My parents hate my in-laws--how to deal with future kids?
I need advice on a future dilemma. My mother told me during our last visit that when I have children (hopefully next year), my parents will not be participating in any events that include hubby's family. Hubby's parents aren't the warmest people in the world, but have never been anything but nice to me. My parents feel that when we're in a group setting (like at the wedding) Hubby's parents don't do enough to socialize with them. My parents feel that Hubby's parents should talk more, invite them over for dinner, do more to interact with them. If I want to have Baby's first birthday party at my house, it's fine to include Hubby's family, friends, etc. but they will not be participating. My mother said that I would have to bring Baby to her house, so they can give Baby their own private party. Same for Christmas, etc. I know it's a little early to worry about it, but it's made me realize that this will cause a rift eventually. Growing up, we were never close to my mother's family, and I feel that history is about to repeat itself. Hubby doesn't know about this yet, and hopefully it will work itself out. Am I wrong to think that my mother is being incredibly controlling, not to mention petty? Do you think I'll have to put my foot down and say, it's either our birthday party or nothing? Help!!!
How do I deal with parents who fight all the time? My parents argue over trivial things. Mom has a temper, blames people, and controls everyone. She compares us with others, saying how good they are. Dad is too stubborn to apologize, and has an ego.
There is nothing you can do about your parents' fighting. Believe me. I spent years wondering what I could do.The only thing that you can do is get some space from it. It is not likely that their relationship is going to change unless they decide to change it. It's not up to you or your siblings to change them and trying will just make it all the harder for you to disengage from this very toxic dynamic in your family.It's time to grow more independent of your family and seek more sane and peaceful relationships for your own life. These dynamics have a way of creeping up into your own relationships simply because you have been in the midst of them for years. You need to know that and begin to become as conscious as you can about thinking about and having good communication in your life.Decide how you would like to proceed in creating a different energy in your life from the one that your parents have created. Get some help for this. Over time, you will create your own set of relationships that are based on healthier, more loving values. If that becomes your goal, you will begin to beat the stress and move forward in a new direction. Just don't spend your life getting stuck in their dynamic- unless you want to create such drama in your own life.
How do I stop having such a bad attitude towards my parents?
It's normal for teenagers to get into a bad relationship with their parents. Your bodies changing and your starting to want privacy (something which most parents do not understand lol) They want to know everything and are always sticking their noses is personal stuff, telling you what to do, saying no alot and telling you off. I'm 22 now but was the exact same with my parents, now im older i can see that my parents wern't trying to ruin my life or be mean they were trying to help me and doing it because they loved me. It did get to the point though where i wouldn't have to do anything, but my parents were so used to my bad attitude that they would accuse of of starting a fuss and i geuinely wasn't, this resulted in me acting in the way they expected. i wish that i had sat down with my parents and told them how i feel, and heard how they felt too it would of saved a lot of years of arguing and hurtful things being thrown around. I suggest you say to your parents you would like to talk about your relationship, dedicate a few hours to this and sit in a room and talk. Be prepared to hear critising and negative things said about you and accept them dont get on the defensive or retaliate with hurtful comments, no one needs to shout to be heard. If you are having trouble listening to one another maybe get an object and only the person hold the object can talk at the time. I hope this helps x
How can I get really skinny really quickly without my parents noticing? Please help!?
First of all, DONT STOP EATING! That will only lower your metabolism and make it more difficult to loose weight. Ask yourself: Do I REALLY want to lose weight? Am I willing to do all that is healthy for my body to lose weight? If you're not doing it to get into better physical shape or be healthier there's no reason you should do it at all. Make sure you drink a lot of water, 8 to 10 glasses a day. You can drink green tea too, it helps raise your metabolism which will burn more fat. Use the calculator here http://www.mayoclinic.com/health/calorie-calculator/NU00598 to determine what your daily calorie intake should be. Eat healthy low fat foods, food high in fiber, high-fiber diet tends to make a meal feel larger and linger longer, so you stay full forlonger. And high-fiber diets also tend to be less "energy dense," which means they have fewer calories for the same volume of food. Also eat negative calorie food for snacks, negative calorie foods are those with calories less than your body uses to digest them, like apples and other fruit and veggies. If you do some research and explain to your parents you'd like to eat healthier they should be for it. Also make sure you exercise. 30-60 minutes, 6 times a week is ideal. You can use the calculator below to determine what is a healthy weightloss for yourself. http://www.mayoclinic.com/health/weight-loss/NU00595 By doing it the right way, and the healthy way, you'll be doing yourself a favor in the long run. I suggest you read the links below to get a better understanding of why exercise is so important. http://www.mayoclinic.com/health/aerobic-exercise/EP00002 http://www.mayoclinic.com/health/exercise/HQ01676
Will a vet put a dog down if it isn't on its death bed?
A veterinarian will NOT put a pet down without an owner’s consent or urging. Most veterinarians will not euthanize a pet when there are options for a longer, comfortable life. I assume that you must not have much experience with a veterinarian or else you would not have put forth this query. Veterinarians will recommend diagnostics and treatments based on findings. They will recommend things and eliminate as little as possible when owners say that they are not able to or not willing to pay for their pet’s care. It is very frustrating as a veterinarian when someone wants to destroy an animal they claim to love and don't want to spend any money even trying to find out what's wrong with their pet. We totally understand that when your cat is 19–20 or your dog is 17–18 and you make the decision to end its life or to put it through no more tests or treatments, it's not an easy decision and it's emotionally gut wrenching. We have sympathy and empathy, we know… we understand and we deal with this multiple times per day / week / month. It can be emotionally devastating to a veterinarian to lose a patient we have worked closely with for many years. No veterinarian is u affected by euthanizing an animal. Sometimes we euthanize one to end its suffering, sometimes to prevent its suffering, sometimes some veterinarians will put them to sleep for the owner’s convenience. I am not one of those that will destroy a healthy pet. I could no be a shelter veterinarian as I could not destroy adoptable dogs. It is not the pet’s fault who owns them.So, to more concisely answer your question, that depends on what the owner wants to do with their pet. If the veterinarian feels euthanasia is the most humane or only legal option for the pet, then it is possible they will. Typically this is not the case.Please get your pet the veterinary care it needs. An end of life consult is something you will have to discuss with your pet’s doctor.