My male friend has begun sending me money and gifts. I'm beginning to feel uncomfortable. What should I do?
If I was in your situation I would tell him just what you wrote in your last sentence.. I would tell him.. that I love him a lot as my friend but that I am not in love with him.. that I don't want to mislead him by accepting valuable gifts and that I hope we can still be friends.. if the sum of money is inappropriately high.. and the gifts go over the top of a gift from a ''great friend'' then I would feel my conscience tell me'' Return them'' it would make me feel bad to keep them.. I would tell him how I feel about him.. that he means the world to me as a very close friends but that I have no romantic feeling.. and I may be a fool but I am an honest fool.. I could not be happy with expensive gifts from a guy if I can't return his love.. so I would take them along and tell him what you just said.. and put them on a table in front of him.. and tell him why I feel I can't accept them.. It is very possible if you do that that he will take the gifts but you have your dignity and you have your honesty in tact.. you did tell him the truth.. also he may be a bit hurt but better to tell him now instead of accepting gifts from him which he may give you for the wrong reason.. It is of course also possible that he will think you are a great friend and make the ''grand gesture '' and say '' our friendship is worth a lot to me.. love can come and go, a genuine friendship can be for life... I feel we are genuine friends.. so accept the gifts without any bad feelings as gifts of friendship and even if it hurts a bit.. I am glad you told me the truth.. I am glad you have enough respect for me and that I can trust you and that you are honest.. so keep them because I appreciate your character traits.. and your having a consience.. he may say that and then you don't have to feel bad .. if he wants you to keep the gifts anyhow. that depends on the guy... I would offer him them back and leave the final decision up to him.. but I would tell him that I appreciate him a lot and I respect him too much to get the wrong impression.. so I would tell him the truth because in love but also in friendship.. it doesn't amount to much if we are not showing mutual respect and trust and honesty toward each other.. that goes for a good friendship just as much
I sent my ex a birthday gift, he didn't say anything?
We broke up almost a year ago. We were trying really hard to be just friends, but I had feelings and it was hard for me. I wanted to get back together. So we stopped and started talking on and off. After telling him how I still had feelings in August, he hasn't messaged me or anything since then. What I noticed recently was someone visiting my tumblr, who uses the same phone and lives in the same areas that he does. Google Analytics tell me its the same person, and they've been looking at least once a week. I sent him a box with a handmade gift and card to his house. I don't know if he moved or not. But I sent it there anyways. If he didn't receive it, it's not meant to be. I checked the tracking code, and it said it was delivered on Thursday. I didn't get any contact from him. The last time I messaged him was in September. So, it's been a while. While I was driving the other day, the navigation re-routed and navigated me past his work, and the places we've been to. It's been a while since I've passed by. I didn't feel much. Same feeling that I'm having now, after I mailed the gift. I thought I'd be constantly checking and see if he contacted me. But, I know I like to have the feeling of having him there, so I can talk to him and share things with him. Have I changed? will he say something? Or message and say thanks? I do want to give us another try... but I just wish we could actually just talk like normal people...
My boyfriend never buys me any gifts. Is it normal if I feel upset?
It depends on the reasons. If he loves you, then whether he gets you gifts or not shouldn’t really matter. If it’s a sign of lack of feelings, then, of course, it would be a reason to be upset.I can’t know what his reasons are. But, no, in itself, it’s not a reason to get upset. He may not do it because he may feel that what’s between you is awesome and doesn’t require ‘gift giving’ to validate it. He may even not do it because he knows you want it and wants you to appreciate him for himself, just being with him and his affection for you, and not to only like him for what he buys you.I’ve occasionally experienced, as a westerner living in Russia, Russian women who feel you’re only a valid partner if you spend a lot on them, and that just made me want to spend nothing on them, or to even get away from them as quick as possible, because I wanted to be appreciated for myself, and for them to appreciate being with me, not what material things it got them. When I actually feel the person likes me for myself, is just happy to be with me, and doesn’t need anything else from me, then I like to do nice things for them, get them gifts, whatever, but it can never come out of feeling that it’s expected of you. No one likes to feel they have to ‘pay’ to be ‘liked’.
How do I change this sentence into the passive voice - “He may send his servant if he does not come”?
There are two sentences in the question combined to form one sentence. One is conditional,the other one is showing probability.So put both the sentences differently.He may send his servantIf he does not come.First sentence will have a passive,as it contains an object,whereas the second sentence will not have any passive. (No object present there)So put the conditional clause first,then the passive of the first sentence.Answer:- If he does not come,his servant may be sent.{Note: modal in passive voice becomes modal+be+verb3}{Note: putting conditional sentence first will help you removing 'by him' at the end of answer. And it will sound more casual.}
What would you do when someone says they hate Christmas?
