were? Well it was worse, because we always sugar coat our personal memories.Just no …

Is it okay for an 18-year-old female to date a 35-year-old man?

I have 2 opinions and they are conflicting. I dated an older man. When I was 17 , he was 34. I think we both had needs. He had gotten married young and his wife left him. He was a good man, a hard worker, decent. I think he was just starting out where he had left off at.I was kind of innocent and young guys were very pushy and demanding wanting more than I was ready to give.He was stable for me and I was his friend and he was genuinely mine. Even after we had decided that love takes many forms we remained friends until he died years later. He helped me get through time until guys my age grew up a little. I helped him revisit his life and rebuild his foundations. Yes there was intimacy and it was oddly provocative and challenging and liberating and sometimes deep and warm and sometimes seriously playful. But that was not even half of what glued us together. It was the belief we could be good and caring and loving people and just be ourselves and relax and unwind and not pretend.This is the good side.The down side is not every man is as good as my friend. Some men like to take advantage of a girls mind and heart. They never try to build her character or encourage thinking. They really don't care if you have a mind. They want a show piece an ego boost. They do not want the challenge of a woman who is more on par with them. They are egocentric. It will never be about you as a person, not really. You are more of an accessory, kind of that pop of color they need to stand out in the crowd.So the bottom line is and be honest. How do you really feel when you are near this person? Now how do you feel when you are with this person? Those are two different realities. Listen to your gut before you waste your precious time because if your gut feels uneasy you have something better out there and you could miss it. Don't waste your time. It is something you will never get back.