So that they dont ruin your Chistmas. Do you think there is any way to change how they feel? What would you do to nudge them gently into enjoying Christmas? It isnt about the money, or the gifts because I have always believed Christmas is about being with good friends, or family, if you have any, great food, and just enjoying yourselves. I have never gone all out for Christmas, not since the kids were very little. What would you buy a man who says he doesnt want anything, doesnt need anything, doesnt think Christmas should be used as an excuse to buy things for people because it just another day. He doesnt mind chowing down on turkey and all the trimming though. No he isnt Jewish, or cheap, he is just a real grinch --
I did not get anything for Christmas this year, I also didnt get anything Last year. Should I be Mad?
I never get a MothersDay gift, I have given him 2 kids, I got him something last year for Christmas. But Got Nothing, I was about to get his gift this year and I opted to get my kids gifts. I told him lets Exchange gifts New Years since we got married this year. ( after 7 years To start a new Tradition) So New YEars Past and NOTHING. WELL he gave me the Money excuse. It is not about money, I dont want a NEW CAR, or even a Detail for my vehicle. I will take a damn Easy BAKE OVEN. I am not picky. But to get nothing is a SLap in the face. He came in and This Monday and Him and some coworkers are taking his boss out to eat for Christmas because He took them out for Christmas last year. It has been posponed several times and now This Friday they are supose to take him out. I Went off. To say the LEast. If He has money to for his boss even split between 8 coworkers then he can get me something. Before U guys Ask, He is not Cheating, He is not GAY, He just sucks, WHAT SHOULD I DO......
Should I be hurt/offended by my husband's "gift"?
I had our second baby four months ago, and I'm the first to admit I still have a tummy - I am never given a break to go to the gym or anything either. Well, today my beloved husband came home with a gift for me - a girdle! He seemed to think I should think it was a wonderful, thoughtful gift, so I acted like it didn't hurt my feelings, but it did! I know it will take some work and a few more months to get rid of the baby tummy, but until then I was just accepting that this is the body of a woman who's had a baby, and he said so too... What am I to think? What do you think?
What should I gift my father?
Dads are such a weird bunch to shop for because they are such dads and say “I don’t want anything.” They walk around with their hands on their hips and survey their property to access where the next project will take place.It’s a challenge to find something that they never knew they wanted before now.I am here today to change all of that. See the list below:Send him a Man Crate of your choosing. Nobody needs a pinata full of beef jerky but they will enjoy it.Shark Bookends because you really want his book collection to impress/intimidate everyone else.The Chamberlain MyQ Garage door opener because what dad doesn’t want to be able to monitor the safety of his tool collection from the comfort of the toilet?Binoculars for when he needs to survey his property from his porch and feel cool about it. Who knows, maybe he will become the next It-Bird watcher that the internet goes crazy for.A drone because every dad is really just a little boy that thinks new toys are SO MUCH FUN. His real-life creeping skills will finally be on par with your mom’s social media creeping skills after you buy him this nifty present.Socks and ties because he already knows you will fall back on this option for lack of creativity so he never buys them for himself.Happy gifting!
Is it wrong to accept gifts from a guy other than your boyfriend when you know that he likes you?
Unless it's your birthday I wouldn't accept those gifts. "Y" is trying to buy your affections, and by keeping those gifts you give him false hope that it may work. You've told him point blank that you have no interest in dating him. Now make it clear by returning his gifts. Thank him, but tell him that they'd be better suited for someone he was in a relationship with.
I bought a gift for my boyfriend to surprise him. However, when I gave him the gift, he didn't accept it and requested that I not buy things for him. I felt bad because I put so much effort into it. Is not talking to him the right thing to do?
There can be many reason.point 1: Men don't like been gifted, that makes them feel like girls. Only confident men will accept the gift.point 2: Thing is gift comes with a baggage. you have to return the gift as well (which should be of the same or more price). so may be he does not have enough many to return the gift.point 3: He does not want to get involved seriously and gift makes him feel that relationship is deep and that scares him.point 4: Just talk to him and ask why he dint like the gift, may be he just does not want you to spend money on him.FYI: whatever it is stop wasting time and being angry, its of no use, just go and talk and sort it out.After all he is a man not a dog,he can talk..you see, he can give the reason better than anybody.All the best girl :)